Found someone young attractive

I’m 19 my brother who is 16 showed me a video of one of his friends girlfriend and told me “isn’t she hot?” I feel like I did find her attractive and then I asked what her age was and he said 14. Why did I find her attractive if she’s that much younger than me? I’m also having trouble seeing girls in public I think are attractive but don’t know their age. They could be young and I still might find them attractive. Sometimes I force myself to look at these girls more than usual to really determine what their age is and if I find them attractive. I don’t stare intensely but it definitely feels strange doing it. Is this a problem that I can’t figure out if girls I find attractive are around my age? Or even if I know they are younger than me sometimes I might find them attractive? Why would I find them attractive if they’re too young for me?

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Anonymous

Date posted: 17w

Hi it's because people can still be conventionally attracted and you're still in the age range that if you were both older with the same years apart it would be accepted. It just requires more conscience effort to overcome years of ancestry because people used to not live past 30 years so that age and age game was common and accepted for marriage back then for generations. Now it's ill advised to date anyone under 17 after one turn 18 as you're still young yet with different levels of likes and awareness along with confusing hormones and rebuilding new values and morals when you recently entered adulthood yourself. The difference of maturity and hormones and life experiences can make things complicated and still change so it's better advise to learn more about self compassion than fears. Guilt doesn't go away but ways to sit with things without being impulsive or compulsive will be more manageable from exposure without needing to really do anything. It's a passive skill level up to find your own parameters with self discovery. Spoon fed morals, facts, and compassion generally don't tend to stick as long as self discovery. I still look young in my late 30's and the unconscious makes people aware of such possibilities that is hard for people to feel comfortable when I'm ruining the algorithms of how people have clear defining characters to help adjust to day to day life and attraction. Many have gone through what you gave and some just were shorter or quiet on their journey out if this. It's similar to how I really like pizza with any toppings and drool over the photos but in the end I always pick my pepperoni pizza. My true decisions are what counts, not my momentary attractions.

Anonymous

Date posted: 17w

@Anonymous I would still date someone who is 17 as I think a 2 year age gap isn’t terrible. Is that a bad mindset to have? Also I remember an incident where I was on a cruise when I was 17 I think and had a crush on someone. We never talked to each other but I always ran into her or saw her places. I told my brother about it and he said she looked 10, or something along those lines. I don’t think she was that young but ever since he said that I’ve been looking at her more closely. It wasn’t until we were in the hot tub together that I realized she was probably too young for me, I’m guessing 3+ years younger. I feel like there’s something wrong with me for not realizing how young she looks while my brother can.

Anonymous

Date posted: 17w

@Anonymous It's mentally okay just legally ill advised that's why is difficult in that area. Basically laws are made not really for morals but someone else exploited them. Such as how people who wear glasses don't always need to wear them to drive but because some roads and people have gotten into accidents it is now tested and required to put on their license if they are dependent on glasses to drive to figure out if they are accountable for the accident. I've seen a 24 year old lady cosplaying an adult character, but was not endowed and very short so she look young like 13. She was talking to another who was taller than me and her, more endowed both of us combined, dressed as the same character but was actually 14. Confirmed when I overheard them talking and their badges showed if the person was an adult or minor. Some people have a better eye or just more openly judgey even if they are assessing the age wrong. I'm still misinterpreted when I approach people to date as they think I'm jail bait. I get reverse jail bait instead where kids have came up to me to ask me out during work or when I took my kids to the playground. Real fear i was going to jail despite rejecting them, yet it was impractical for me to go to jail, just ocd talking.

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Date posted: 24w

Just want a response

So one day a couple months ago I saw some posts on threads pop up on instagram and they said I’m 17 and horny and 18 and horny or I think I even remember see a 16 year old one. I’m 20 and I remembered that when those popped up I clicked on them and I don’t know if I did it out of true attraction or out of the urge to make my anxiety go away. I feel like often times if I see something that says any number under 18 even if it has nothing to do with age it could be talking about season 17 of a tv show my mind immediately goes what?? 17??? And then I click on it to make my anxiety go away. So when I remembered all of this I downloaded the threads app because I wanted to see if I could get reassurance and see if I could rekindle how I felt in these moments. When I opened the app all I saw was posts like that but everyone claimed to be 18. The only problem is none of the girls looked 18 they looked like 14-16 so I started to panic I and worry that because I clicked on the threads in the past it popped up more and I was a pedophile for that. All of the accounts all pretty much had only fans links so at that point I was like well they have to be 18 then but now I’m worried that maybe it’s a scammer and they are using underage pictures of girls and putting them on onlyfans. Which I know is out of my control but I just feel like a Pedo and like I did something wrong. Does anyone have any advice? Or have any similar situations/ similarities with this?

Shaodidi

Date posted: 14w

Does this make me a pr#d?

Not long ago when I was 14 almost 15, I felt attracted to this 12 year old. I even m@struvated to her… people said a 15 feeling attraction to a 12 is predatorial. Now I’m wondering if she was younger than that. Please help me. I don’t wanna be a p@do.

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Anonymous

Date posted: 13w

Attracted to 14 year old

I looked at a picture of someone who was 14 and I found her attractive. I’m 19. Why would I find her attractive? Is it possible I think she looked older or am I just attracted to young kids?

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