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has anyone experienced this or have any advice on what to do. okay so my senior prom is today and i’m in a long distance relationship so im going alone with friends and there’s an after party at someone’s house and it’s just your basic high school party with drinking and everything and ive never been to one but i wanna go with my female friends (im also a girl btw) but i have an rocd fear of cheating or something if i go. ive only ever gotten drunk once and all i was thinking abt was my boyfriend so i don’t understand the cheating “because you were drunk” thing. if i go to this party i do wanna drink a little but im just scared cause im overthinking that something will happen even though i would never do that. i haven’t asked my boyfriend about it yet as he’s at work but i am just not sure what to do.

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Furman2013

Date posted: 13w

The real question is about being safe overall. Teenage fun is what it is, but comes with its own risks naturally. I haven’t been in your situation specifically, my spiritual path is one where I don’t consume alcohol and never have. I highly recommend it. My OCD distorted my world view as a teenager though. It drove me to perfectionism in other parts of life that had minor “benefits” but kept my soul locked down. Twenty years later I can honestly tell you the difficult truth that is hard to see or accept for most of your peers at your point in life. High school friendships and social pressures mean absolutely nothing down the road, and those who can never leave that part of their lives behind are truly pathetic. Most do though. You can develop good and healthy things at this point. Truly healthy friendships with people that care for you and you care for them (without compulsions in the driver seat.) Setting yourself up with the best advantages you personally can accomplish for your happiness and productivity/prosperity in the future. And doing things that will help you be mentally and emotionally strong and healthy. Be glad for who you are and never let that be the minimum of who you will be or want to become. Look to your parents/caretakers for guidance, most have someone guiding them in their lives that genuinely care about them. I would bet you do too. They may not “get” you but they do want you to be happy. So if you want to prove yourself mature you have to understand that some of the best advice you can get is from them. You can’t be a reasonable or healthy adult without being able to consider carefully their advice as you build your life, which is going to be 3 or 4 times longer than what you have lived so far, and 7 to 10 times times longer than when you BEGAN to be reasonably logical. The point is your future can be greatly enhanced by striving to be wise now. There is a lot of fun and good you can welcome into your life now. OCD is one of the biggest challenges for you. Please do what you can to learn to put it in its place so you get to catch more of the precious lessons of life early on that will bless you for the long and wonderful path ahead.

zoovy

Date posted: 24w

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i have a very strong fear of cheating on my partner due to past experiences in my relationship and so i was scrolling through old messages and i saw i was texting another girl i used to play video games and i also tried to get together with and in this conversation we had talked about how i had got a girlfriend and then we played some games but the messages just seem flirty and i guess i just feel guilty or like what if i cheated and didn’t remember or were my intentions at the time to be flirty does anyone have any advice on how to deal with this?

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Mariabae

Date posted: 18w

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Lately, I’ve been feeling extremely confused and guilty. My boyfriend has been really busy with exams, and we haven’t talked much this past week. I don’t really feel like I miss him, and that scares me. It makes me think maybe I don’t love him anymore, maybe I’ve changed, and maybe this relationship doesn’t feel right for me anymore. A few days ago, a friend invited me to go to a club with her and another girl. I know that if I went without my boyfriend, he would feel bad — not because he’s controlling, but because in our relationship, we’ve always had mutual boundaries and respect. I decided not to go, but ever since, I’ve been spiraling. My thoughts keep going: “What if I didn’t go just because of him?”, “What if I actually wanted to go, but I stopped myself because I don’t really love him?”, “What if I’m holding myself back and this relationship is limiting me?” All of this makes me think I’m bored, that I don’t like him anymore, or that I’m staying out of habit. It’s hard to tell what I really want or whether these thoughts are part of ROCD or some deeper truth. I keep wondering if I’m just attached to him because he’s my first boyfriend and we’ve been together for so long. Sometimes I even think I wouldn’t care if we broke up, and that I don’t feel anything for him anymore — and that absolutely destroys me, because he’s such a good person who truly loves me. He doesn’t deserve to be treated with so much doubt and coldness. I feel miserable. I don’t know what’s real and what’s just obsession. It hurts that I can’t feel any clarity or peace. I just want to know if this is ROCD or if I’m in denial and refusing to accept the truth

niu

Date posted: 11w

ROCD on vacation. Tips?

So me and my boyfriend are going on our first short trip together and as an avoidant person who tends to be very anxious about being seen in a relationship and being in a relationship in general, it could become a very triggering experience. I have had previous OCD themes but the last few years have been very latched to the topics HOCD and ROCD. I just know that spending so much time together could lead to intrusive thoughts about him and our relationship and result in micromanaging and being irritated. Anyone tips on how to enjoy this and not put too much pressure on myself ?

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