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I am definitely not convinced this is a very healthy approach, but I have this same problem - even at the age of 32 I get sick to my stomach over one clumsy wrong thing I uttered when I was 17, plus another half dozen events from the time between then and now - and the only thing I can really do is try to remind myself that although I am atrocious and shameful and unforgivable and inexcusable for these clumsy moments that were small and I learned from and would obviously never repeat, most people are way worse. I'm bad, but I'm not malicious. I'm a fuckup, but I'm not violent. I don't go out with the intention of hurting anyone. I put others ahead of myself. I hate to see any being suffering. So even though these (extremely minor but completely impossible-to-get-over) things mean I am a piece of shit and don't deserve any friends or any care at all, at least I am not a murderer. I understand how this is still indulging in the compulsion, but i am down with harm reduction; if knowing I'm a piece of shit but most people are way worse because they're INTENTIONALLY pieces of shit, that makes it easier for me to live with myself. I haven't found the ACTUAL solution yet, but that's my in-between step that SOMETIMES allows me to stop hyperventilating and ultimately get to sleep. At least I'm not INTENTIONALLY awful. That's my small silver lining.
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my therapist suggested i try talking to myself like i would to a friend. i’m not very good at it, but it can help reframe a little. it’s hard to be kind to yourself
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yeah, i understand, i try to do that and it’s hard for me too. i get in this weird mindset of like, yeah you would forgive your friend but still think they’re a “flawed” person. idk if that’s just because my brain knows i’m treating that “friend” as myself or if i would actually feel that way. i feel like i don’t know anything for sure anymore lol
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Just do the good things (exercise, cleaning,productive things) anyway while feeling bad.
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I am in the same boat. But my doctor always says “when are you going to let yourself off the hook?” You have to at some point and it make take time until you can accept it. Sometimes it may feel like you’ll never accept the mistake you made. But just know that there are a lot of people who feel the same
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