Feeling hopeful. Pasta days I’ve felt pretty much myself. My attraction to the opposite gender has come back in stages. False attraction to same gender is there but not as near strong as before. It’s like my brain knows it’s OCD. I have been through hell in the past months, really really severe SOOCD. But I see the that this does not define who I am and my values! Keep strong and fight on.
Really appreciate this bud… Mine all started with a knock to my social and sexual confidence and trying to regain my confidence. Totally emasculated me!
@Anonymous No problem at all man. Mine started from a video I saw on Facebook
Amazing! Im still deep in mine, am I able to ask you a few questions?
@Anonymous Ye course you can. Not going to lie, I shouldn’t have come back on here. Triggered me a little but doing alright.
@What is happening to me Ah sorry to hear. You don’t need to answer my questions if it won’t help you. If you are ok, how can I PM you?
@Anonymous I’m more than happy to answer, I know it may be reassurance but sometimes that’s what you need for a little hope. I’m unsure sorry, don’t know how you PM as I came off all social media which helped. If you’re happy enough we can do it over this?
You mentioned your attraction has come back in stages, meaning you lost attraction. Is it because you were over analysing every member of the opposite sex? As I feel that’s what I’m doing.
@Anonymous I think you explained it better than I could. I also think because I was trying so hard to find the attraction, it was going against me. I’m a married man who’s been with my wife for over 14years. I would say it was one of the most difficult parts of this experience. But as soon as I stopped seeking. It slowly came back. It’s still not how it used to be. I was mad over women, it’s crazy but I do feel much better than I did before.
@What is happening to me Ah mate, I’m in the same boat. I’ve been with my wife for over 12 years and have two children. The SO-OCD has had me catastrophizing that it’s all ruined. What helped you? Did you go through CBT or ERP?
@Anonymous Unfortunately I can’t afford or have availability where I live for a therapist but I did watch videos and listen to advice on here. No matter how you feel know it’s not who you are. It’s difficult to believe this trust me I know. But once you start accepting the uncertainty it’ll start to show the real you (as before). You can do it, it’s hard work and OCD will try to trigger you anyway possible for all directions. If you look at my previous stories I’ve put on here, people have commented explaining how to help which has been great for me. If you type my user name in the search bar you will find them all.
I can’t seem to find your username? Out of curiosity I used porn as a compulsion for reassurance. I have since given up porn totally as feel like it was a hinderance. Did you do similar?
@Anonymous Absolutely, use to try to use it as evidence all the time. Another thing I have stopped. I find trying to stop seeking reassurance and compulsions very difficult but also a big step going forward when you can. Start small, like this app. When you want to go on it, give yourself 5mins, then build it up. I didn’t go on here for 2/3 days. Normally I’ll be on every hour at least. Try to keep busy too. Busy mind, it’ll be more difficult to think then (harder done than said) but honestly, I was at the worst end of this.
Oh, what’s your username?
@Anonymous ‘What is happening to me’
for the false attraction, before did it feel like real attraction to you, like it felt so intense and felt so real, as it mimic attraction? like somtimes it will come up in flares too as if i have crushes on specific dudes.
@Anonymous Yes absolutely. Past few days it’s like I knew it wasn’t ’real’ it’s the OCD. But yesterday since I posted on here it came back. I had a rough day yesterday but I would say that’s the OCD trying to get back in. It’s so difficult as you say it feels real but the anxiety, unease and I felt disgusted when it happens tells me it’s not natural. Attraction is supposed to be excitement, enjoyable and just feeling normal.
@What is happening to me Yeah I definitely get the unease and anxiety. Like this very uncomfortable. Not disgusted tho
@Anonymous It absolutely sucks. It’s not an easy fix unfortunately either but in time it does get better. Just keep at it Mo matter how difficult it feels
@What is happening to me Yeah, so how are you suppose to respond in that type of situation?
@Anonymous I’ve been told to just carry on with your life as much as you can. Let the thoughts and feelings come in and try your best not to respond to them. Just let them be there (harder to do than said). I’m having a bit of a spiral at the moment. It’s a constant battle for me, but I know who I was before and I’m trying to get back to that.
hey guys, i’m almost fully healed in my socd journey but what’s stopping me is the false atractions. i get them almost 24/7 at this point and to every thing. they feel real and i hate them they make me feel disgusted. they also make me feel like hot and gross but then i see people saying thats what attractions feel like, but i have felt so much attraction to the opposite gender pre all of this and it felt nice and enjoyable not digustinf. i’m also getting false memory trying to show me ‘signal’ from my childhood to prove i’m gay amd i truly don’t know if they’re real. it’s so degrading and at this point i feel like govining up. pelesse if you have any advice or even if your going through the same thing just let me know. ocd is so terrible
What’s your experience on: Losing opposite gender attraction? And, False attraction to same gender? I have both and I feel like I don’t know who I am. I can’t parent or be a husband due to the mass panic and anxiety. Just wanted to know if anyone has had both and regained theirself?
How can you tell if it’s SOOCD, being in denial or sexual orientation fluid change? I really really hope it’s just SOOCD but I suffer so much from the loss of attraction to opposite gender and severe‘false’ attraction to same gender. It makes me feel sick and want to cry every time I have false attractions. I find it so difficult I feel my entire life has flipped and been destroyed.
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