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- Sophie7007
- Date posted
- 6y ago
You should get a second opinion. Therapists make mistakes, they’re human. But another therapist could give you another opinion and confirm that you do have ocd
Good thing she let this belief of hers slip in the first session. RUN AWAY now! This lady is NOT an OCD specialist. Psychoanalysis (aka Freud) is NOT effective for OCD. This theory assumes all intrusive thoughts have significant meaning— they most certainly do not! Find someone on the IOCDF website or who at least believes in strict CBt
Is she an OCD specialist? I’ve heard that a lot of therapists aren’t educated enough in OCD and don’t know how to properly diagnose it. Maybe she’s not educated in it enough
And at the end of the day, I know it’s hard. But trust yourself. Your thoughts aren’t desires. They’re just intrusive thoughts
It's biological and in my opinion trying to "relate" to your OCD is a total waste of time. Analyzing the "theme" means nothing- themes change all the time for people. Saying the OCD stems from some repression or something doesn't really help and in like your exact case it's just making you question yourself further causing more distress. Yes - run for the hills away from this lady - she's not the therapist for someone with OCD - she doesn't understand this illness at all imho.
You have compulsions right?
It sounds like she is from a psychodynamic background. Is she a psychoanalyst? Therapists with a psychodynamic background do not offer CBT. Why did u stop from your first therapist?
Thank you! I do think I need to find someone else - but now I think If i don’t have OCD hen I’d be wasting their time. It’s a never ending cycle ain’t it guys
If she isn’t familiar she’s gunna play talk therapy and try to work through your themes... your themes are not the problem... it’s the thoughts and there need to create a disconnect between your identity of sense of self and that of your intrusive thoughts... really powerful YouTube video called “Pure O” and At the end it talks about different therapy techniques, I think it’s worth a watch. (Not saying you have pure O, but that you may have compulsions too, but treatment is the same).
Yeah I do - and urges. And she said she specialises in OCD but then said she doesn’t offer CBT as she doesn’t think it is effective for OCD. I’m honestly so confused and am now worrying my thoughts are desires :(
Yeah good plan. I’m just worrying now that I’m not reacting to my thoughts/urges (not becoming sad by them) which means I want to do them. I just don’t understand what else intrusive thoughts could mean if not OCD or that I am a bad person? And I moved away and she didn’t specialise in OCD - she was more of a counsellor who kind of suggested I have it and that I find a specialist.
Like honestly it’s horrible now because I think I want to do the thoughts but hate the fact that I think I want to. Sorry for this guys
People do have intrusive thoughts without having ocd. The ocd portion is more worrying resulting from the intrusive thoughts and compulsions to stop the worrying. So having intrusive thoughts without being ocd is not a sign of you being a bag person. But ya see a specialist and they’ll help more :) and bad people don’t worry about being a bad person so you’re definitely not
Hmmm that’s weird she would say that... second opinion... also if she’s an ocd specialist then she should be offering cbt, ert, etc.. I would recommend contacting someone else who is highly specialized, which can be hard to find but probably worth it...
Starting out this morning with rushing thoughts at 8am, went to see my therapist at 11, everything was okay, and that I can label these things as OCD, but it’s still difficult, especially right now at work. And then, before work, my girlfriend and I were having lunch, and I could just see that I’m a complete mess. She has to deal with my shit, and yes we do want a future together, but now I realize since I suppose I was diagnosed with OCD today, she seemed disappointed and she said she was scared about if I do get over this theme, what would be my next one. I just felt miserable because she was irritated that I don’t say much anymore, because my thoughts are just constantly there and I’m just tired of all this.
My therapist who isn’t familiar with all the types of OCD said that there’s something wrong with me and that this isn’t ocd. He said ocd shouldn’t tell you to do things like hurt people. I’m scared.
Anyone wanna help me with a little fact-checking? I had a horrible appointment with my family doctor today. She basically told me that my anxiety around my relationship and sex was not OCD, but a cry for help because I’m not in the right relationship. She said these things to me AFTER telling me she doesn’t know much about OCD and AFTER I told her I loved my fiancé and did not want to leave him. She pressured me to leave him to “find myself.” Honestly, she sounded like OCD personified. She also said that OCD is not an external force working against me, but a manifestation of thoughts and feelings I already have. Basically she said OCD is a way for me to express what I’m scared of feeling and that it’s a way to help me realize what I really feel. She said OCD doesn’t work against me from an external perspective, that it doesn’t “happen” to me and affect the way I feel and respond, but that it just brings those things to light. She said all that to say that my anxiety about my relationship with my fiancé and anxiety around my sexual orientation isn’t OCD, just anxiety because I’m in the wrong relationship and need to leave him. Any thoughts? The conversation truly sent me spiraling, and I will not be going back to her.
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