Relationship OCD/Relationship Anxiety. Pls help.

I started feeling a certain way in each relationship I’ve been in after a certain amount of time and it feels like it’s something to do with relationship OCD or something like relationship anxiety. I’ve never been diagnosed with any type of disorder and so on but it just fills all the boxes that I’ve noticed and I’m worried that my relationship right now is slowly coming to a halt because of it potentially 💔. I have anxiety when I’m about to be talking to my girlfriend at times or when I have to call her and when she’s over and does certain things and it worries me so much and makes me wonder that is it ROCD or am I just not interested as much anymore? The anxiety definitely plays a role in my emotions too which causes me to not show as much too sadly. Can anyone help with this? I can’t see any therapists on here since my insurance (Ambetter) isn’t covered here

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Date posted: 19w

Hi, I used to have AmBetter You can call them and they’ll give you a list of in network therapists specifically for OCD. Also if you want to just get a diagnosis NOCD offers a free 15 min session. This can help at least know if you have OCD or if this is something else. Good luck!

FiddyK

Date posted: 19w

From my experience, my rocd got worse the more committed and secure I felt in the relationship. The OCD started attacking my relationship because I was allowing myself to be more vulnerable and vulnerability is scary. No one wants to get hurt so sometimes we put up barriers. My rocd was one of these barriers. But now I know better and I do my best to be open and vulnerable thus taking away the fear.

Cdawicki2002

Date posted: 19w

@AnonD That actually makes a lot of sense and thank you for sharing. I have never been diagnosed with it so no one knows I even have it or not and neither do i. It’s ruining my relationship and I can’t even do much with her or talk to her much without being anxious or not being able to show emotion like I was in the first half of the relationship which makes me think I don’t love her anymore or as much as I did before and it worries me.

FiddyK

Date posted: 19w

@Cdawicki2002 You need to let her know you have ocd. Don't tell her every thought you have especiallyif it is based off of her looks. But just her knowing what ocd really is can give her some real clarity and understanding. Try to work with a professional therapist to better know how to disclose more details about what you are going through with your partner.

FiddyK

Date posted: 19w

@AnonD If you can't see a therapist there are plenty of books and work books that can help you and your partner understand ocd and how to work together as a team to beat it.

Cdawicki2002

Date posted: 19w

@AnonD Okay I’ll definitely do that and I’ve told her things before and she’s been very understanding of everything thus far but I won’t go into serious detail until I need to or have to but I’ll show her everything about the ocd subtypes and read em all to her if I can over the phone and maybe something will come of it and no it’s not her looks it’s just how I feel in general. The NOCD team gave me a different list of therapists on another ocd site that I can try to look over.

Cdawicki2002

Date posted: 19w

@AnonD I’ll try that if I have no other option but ofcourse I might need more than just talk therapy for certain things

faye1010

Date posted: 24w

ROCD

Good morning everyone, I need some opinions or help on what people might think is wrong. March 2024 is when I started questioning everything about my relationship for no reason he is everything that I wanted, but my mind is trying to tell me that it isn't April 2024 was probably one of the worst times of my life I stayed home from work because I was constantly crying and totally sick because I didn't know what to do. The thoughts slowly started to not bother me as much. I feel like since it ever started I never have gotten that. Love feeling back for my boyfriend, but I want it back so bad because when I did have it, it was absolutely amazing. I have no desire to kiss him or be intimate with him either which also scares me fast-forward to today. I am waking up with so many doubts in questioning myself. Is this ever gonna go away or am I ever gonna feel that love back for my boyfriend ever again? I feel like I'm wasting his time and my time because it feels never ending. I went to a therapist shortly after starting to deal with this and she didn't really seem to help so now on Wednesday I have a new therapist that specializes in OCD I think does anyone have any advice? Thank you so much in advance.

cmax20

Date posted: 10w

ROCD

for a few days now I’ve been super anxious about my relationship. I’ve been anxious about it before but lately it’s been worse than normal. I’m in a very healthy and loving relationship, I love my boyfriend so much and he treats me so so well. The only thing is that I’ve been having scary thoughts that what if I’m lying to him and don’t actually love him? What if I don’t find him attractive? And like what if the only way to stop being anxious is to break up with him? I don’t want to leave him and I am so scared. I feel like I’m lying to him by not telling him what’s going on because he might think I’m actually going to leave him, which I’m really not going to. I have had anxiety since before we started dating and incestual and sexual ocd, then I got into a point where I started having religious ocd, and now I have ROCD on top of that I think. I’ve never been diagnosed but I’m going to therapy and figuring things out but I’m so scared. Idk what to do and I feel like if I talk to anyone they’re going to say I have to leave him.

Madz!;)

Date posted: 5w

ROCD

If anyone can help.. I’m suffering from ROCD.. I love my partner I do. I cry when I talk to him about this, I cry when he compliments me now, just a constant gut feeling every time I think about him or know I’m going to see him. It’s just, I cry at everything, especially when I’m with him, like I’ll be cuddling him and then I’ll think, “do you love him?” And I panic and I cry/get teary eyed. It’s just the gut feeling won’t go away. Maybe I’m in the wrong relationship? Maybe I’m upset because I’m with the amazing guy and I don’t like him anymore. I don’t know I just got upset writing this.. he is so sweet. He is my first long-term relationship. Like 2 months ago, when this started, everything before this was fine. Like literally we were about to hit our 8 month mark and then the next day he complimented me and I thought “idk if I love you anymore..” I couldn’t eat, sleep, major gut feelings. I cried and had panic attacks. Idk I know this sound pathetic but I want to love him. I don’t know if this is me seriously falling out of love or if this is ROCD. I tried getting a therapist but I can’t afford it because they don’t take my insurance. My bf is aware of EVERYTHING, And he’s been by my side the past two months since this started, but he doesn’t have ocd and doesn’t understand, so if someone could help, I would really appreciate it!!.. I just don’t know what’s going on. I miss how things were before. Quiet and happy. And now it’s just crying, gut feelings, and mess.. hopefully I don’t sound harsh and mean, im just wanting answer in what to do..

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