JBird88

Date posted: 5y

I freaking hate my boyfriend’s personality. I’ve been with him for 3 years almost and we are very similar in personality . But he has very bad anger issues. He doesn’t hurt me physically. But he’s 17 years older ( I’m 24 ) and his comments and frustration gets to him a lot lately. He is impatient and yells. And he gets upset for the STUPIDEST things. I’ve TRIED to tell him to please work on himself. He said he doesn’t want to be this way but like ... I know it’s going to take ALOT OF time for him to get better. He’s the first guy to accept me for who I am. And my first serious serious relationship . BUT he’s driving me NUTS. What should I do guys? Any advice?

Relationship OCD

Inferno

Date posted: 5y

I’m speaking to as if you were my friend, if he was my bf and he has anger issues that would be a red flag cause I can’t see myself marrying that guy. But if you could go back in time before this shit happened I’ve would’ve suggest you to work on yourself and make you you are mentally healthy before getting into a relationship. I don’t think he is the right guy, because if he was the right guy you’ll be comfortable with him and not be here asking what you should do with him. I’ve never been in a relationship, and I don’t know how people even get into abusive relationship when no one has ever like be before. Just take my advice as a watch out

JBird88

Date posted: 5y

Well I’m not uncomfortable or scared of him. I’m just disappointed and annoyed that it happens

Inferno

Date posted: 5y

Can I ask you? How do ppl get into a abusive relationship when no one even likes me tf...

JBird88

Date posted: 5y

I understand where you are coming from but it’s just so annoying

Inferno

Date posted: 5y

What’s annoying?

JBird88

Date posted: 5y

That he gets that way. It’s just dumb

Inferno

Date posted: 5y

I suggest you move on or look up a yt video

JBird88

Date posted: 5y

@Peridottttt A YT video on what?

Inferno

Date posted: 5y

@JBird88 On how to look up signs if he’s the one? Or how to save a relationship

JBird88

Date posted: 5y

@leahfaith Well last night we had a fight and he said he hates being angry so I said we need to work on that and he was like “okay”

JBird88

Date posted: 5y

@leahfaith I think he was being serious. Its hard to tell with him. I mean he used to be way worse the first year. But he tells me that he feels better and better each time since he’s been with me. And that he’s changing his diet and trying to workout. And he encourages me to exercise and go to therapy too

JBird88

Date posted: 5y

@JBird88 But like I’m still watching him to see if he will live up to what he says

Inferno

Date posted: 5y

@JBird88 Yeha

JBird88

Date posted: 5y

Sooo idk man we will see. I just love him. And this frustrates me a lot. Cause I can’t have him affecting my horrible anxiety

Inferno

Date posted: 5y

I suggest talking to a therapist

JBird88

Date posted: 5y

Yea I’m hoping somewhere down he would want to attend therapy with me or something

Inferno

Date posted: 5y

Uhh you should do therapy yourself or let him do it by himself maybe you need to work on yourself......

JBird88

Date posted: 5y

Yea I know that. I’ve been doing therapy on and off for years. I’m actually quite fine with my own company and I’m not desperate to have someone in my life. He’s just the first one that I can see eye to eye on things and we actually don’t fight as much as my past relationships

Inferno

Date posted: 5y

Ok betttt

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