Inferno
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There’s hopeThere’s hope
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It only makes sense because of OCD! I promise, what you’re describing is 100% OCD. You’ve never pictured your life with a woman or had feelings for one. When I was in the closet I had feelings for women, often. I pictured my life with them. I really, really, did. And when I came out it was this moment of “wow, this makes so much sense!” If you’re sexually and romantically attracted to your boyfriend. If you love him and don’t want to lose him. Then I promise you, you are not a lesbian. I am extremely close to so many lesbians and we’ve talked in depth about their experiences and they’ve never loved or been sexually attracted to men. This sounds very much like OCD. And like I said, I’ve experienced both. Being queer feels absolutely relieving and right. If you’re worried, or think you’ll lose him, I’m willing to guarantee you have nothing to worry about, girl! This sounds nothing like the queer experience and everything like ocd lies!
Ridethewave Ridethewave
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Thank you so much, I'm trying to even figure out if I'm bisexual or not during this time because it all just feels so damn real its genuinely made me question myself. I honestly wouldn't mind being bisexual, it's just of course OCD has to tell me to adopt a full blown lesbian lifestyle. I'm happy youve found a comfort in who you are btw❤️❤️
lifeofmlifeofm
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I appreciate you taking the time to talk about this!!❤️ it’s complex for me because I have HOCD (at least I think) and I’ve had sexual attraction to men, but really only have felt those feelings in my mind and when I would actually have an encounter in real life, I would feel kind of bored and uncomfortable and anxious. I also have a thing where in my life I have become absolutely obsessed with women who are smart, powerful, usually much older than me- it takes over my life and I spend much of my waking hours just thinking about them and feeling so strongly about them, wanting so badly to be part of their life- but the feelings have never been sexual. All of these things make me so confused and it’s just maddening when you’re obsessed with them every single minute of the day ?
There’s hopeThere’s hope
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Of course! I’m a bi woman. And I swear, even though I had it internalized, I have always known. And when I accepted it, it felt RIGHT. And I know OCD. Because my OCD feels wrong. Coming out as bi felt right and good and there were never intrusive thoughts, even though I was nervous. OCD feels wrong. This never felt like that. They’re completely different feelings. If these thoughts feel intrusive, I’d bet my life that it’s not real.
Ridethewave Ridethewave
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As a bi woman, is it that you are interested in dating both men and women? Or is it strictly sexual for one gender and romantic for the other?
Inferno Inferno
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1-If your bi were you bi from birth? 2-Can you be straight later in life 3-how does the word fag/gay affect you when people say it and make jokes about it 4-Why do lgbt ppl always want straight ppl to be gay or convince them their gay(like James Charles)
There’s hopeThere’s hope
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@Peridottttt 1) Yep, I’ve always been bi. 2) Nope, I will never be straight. Labels can change overtime but I’ve never met a person in the community who has come out and then later identified as straight. 3) When people use those words in a bad way, especially people outside of the community, it hurts me. It really hurts, we’ve been oppressed throughout history and using slurs just makes me remember that a lot of the world still hates us. 4) We really don’t. We often encourage people and try to make them feel comfortable and accepted if they’re questioning (questioning is different from OCD, I promise! Questioning isn’t intrusive, OCD is). James Charles is a power hungry manipulative person. People like that come in all sexualities, straight included. Some people are just bad. But as far as I go, and the people in the community that I know, we don’t care if anyone’s striaght. We don’t want to convince them they’re gay if they’re not.
Inferno Inferno
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@KBright Omggg thank you for taking your time and answering my questions but I’ve got a few more if you don’t mind
Inferno Inferno
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@KBright I’ve heard a couple ppl that was bi and now is straight... what?
