the thoughts that have been making me super anxious recently is every-time I’m around someone im happy with my mind is like “they will miss you” or “they will wonder why you did it when your always happy” it’s eating me i hate it. i’m tired of this theme, it’s been on and off for three years. but it makes me more anxious now the it does before. please share tips
Are you working with a therapist on this? That would be my first suggestion, as they will be able to help you face the fears you are having and the struggles with the theme. It will make you more anxious if you try to push it away. As difficult as this may sound, learning to live with the things in our head actually makes our lives easier. If you do need help, feel free to hit the therapist button on the app and our team would be more than happy to reach out to you.
@Patrick McGrath i’m starting therapy soon, just trying to find the right one!!
I've been there. Sending you love <3 It's likely that this theme is still affecting you for years because you're still doing compulsions around it- rumination, maybe reassurance seeking as well. Acting afraid of these thoughts is what's keeping it around. As difficult as it is, you have to cut out the compulsions and pretend as if you like the thoughts- so your brain can see its not a threat. Make fun of the thoughts. Use humor! Then your brain will give you less and less thoughts over time because you become less anxious about them. ERP is key!
@OneDayAtATimee thank you so so much!!!💓
Are you happy? Not the surface stuff, not the social media page stuff, are you happy? Do you have joy? With OCD, the problem is never the problem, OCD keeps us spinning and spiraling on the surface, all while we can never address what is really the issue.
@Someone99 I do i really am a happy person. but yes with OCD it drains me.
@cows12465 It can be draining. I'm also glad to hear you're starting therapy soon. You're a gift to so many people in your world. Always give to others, that's what it's about, not what we gain, what we give.
can someone with this theme help me i’m so scared and i can’t stop having panic attacks is this OCD??? So i always have struggled most with sucicidal ocd and harm ocd. i never really had any other themes. but recently ive struggled with SOOCD. My whole life i have never EVER been into girls ever and i could never even think of ever being with a girl in my entire life. i’m having extreme amounts of anxiety and i have compulsions to make sure i look at a girl and don’t feel anything towards them or anything. My mind is literally going “what if your just in denial” or “what if you’ve just been hiding it all these years” When i know i haven’t. i have all of the symptoms of SOOCD and i still know that im not gay,but these thoughts are extremely distressing and have been the worse to deal with. I’m constantly panicking and doing compulsions to get these thoughts to leave and they won’t. i’m scared and these thoughts are making my mind scared. What if i’m going against my morals and i’m lying to myself like and i just went through a tough breakup too so that is shooting these thoughts and anxiety. Please help omg!!!
im having a unusually hard flare up for two months. ive never had it this bad before (ive had this on and off for many years - thank god not constantly.) lately, i keep having these images in my head and scenarios in my head of me "coming out" in the future and ending my relationship with my amazing fiance who i love dearly. he knows everything but i still feel like i am constantly lying to him, my family, and friends. i need to know that this is something the SO-OCD can do to you? the weird thing is, is that i have never been attracted to woman. i do admire their beauty and wish to LOOK like them or have a specific feature they have, but i dont have any urges to like be with them yet i am dealing with this really bad flare up. My brain keeps telling me that since i have never tried it, i would never know, and i am just getting really distressed from it. i just want to be happy again and it seems impossible. I am convinced i am only person that is using SO-OCD as an excuse. Any guidance or advice, or anything really, will help. i just feel alone and scared and sad all the time.
I’m sharing this bc I need advice or even support from anyone who can relate. If you can’t relate and don’t think you’ll say anything helpful or kind pls don’t comment anything… I’ve been struggling with somethings that’s making me question myself. There has been moments while self pleasuring when I get intrusive thoughts, in those moments it feels like I’m enjoying or even self pleasuring myself bc of the thought. Right after I immediately have an anxiety attack and my HEART drops bc it feels terrible I feel like a disgusting monster :( ppl have told me I haven’t done a bad bc of how intense my guilt and panic are but I keep thinking that MAYBE I made a horrible decision in the moment and the guilt is just realising that it’s just wrong this doesn’t make sense to me because I’ve always told myself that I would never act on this in 1 million years and I’ve been known that these things are wrong so I’m just like constantly questioning myself these feelings and exact same situation has happened two times already I even promised myself that I wouldn’t act on anything beforehand and yeah, I still felt like I did act on my thought during my alone time I’m genuinely convinced that I’m a horrible and it’s even got into the point where I don’t wanna be here anymore and I don’t even think this is my OCD :( tbh
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