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- Date posted
- 29w
- User type
- Therapist
- Date posted
- 28w
Mk3, I wonder if you've noticed a pattern here... when we seek feedback from more than one source when we are in a place of doubt or uncertainty and feel better initially but temporarily because the thought spiral seems to grow, then perhaps OCD is at play. As you seek guidance or clarification from more than one person, sometimes the OCD might have taken control and used this well-intentioned behavior and turned it into a compulsion. By reaching out in this community, welcoming support and feedback, it might be a helpful practice to notice when OCD might be driving the urge to seek reassurance through posting (and posting again). Please know you are always welcome here. We are all doing our best to look out for one another in this community! And yes, of course utilize your good work of ERP therapy to keep building skills and awareness of the OCD cycle! Thanks for reaching out.
djfloriodjflorio
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 29w
I definitely understand the confusion and frustration with this. At some point it's just a matter of trying different things and seeing what works for you first-hand. Try focusing on the advice of one individual (preferably a trained professional who knows you well) and see how it goes for a while. If you notice any improvement at all, then stick with it. If not, then try a different approach. As already mentioned, try not to seek complete certainty here, because you won't get it. You don't need the "perfect" approach, only an approach that helps you trend in the positive direction in the long run.
djfloriodjflorio
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 29w
@Mk3 - Glad to hear it. Yeah I'd stick with what you're doing with that therapist, and take any advice you see in these community forums with a grain of salt, especially if it conflicts with what is currently working for you. Most people on here aren't professionals, and even the professionals don't know you or your specific situation.
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 29w
It’s hard to deal with differing opinions / consultations when you’re someone who suffers from ocd. Cuz OCD wants that 100% certainty and it wants to remove all semblance of doubt. What I would say is maybe try to journal and do a pros and cons list and try as hard as you can to find *your own internal voice* on this subject, as opposed to trying to find a consensus or unanimous opinion from the external world. Sure, you can definitely factor other peoples’ opinions into your own verdict, but the more we just allow other people to *fully* shape our own opinions, then the less credibility we will have internally with our own selves.
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 29w
@Mk3 Yes, as best you can. I can empathize with the fact that this process is probably going to feel really difficult. Cuz every time you hear a brand-new opinion that runs contrary to your own, it’s going to probably be easy for you to have less conviction about your own personal stance on the matter. But just try as best you can to sit with it and maintain your belief. It doesn’t mean ur belief can’t change over time, just make sure that it’s changing on your own terms.
521mullax521mullax
- Date posted
- 28w
Staying off here is a good start
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