Hey everyone. I wanted to share my story and some of the things I have/am experiencing in my journey with OCD- particularly with Sexual Orientation OCD. My goal is not to use this as a means for reassurance for myself or for any other, rather as to be a reminder for myself and you all that you are NOT alone. No matter what you are experiencing you arenāt alone, and we have all gone through the same thoughts and feelings as you, in whatever form they may have been.
For personal reasons I will not share my name, but I do want to share about me and my journey with what has truly been one of the hardest things Iāve ever experienced. I am a 24 year old female and for as long as Iāve remembered Iāve always been a āworrierā. My dad used to tell me that worrying will be the fastest way Iād die lol. Oh! How I wish I could go back to those days of just simply worry. For the past few years I have struggled with what I now know is intrusive thoughts. But, luckily for me they were a little calmer than what Iāve experienced now. They were the occasional worrying that my boyfriend died but I would get over it rather quickly. Well, in may of 2024, I had just graduated college, was about to get married and about to move out. So, that triggered some switch in my brain and thus began this horrible disease of OCD. My main type has been SO-OCD but I have found some moments that Iāve also struggled with ROCD as well as some existential crisis OCD. I have unfortunately not been able to go to therapy because of money but I am on meds and have been using tips and tricks Iāve found online. My goal is to still go to therapy when I can find the right time. And I, like many of you have months of great āfreedomā from the disease; and then, like I find myself now, fall back into its trap.
I wanted to share some of the things Iāve experienced with this to see if yāall have experienced the same things and to let you know you are not alone. For reference, I am straight (I am happily married to my wonderful husband).
1. Thoughts from the past: I slightly remember having a thought that Iād be gay when I was around 12-13ā¦ that was around the time I actually first figured out what that meant. Even then, I (more easily than now) brushed it off. Continued to have about a million crushes on boys and never thought of it again. But now, with my OCD, I feel āconvincedā that that was a sign that I was gay.
2. I have always been a girls girl. Me and my friend have a joke that we are worse than men! Meaning that when we see a pretty girl with a nice body, we stare. We say they are pretty. Never have I ever thought anything of it. It was always from a place of envy and admiration. Never a place of lust or anything along those lines. But NOW. OH! If I even look that direction I feel guilty, I feel like thatās confirmation that I am gay. And even worse- that is one of my compulsions. To look and make myself āproveā Iām not gay.
3. I have lost āfeelingā for my partner. I love my husband. More than anything else. I could not live without him. But since this all happened, my emotions and fears have been all over the place that Iāve somewhat lost that feeling. It doesnāt help that Iām on medicine that can have that effect. I have to just remind myself that love isnāt always feelings, itās a choice. And I choose him every single day.
4. sex life issues: bc/ of the OCD fear as well as my medication, I donāt have much sex drive or pleasure in the bedroom as I did before OCDā¦ and, my OCD likes to convince me that that is because I would be better off with a woman (even tho I donāt want that) and then, OH THEN, I proceed to experience some groinal sensation from that though. So- cue even more āproofā that I am gay.
well- thatās all I can think of now. Let me know if any one yall struggle with those. And I hope you know, YOU ARE NOT ALONE. YOU ARE NOT YOUR THOUGHTS. YOU ARE NOT YOUR OCD š
