I’m trying to sit w idk if it’s unethical and a sin to let a third party tell me why someone else got a divorce and my brain keeps telling me it is a sin so I’m having a hard time going w idk.
Hi #happiness, I don't know if it helps you but it did to me as I was taught everything was a sin including being happy or sad or neutral. I made it simple where if it's not on the 10 commandments then it's not a sin. Even if it's something like lying well I can become honest when I become aware and sure such as they approach me to point it out "what is they had an issue with" without relying on "what if" to figure out the truth. Similar to why people lie about Santa differently yet eventually tell the truth and still forgiven rather than prevent sins. It is an unwritten rule it's ill advised to get or give context about a situation they are not involved in or only their side of the story. That's why is hard to rely on only witness statements as the brain similar to OCD where details are changed because of emotions, not because of facts, desire, or overthinking will come to the truth. Thus it goes back to conclude to "I don't know, maybe, maybe not." Try other response prevention quotes as well to see if those resonate closer to you.
@Anonymous My dad said it’s not a sin but he’s not god so he doesn’t know. So do I still go w idk?
@#happiness Yes. The human mind can try to dismiss or incorporate "it was or was not God thus I can do this" no matter the world or God tell the person clear directions. That's why OCD needs to learn to sit with I don't know because it's a human nervous system that needs to process the feelings, not thoughts or truth. OCD is not God either that's why engaging with it doesn't work. Even without OCD I've seen people stick their hand in machines despite training and multiple signs saying "do not stick hands in, will result in jury" because the compulsion was "what if?" Sometimes they even do it twice despite getting injured as if they will get a different result or conquer that what if. So you can go "maybe, I don't know" and the nervous system may even peak to feel more uncomfortable until it doesn't. It's a weird way the body simulate the thoughts of sin without thinking or doing more that it will eventually learn it's lesson. It can take minutes to months to feel better. Similar to a child learning the alphabet in a different language, it takes several tries with the alphabet exposure rather than having tests if they are getting it right for it to click.
@Anonymous So we really don’t know is what you’re telling me. OCD wants me to believe that we do know.
@#happiness OCD insists we do know or must find out and could find out. Making it get bored helps it stop being curious or insistent like they are a bad back seat driver talking about sins with no degree, with no God, with no care that you got to focus driving. Eventually even noisy frantic things will stop arguing if there is no argument with "i don't know"
@Anonymous So there is no answer to my question? I go with idk
@#happiness I said yes in the first response. You always have other responses you can use as well. It's up to you. Otherwise it's engaging with sneaky OCD to keep looking in others for reassurance rather than actually doing the work and finding out for yourself. The reassurance will never make you do the work or see difference, you have to do it.
@Anonymous Now ocd has flipped it around to Now idk if it’s a sin to tell somebody what you heard if you tell them you don’t know if it’s true is a sin or telling someone the truth if you know it is a sin. Idk if that’s considered gossip. Still go with idk?
Yes, good come back. That's why even if you or other take action or no action on a concern, nothing bad or good is consistent because humans always change the results anyways.
I been going to church looking for answers about my false memories if they are even false and overall ocd. Everything that I'm learning about ocd ultimately I get told that it's due to sin and that's why I feel overwhelmed and have the urge to confess on things idk if they are real or not. I just dont know whats my truth my mind Is saying one thing but I need a lot of confirmation if what im thinking its true thats why i been seeking confirmation going to church. Would appreciate a response or if anyone is going through this 🙏
I hit the SOS, and I’m just scared. If I sit with the uncertainty, then I could honestly sit here all day crying. I just can’t accept I’m not a bad person and ruined my relationship, no matter how much grace I give myself. What makes me feel better is knowing that I’m not a bad person, and trying to rationalize my mistakes - understanding everyone makes them. But then it feels like i can’t validate my good feelings because it’s “bad” and I should just accept I COULD be a bad person. It honestly sends me into a full panic. Please help!!!!!!
Hi bear with me I don’t know how long this is going to be (coming back after writing it way longer than I expected I just needed to get this out) but I’ve beenn struggling with this. So basically me and my ex let’s call him Gus just started talking and hanging out again cuddling kissing yk and he broke up with me because he had feelings for another girl but I’m actually really glad we didn’t work out the first time I wasn’t ready for a relationship. my relationship with God wasn’t where I wanted it to be. He is also a Christian so I kept telling myself it would be good which maybe it would’ve been but I still should’ve haven it time but I still rushed into it. We had been friends for like 4 years before tho so it felt natural. I felt good when we broke up it hurt and I missed him. Fast forward 5 months and we hangout again for the first time we cuddle and he kissed me. he’s still confused about what he wants he says he doesn’t want to hurt me again and doesn’t want it to end like last time also doesn’t know if we should keep acting the way we have been as just friends. I was really mad at myself at first I had 5 whole months to get back to where I wanted to be with God but I didn’t and I just kept going back and trying to redo it in my head which is what happened the first time and is why I think I felt stuck for so long. I kept thinking only if it was good the first time and only if I blah blah blah just going in circles you guys know the drill. Now it’s gotten better I’ve forgiven myself because I know God has too and I just have been spiraling. first I convinced my self I should go no contact for two weeks but I realized that was me trying to go back and control the past which is not my call I’ve been feeling a lot better about giving the whole thing to God and not stressing about the past or future just trying to live in the present but every time I think of completely letting that feeling that this isn’t gonna work or that I’m ignoring God go I get stressed again. I’m scared that He is trying to tell me to get out before it goes wrong again but I’m not listening I’m just scared I’m having false peace because I’m getting what I want if it’s ok to figure things out with Gus. On the other hand sometimes God gives us things we want when we finally learn to let it go and I have I’m ok with being alone romantically it’s not a need but I do desire it and I know God puts desires in our heart according to His will. The break up and the whole situation taught me so many things that I need to learn and how to really just let it go and give it to God. I keep trying to picture both scenarios in my head 1 us not together me just growing in God alone and not worrying about Gus and letting him go and 2 us being together and me being happy which him while not feeling like I’m not listening to God and just be at peace. I’m trying to stop imagining them it’s taking to much out of me my brain is exhausting but I can’t helps but feel like I’m ignoring God. Like I know I shouldn’t worry about the future but what if God is trying to tell me something and then I go to what if Jesus comes back tomorrow and I’m still pursuing Gus even if I don’t know what that means but I really am ignoring God and I don’t get to go with Him to heaven. I feel so safe with Gus the ocd never bothers me when I’m with him I let him touch my face and be on me and it’s so relieving to have that I trust him so much and i really don’t trust people that way. I fell asleep on him and ifkyk id let him bring me food and I’d eat it I just feel so comfortable with him I can talk to him about anything and we’re doing a plan on the Bible app together and he has helped me grow in my faith which feels wrong for some reason too like talking to him did. He just feels so safe and that’s really rare for me which I think should mean something right? I don’t know if it’s conviction or condemnation or just the ocd it would be so easy to blame it on the 2nd two but that feels wrong. Sorry this got so long thank you if you stuck around for the whole thing I really appreciate it.💗
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