Please help! I’m currently visiting my brother in uni but these past couple months I’ve had a fear that I’m inlove with him or have a crush on him or something. It makes me feel sick honestly. He’s always been quite a popular guy. Many people know him and he’s had a lot of girlfriends etc. And because a lot of guys around my area tend to be so similar, he embodies some traits that I would consider my ‘type’ which I hate. Is this evidence????? I keep seeing all this proof that I do. Little things that add up. But then yesterday, I asked myself if I’d have a crush on him if he WASN’T my brother and the fact that my immediate answer wasn’t no scared me. A lot. I keep worrying that the only thing stopping me is the fact that it’s unlawful, and not the fact that it’s just absolutely sick!!! Plus I always feel the need to be cool on his presence, which I do with boys I like. I guess it’s mostly because I want to prove to him that I’m not as wimpy as I used to be (because he used to think I was kinda childish and pathetic) but still. Please please help. I don’t want to like him! I’m so uncertain; I hate this.

Hi ? I had almost the same thoughts but here what I think This is completely your ocd talking ! Of course you don’t have a crush on your brother ! You can find it good looking ! I think my father, my mum and my brother are beautiful ! And this does not mean I am in love with them And I think this is normal too to want to be “the cool sister” in order to have a great brotherhood with him I am sure this is your ocd messing with you! Now in my opinion you should visiting him as usual as an exposure and just ignore your ocd by answering « whatever it is my ocd » or « ok maybe I am you are right »(of course you are not but this way your ocd will maybe shut up lol ) I hope you will feel better soon and don’t forget it seems real but there are just thought, you can choose to believe them or not! Ocd has just a lot of imaginations and attacks what you care the most : maybe it is important for you to be a good sister and ocd tries to make u believe ur not

Him not it lol sorry I am not American

I don't want to give you reassurance because it will just keep the OCD cycle going. Do ERP. Try to avoid doing compulsions

You love and admire your brother, and that is a beautiful thing. I think people naturally look for partners who have the characteristics they love about their family members. It’s not incest to look for those good traits in others. And familial love and admiration is not a crush. What messages work for you to talk back to your ocd? I agree that you should keep visiting him and practice erp.