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Ever since posting on here I have gotten a ton of different opinions (which I appreciate a ton) BUT I think it has resulted in me spiraling worse. Hearing different opinions on confessing & having mean thoughts is hard. I have a therapist already (ocd specialist) and I trust her so much. I then see other therapists opinions on here and it makes me question mine. I feel like I have tons of different opinions & my head is spinning. How do I handle this. How do I move forward in knowing the right thing to do

User type: Therapist

Date posted: 5d ago

Mk3, I wonder if you've noticed a pattern here... when we seek feedback from more than one source when we are in a place of doubt or uncertainty and feel better initially but temporarily because the thought spiral seems to grow, then perhaps OCD is at play. As you seek guidance or clarification from more than one person, sometimes the OCD might have taken control and used this well-intentioned behavior and turned it into a compulsion. By reaching out in this community, welcoming support and feedback, it might be a helpful practice to notice when OCD might be driving the urge to seek reassurance through posting (and posting again). Please know you are always welcome here. We are all doing our best to look out for one another in this community! And yes, of course utilize your good work of ERP therapy to keep building skills and awareness of the OCD cycle! Thanks for reaching out.

djflorio

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 10d ago

I definitely understand the confusion and frustration with this. At some point it's just a matter of trying different things and seeing what works for you first-hand. Try focusing on the advice of one individual (preferably a trained professional who knows you well) and see how it goes for a while. If you notice any improvement at all, then stick with it. If not, then try a different approach. As already mentioned, try not to seek complete certainty here, because you won't get it. You don't need the "perfect" approach, only an approach that helps you trend in the positive direction in the long run.

Mk3

Date posted: 10d ago

@djflorio I have a trusted therapist who specializes in ocd. I have improved in some areas but not in others. I’m sticking with it because truly who would know better than her to help me with this? Because the other approach would be confessing and I don’t think that’s the right approach ever from what I’ve heard.

djflorio

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 10d ago

@Mk3 - Glad to hear it. Yeah I'd stick with what you're doing with that therapist, and take any advice you see in these community forums with a grain of salt, especially if it conflicts with what is currently working for you. Most people on here aren't professionals, and even the professionals don't know you or your specific situation.

Mk3

Date posted: 10d ago

@djflorio Thank you. I appreciate this!!

Anonymous

Date posted: 10d ago

It’s hard to deal with differing opinions / consultations when you’re someone who suffers from ocd. Cuz OCD wants that 100% certainty and it wants to remove all semblance of doubt. What I would say is maybe try to journal and do a pros and cons list and try as hard as you can to find *your own internal voice* on this subject, as opposed to trying to find a consensus or unanimous opinion from the external world. Sure, you can definitely factor other peoples’ opinions into your own verdict, but the more we just allow other people to *fully* shape our own opinions, then the less credibility we will have internally with our own selves.

Mk3

Date posted: 10d ago

@Anonymous So essentially I need to learn that I can make my own judgement. For example I can decide for myself to follow the advice of the therapist I trust

Anonymous

Date posted: 10d ago

@Mk3 Yes, as best you can. I can empathize with the fact that this process is probably going to feel really difficult. Cuz every time you hear a brand-new opinion that runs contrary to your own, it’s going to probably be easy for you to have less conviction about your own personal stance on the matter. But just try as best you can to sit with it and maintain your belief. It doesn’t mean ur belief can’t change over time, just make sure that it’s changing on your own terms.

Mk3

Date posted: 10d ago

@Anonymous Yes I also think with OCD there kind of is a right way to handle it if you want to recover.

521mullax

Date posted: 5d ago

Staying off here is a good start

Danni2314

Date posted: 25w ago

First time posting !! Schizophrenic OCD. Help.

TW. Also long post ahead . I’ve been dealing with OCD for the past 10 years. I’m 32 years old . I didn’t get diagnosed with OCD until this year. I was always diagnosed with GAD, panic disorder, and depression. I don’t have your typical compulsions. Mine are mostly all mental. Reassurance seeking, avoidance , repeating a prayer , etc . I have three main themes . Schizophrenia OCD, sexual orientation OCD, and HIV. Sometimes i deal with harm OCD and POCD but my main big three are the ones I listed first . I feel like the schizophrenic OCD is the most debilitating for me. For the last ten years I’ve been thinking I’m losing my mind . I thought once I got to a certain age the fear would go away but it hasn’t and is in full force . I’m constantly checking my surroundings, what I’m hearing, how I’m acting , questioning if things are real and so on . Now I do have times where this theme doesn’t bother me . It’s put on the back burner . I go through cycles . But when I’m focusing on this theme I feel like I’m hearing stuff . Most of the time I can’t make it out but recently I feel like I’ve been hearing a whisper saying “hey” . It mainly happens at night . It sends me into a complete panic and I feel like “this is it “ I’m seeing an OCD therapist and she recommended me to go to this psychiatric place in town to get meds to help my anxiety from the OCD. My last psychiatrist always pushed the newest medicine and was constantly changing up my regimen. I thought I would give it a try. WORST IDEA EVER . Keep in mind my therapist gave me a letter to give to her explaining I have been diagnosed with OCD and explaining it . She doesn't think I have OCD at all. She wanted to put me on an antipsychotic so me with my OCD brain . I asked her if she thought I was psychotic . She said I was nearing psychosis . She called me interesting . She feels like I have major depressive disorder . I'm just at a loss for words. It was honestly the strangest meeting I have had with a psychiatrist. It was very unprofessional. She has no idea the damage she has done nor do I think she cares. I just don't know what to Believe in anymore ... We met for approximately 45 minutes . First time ever meeting. I just want to cry and I’m freaking out 😢

Anon56

Date posted: 13w ago

I am confused now, please help

I went to a therapist, I told her about the doubts I was having related to my orientation and the continuous compulsion to check again and again and the thoughts. I told her about my resources -podcasts by Ali Greymond, Chrissie Hodges 's videos, and the books I read to overcome and control myself. She said a couple of things that confused me: 1> Her daughter once asked her "what if she liked girls?" As a mom my therapist said, "Start exploring", and the daughter said naahh. I wonder if the daughter had a thought or was it a chain of intrusive thoughts that plagued her day and night like in my case. 2> She said my sources are right, but I should forget that and not think that I have ocd. 3> She also said if there is any chance I am straight, I should walk on that path- because she has seen lesbians and gays have no feelings for the opposite sex. She said she could see that I was not gay or lesbian in any way. 4> She was interested in my education and masters degrees wasted a lot of time talking about that. 5> She said all these thoughts are causing me anxiety disorders (but I don't have ocd, doc?) 6> She pointed out that being happy and in the present removes these thoughts totally but I am causing myself unnecessary distress. I was doing well before this talk with the therapist now I am triggered a bit. Please share your thoughts.

learningtore...

Date posted: 10w ago

Compulsively on reddit when in a spiral

Is it just me or is reddit and quora the worst things to be on when you’re in a spiral or just in general when you have OCD? Why is it always mostly negative replies on there or just ‘move on, get over it’ ‘break up’, ‘what’s wrong with you?’ responses? I’ve accidentally made it a habit/compulsion to go on there when I’m freaking out about something and it always makes me worse - especially when it comes to ROCD! It always make me doubt my own thoughts and emotions :(

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