I have a first date tonight with someone from tinder. We are getting drinks at 8. I think hooking up might be a possibility But I am getting serious cold feet. Super anxious about it. I am afraid I’ll get a panic attack on the date and it will ruin it. Or that I would be sooo fucking awkward on the date that it won’t go well Haven’t been on a date in over a year. What should I do? I can’t reschedule. And I know that it isn’t going I get easier for me if I don’t try. I am literally gagging and dry heaving for past day about it.

Relationship OCD

Esosa

Date posted: 5y

Go on the date. If you reschedule or miss it, then you will beat yourself up over not going. I actually went on a date in June and I felt the same way. The date went okay but he wasn’t interested at the end. Worst comes to worst, she won’t be interested, and that isn’t guaranteed. This will probably be the most cliche advice that I’ll give you but be yourself. As long as you stay true to you, everything else won’t matter. She’ll probably like you more if you’re genuine. Good luck

drnemer

Date posted: 5y

The thing is. I don’t really feel any special way about this person The only reason I am doing this is because I need the practice. I recognize that I need to expose myself. That doesn’t mean I don’t want to embarrass myself. Or at the very least, feel super crappy and anxious about it all time. Or even throw up . I will try to be true to me. My doctor prescribed me Xanax and I have medical marijuana for my ocd and anxiety as well. However, while these definitely help. Especially the Xanax. It can make me “less on my A game” to say the least. I do need it but if you ever taken Xanax, you know that it is tolerance building, makes you sleepy, hard to get aroused, and judgement is kind of skewed My mind is racing. What should I do

Esosa

Date posted: 5y

What you should do first is take your mind off of it (I know, easier said than done). And second off, you said that this date was for practice if I’m correct. I’m not saying to put no effort in whatsoever, but don’t be so hard on yourself for possibly messing up because if you keep doing that, chances are: you will. I haven’t been on Xanax before so I can’t really speak for you on that, but don’t let it get in the way of your night, regardless of the side effects.

drnemer

Date posted: 5y

I think you are right. To be honest I am thinking of ghosting this person. I know that is a horrible thing to do. But I was impulsive when I made these plans. I made two dates. One tonight and one tomorrow. It is too much. I am feeling like I am biting off more than I can chew

Esosa

Date posted: 5y

@drnemer If that’s what you think is best. In my opinion, online dating is pretty impulsive in general. I would say try it out but if you feel like you’re spreading yourself way too thin, then don’t do it.

drnemer

Date posted: 5y

@Esosa I think I am just going to not do tonight. I think impulsivity is good but I need to pace myself. I am soo obsessed over these dating that everything else is now a distraction

rakemitri

Date posted: 5y

Hey how did it go? You feeling a bit better now? Were you yourself during it? You were right, this is about exposing and getting out there. So I hope you went :)

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