There’s hopeThere’s hope
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It’s very much both! I want to date both men and woman, AND it’s sexual for both. And I’m comfortable with that. Also, since you were concerned, I want you to know that having a low sex drive doesn’t make you asexual! I’m very familiar with the community :)
There’s hopeThere’s hope
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Aww, that’s so sweet! I want you to know that labels are just that - labels. If your primary concern is losing your boyfriend, then nothing else matters! OCD is such a bully, and it targets what we love most. You love him, and that’s that! But I promise no lesbian has ever been in love with a man, haha! You’re going to be 100% okay. ?
AsnkuAsnku
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Hey thank you for this. For me I know I am lesbian and i suffer form hocd because I only get really uncomfortable about being with a women ( no hate tho it’s for me how I feel) and somehow does not make feel like me. Still somehow it can take me over and make me think I really have feelings girls and that’s annoying I only get anxiety for it and nothing more...sometimes it make me think I want it even I know I don’t so yeah but when I have good moment it’s always about boys and about my real crush who is boy so yeah does not make a sense
AnonanxietyAnonanxiety
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Helloo
Inferno Inferno
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Are you hocd?
AnonanxietyAnonanxiety
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YeH I think not diagnosed but similar thought
Inferno Inferno
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Yeah can you invite more ppl with hocd/gay/lesbian, let’s just talk and ask questions and not be judgmental
AnonanxietyAnonanxiety
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Thoughts*
Ridethewave Ridethewave
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I have HOCD, it's rough out here
There’s hopeThere’s hope
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I’m a part of the LGBT community. I don’t have HOCD but am more than happy to answer any questions if you need me to!
Inferno Inferno
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Yeah I don’t talk to anyone In real life about my hocd nor feel comfortable talking to them about my hocd because they would say I’m homophobic and that I’m gay and didn’t know or I’ll turn gay later in life smh ?♀️
Ridethewave Ridethewave
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I'm worried I'm just Asexual now. Do asexual people enjoy sex? I enjoy it but i have a low sex drive.
There’s hopeThere’s hope
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Promise I won’t call you homophonic. OCD is sooooo complex. You’re okay, love!
IdkIdk
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Can I ask what the sexuality is and how you realized that was your sexuality?
IdkIdk
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@advice? Your * sorry. Please don’t share If don’t feel comfortable sharing.
Inferno Inferno
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Today someone told me that hocd is homophobic and scared to be gay, and they asked my why would they be scared of being gay? I didn’t want to argue because they didn’t understand ocd I’m kinda upset that they think we’re scared of being gay and we could slowly over time change our sexuality this was very triggering for me ??
There’s hopeThere’s hope
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The queer experience is SO different from the OCD experience. I’m happy to help distinguish them is anyone has any questions!
Ridethewave Ridethewave
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My entire ocd thing started when I was sleeping in the same bed as my bestfriend when we were traveling together and I enjoyed her company in the bed and then I thought "what if that makes me gay?" and then it all went down hill from there. I then woke up in panics with the thought "your gay!" and I would cry to bf because I thought I was going to lose him. I kept researching and researching and my attraction to men started to fade and that made me even worse. I never pictured my life with a woman, nor have I ever had feelings for them but now this is all I can think about and I'm scared I'm just in denial ?? I love my bf and I don't want to lose him. I am sexually and romantically attracted to him but my mind is telling me I'm a lesbian???? How does this make sense. Please help??
Inferno Inferno
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Thank for not saying I’m gay because I have hocd or convicted me that I’m gay
helpmyocd123helpmyocd123
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I have hocd I hate my life
Inferno Inferno
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We can talk about it here periottttt
helpmyocd123helpmyocd123
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Do u have any tips ?
Inferno Inferno
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First listen to NF a rapper about ocd Second talk to an ocd therapist Lastly calm down, know it’s a lie and smileeeee ??
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Ariana ♡
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- 17w
Question for queers w sexuality ocd
Is anyone here actually gay and has/had sexuality or religious ocd? I don't have it at all haha I'm a lesbian myself without socd or religious ocd but I'm just curious: what's it like and how did you deal with the whole "biggest fear coming true" thing?
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