I’m trying to sit w idk if it’s unethical and a sin to let a third party tell me why someone else got a divorce and my brain keeps telling me it is a sin so I’m having a hard time going w idk.
Hi #happiness, I don't know if it helps you but it did to me as I was taught everything was a sin including being happy or sad or neutral. I made it simple where if it's not on the 10 commandments then it's not a sin. Even if it's something like lying well I can become honest when I become aware and sure such as they approach me to point it out "what is they had an issue with" without relying on "what if" to figure out the truth. Similar to why people lie about Santa differently yet eventually tell the truth and still forgiven rather than prevent sins. It is an unwritten rule it's ill advised to get or give context about a situation they are not involved in or only their side of the story. That's why is hard to rely on only witness statements as the brain similar to OCD where details are changed because of emotions, not because of facts, desire, or overthinking will come to the truth. Thus it goes back to conclude to "I don't know, maybe, maybe not." Try other response prevention quotes as well to see if those resonate closer to you.
@Anonymous My dad said it’s not a sin but he’s not god so he doesn’t know. So do I still go w idk?
@#happiness Yes. The human mind can try to dismiss or incorporate "it was or was not God thus I can do this" no matter the world or God tell the person clear directions. That's why OCD needs to learn to sit with I don't know because it's a human nervous system that needs to process the feelings, not thoughts or truth. OCD is not God either that's why engaging with it doesn't work. Even without OCD I've seen people stick their hand in machines despite training and multiple signs saying "do not stick hands in, will result in jury" because the compulsion was "what if?" Sometimes they even do it twice despite getting injured as if they will get a different result or conquer that what if. So you can go "maybe, I don't know" and the nervous system may even peak to feel more uncomfortable until it doesn't. It's a weird way the body simulate the thoughts of sin without thinking or doing more that it will eventually learn it's lesson. It can take minutes to months to feel better. Similar to a child learning the alphabet in a different language, it takes several tries with the alphabet exposure rather than having tests if they are getting it right for it to click.
@Anonymous So we really don’t know is what you’re telling me. OCD wants me to believe that we do know.
@#happiness OCD insists we do know or must find out and could find out. Making it get bored helps it stop being curious or insistent like they are a bad back seat driver talking about sins with no degree, with no God, with no care that you got to focus driving. Eventually even noisy frantic things will stop arguing if there is no argument with "i don't know"
@Anonymous So there is no answer to my question? I go with idk
@#happiness I said yes in the first response. You always have other responses you can use as well. It's up to you. Otherwise it's engaging with sneaky OCD to keep looking in others for reassurance rather than actually doing the work and finding out for yourself. The reassurance will never make you do the work or see difference, you have to do it.
@Anonymous Now ocd has flipped it around to Now idk if it’s a sin to tell somebody what you heard if you tell them you don’t know if it’s true is a sin or telling someone the truth if you know it is a sin. Idk if that’s considered gossip. Still go with idk?
Yes, good come back. That's why even if you or other take action or no action on a concern, nothing bad or good is consistent because humans always change the results anyways.
I have been constantly ruminating about if God wants me to be with my boyfriend. I am so hyper fixated on Gods will for my life that I often overthink every move. I have constant “what if” thoughts or “if God wanted him in your life you wouldn’t be having these thoughts”. I can’t differentiate Gods voice with my thoughts. What if this is God speaking? I also keep seeing TikToks that say if God wanted this person in your life they wouldn’t do blah blah blah. I am just not sure what to think anymore. I want to be with my boyfriend and he wants to be with me. However, as of lately we have been having some issues because we show our love differently. Then I see these TikToks saying that the right person will love you the way you need to be loved naturally, nothing will ever need to be forced, rhat I’m forcing a rib into the wrong man, etc. and then I’m like is this God talking through these videos saying I shouldn’t be with my boyfriend? I am not sure what to think. I just feel like my mind is in a constant spiral and I get so confused.
What if I didn’t repent for something that I’ve been thinking abt but don’t know if it’s a sin like should I repent for it anyway I have this interaction that keeps spiraling through my mind and idk if I should text the person about it or just leave it
It’s so hard sometimes to differentiate between a genuine need and a compulsion. I’ve been feeling insecure in my relationship and I just want to keep asking for attention, I’ve been doing a lot of mental review and checking compulsions and prompting to see if he “still cares,” but I know it is coming from a place of wanting more verbal affection. I’m sitting with this instead of talking to him about it right now but I also want to be able to communicate how I’m actually feeling. I don’t know, it’s just Blegh and I want someone to tell me what to do but I know that’s not good for me.
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