So me and my boyfriend of 5 months broke up and I'm very sad about it, but I'm trying to move on. But it seems like nobody wants me. They either ghost me or we hangout once THAN ghost me. I need someone to date.
It will happen in time!! Don't worry!!! In the meantime, you can enjoy your free time. If people are missing out on you, that's their fault!!
Thank youuuu!!!
I'm so sorry to hear about your breakup :( That must be rough. One piece of advice would be to heal and love yourself first. You wrote "I NEED someone to date", but you should never rely on a man's love as your source of happiness. You should just WANT his love. Maybe there's a deeper issue here. Maybe something is lacking on the inside for you? Maybe the root problem is that you need confidence and security on your own so you don't rush or depend on a lover for happiness. Because a man unfortunately won't always be there and he can let you down (ghosting, breakups, etc.). But you'll always be there for yourself <3 Self-love has to come first before a man, always. That way, you'll be better equipped to handle whatever disappointment or loneliness comes your way
Thank you so much for the help!
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I'll take your word!
I have had multiple experiences where I was too clingy or literally cried when someone i have known for 3 days stops talking to me. I have fixated on the idea that I am never going to be in a happy relationship so anytime someone is nice to me I hold my breath hoping we will fall in love and get married, even if don't know eachother. I find myself over looking qualities that I usually would not like and constantly seeking their validation.
It sucks because wanting to have a lover is a natural human desire and I'm afraid that my OCD about being alone forever will make it true. I'm a weird person, I'm autistic and I have odd kinks, so the idea that no one will ever love me just keeps coming back I'm trying to tell myself that I deserve a relationship and my kinks make my uniquely fun and loveable to the right people so I'm just going to keep repeating that and hope it comes true. I also made myself a Valentine... So there's that. I'm doing my best Hope you have a great day
I met my boyfriend unexpectedly. Obviously you don’t become boyfriend and girlfriend the day you meet . It takes time to get to know eachother and then you become that . But before I met him I had a little fling with someone & I continued to still talk to him and hangout with him until me and my boyfriend now got serious . Is that wrong ? Am I a cheater ? I cut off the other guy like a week into me and the new boyfriend getting to know eachother . But even when I cut the guy off my boyfriend was still out here flirting and hanging with other girls until we became serious . Which I don’t care about anymore . But does that make me a cheater ?
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