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that's ocd. also if you keep seeking reassurance, it won't get better. stay strong! you can do this!
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No no I know that, I WANT to disregard it, I want to be normal BUT I am not willing to take real risks with mine and my partners health and relationship. That’s why I wanna know if I’m being unreasonable or not. It’s only because you legitimately CAN get std related conjunctivitis I’ve panicked
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@uwotm8 this fear is unreasonable. that's how you know it's ocd
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@ocdumbass Well that’s my problem I can’t see when I’m being unreasonable and when I’m not!! To me it feels possible so not worrying feels irresponsible and not testing seems selfish
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@uwotm8 a good way to tell if you're being unreasonable is to read back what you've said and list the facts. -you have had negative std tests -everyone says that you can't have it in your eye without it being in your vagina (also, STDs aren't that easily transmitted, otherwise everyone who used a public bathroom at some point would have one)
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@ocdumbass I worried that I gave myself one from eye to hand to toilet paper to vagina/ass yesterday It seems so real and threatening I really love my partner I don’t want him to think I’m a shit person and leave me
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@uwotm8 again, STDs aren't that easily transmitted. There is no STD in your eye, so there is no way you can transmit it to your vagina. Have you shared these concerns with your partner? It might help explain to them that you have ocd centered around this theme
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@ocdumbass No itsna touchy subject. We talk about my germaphobia but not STDs. I’m convinced he has ocd himself. Last time I brought this up it caused massive issues and he perceived it to “open a can of worms” and he temporarily wanted to break up
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@ocdumbass So I pretend I’m just a germaphobe nowni never mention STDs and fearing it leading to a breakup cuz he doesn’t get it
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@uwotm8 if he’s so unwilling to understand something that’s effecting you so much, maybe a break up would be the right decision
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@JazSargent Not that he’s unwilling, he’s really supportive- he finds the subject being around STDs too difficult and as his last relationship ended due to cheating, I can’t blame him for being a bit sceptical why I’m so scared
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@JazSargent Also I am convinced he himself has undiagnosed ocd ha He seems to want to break up over really daft things if it’s not perfect
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@uwotm8 it makes sense why he’s skeptical, maybe try to explain that avoiding the subject often makes those fears worse, plus i don’t think it’s worth possibly risking health (for example if he has an unrecognized std) because of it
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@JazSargent He tested negative at the start of our relationship too
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@uwotm8 i would just try to explain that avoiding fears like that makes them worse and even bigger the longer you spend avoiding them
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@JazSargent I’m 100% not bringing up std fears again because I know what will happen so I’m just doing erp alone for now until I’m approved for therapy
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@uwotm8 i’m sorry ://
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In September I had unprotected oral sex. I haven’t had sex in five years because even before that I was so ashamed and worried about sex. I finally did it and then a few weeks later while I was at work I started to be very itchy all in my underwear area like up to my butt. I didnt see any blisters or anything but when I googled it, herpes came up. Eventually I thought maybe it was the new underwear I bought and it went away after I stopped wearing them. However it’s returned twice, mostly when I’m really worried about herpes. I know this makes little sense because I don’t thinking about it would cause an outbreak but, either way I’m really nervous to go get tested because I heard there’s a high false positive rate and if I get a positive there’s a huge chance I will just become a recluse and never speak to anyone again. I already have so much trauma with sex, vaginismus, etc. I can’t imagine telling anyone I have herpes and then they 1) don’t want to be with me 2) now know this and could tell anyone they want Even if I don’t have it I was reading it could be asymptomatic and 80% of people who have it don’t even know, so now I’m worried I will get it no matter what sex I have. I can barely handle staying alive with just OCD but now with social stigma with herpes I will feel like I can not even live a normal life. I am already freaking out about it and don’t know what to do. I am worried to go get tested and it saying I have it, and then I’m worried to not and potentially spread it, I’m not even having sex with anyone right now so it’s not like I would. But I’m worried I will forget to wash my hands and touch something and someone else will touch it and then get it. I’m just having a really bad time.
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so about a week ago around june 12 or 13 coming back from the beach i was having vulva pain on one of the lips then eventually i went to grandmas house and everytime i bent down or moved around i was having some sharp pain “down there” eventually i was scared and then it started to kinda hurt to pee… and i was like ok this is kinda worrying me eventually i forgot about it for two days it didn’t hurt but then i come back and start to have it again. so then i was like okay i’m just gonna schedule a doctors appointment. i schedule my doctors appointment got tested and i was negative for UTI but i was having bad lower back psi so they sent off a cultural test and told me a few days after that i have bacterial vaginosis so i was like ok i’m guessing to get antibiotics for it… i get the antibiotics yesterday theyre capsules i can’t swallow them but i cut them and put it in apple sauce where it was so gross the smell was awful and the taste was awful… atp i got a liquid i haven’t took it yet.. but my stomach has been hurting and had numbness and weird tingling feeling down there… where it’s scaring me and now my stomach hurts almost like cramps but it makes me so nervous… i keep thinking i have ovarian cancer or some type of cancer or a cyst or kidney stones… even tho they told me i have bacterial vaginosis somehow i can’t believe them… but i soon start my period on the 30th and my OCD gets so bad 2 weeks before my period and symptoms start a week before my period… idk i’ve never had this OCD go out for so long but like my urine looks fine it’s just when i pee now it’s almost feels weird idk my stomach is hurting rn when i lay down and i’ve been freaking out ugh. and this morning i had sorenness down there… i also had some inner thigh pain… i can’t stop googling i keep thinking it’s something worse than i have from what the doctor told me
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* Mentions of Sexual OCD, Hypersexuality, among other things. Recently, I had started to feel so much better, after trying to do some ERP therapy at home, i could feel myself becoming much more capable of holding back intrusive thoughts. Well since yesterday.. or, i dont know when, its been absolutely destroyed. About a month ago, I went out with some friends to the mall. everything was great, until while at the arcade, me and one of my friends tried pranking the other two by running off without them noticing. Well it backfired, one of the others went with him, and i was left with someone who i’ll just call J for the sake of simplicity. To cut it short, we had already pranked J earlier, so I stayed back to tell him about what we were trying to do, and things got weird. He started telling me to ‘go to the bathroom’ with him. I’ll admit that i didnt know what to say, i just felt off, but i wasnt going to do any of that. But i didnt say no. Long story short, i had to use the bathroom, so i left the arcade and went to another and luckily my friend distracted J so he wouldnt follow me in. I’d like to also add now that I have someone that i love dearly, me and him arent really together yet, but its a mutual thing. After that i cried when i returned home. and eventually i moved on, blocked the guy and everything. Now, i don’t know why, or how, but i cant stop having images in my head of what would’ve happened if i did do it. If i did go to the bathroom. And at the same time it shows me images of things happening in my own house, i see it in the shower, while on my couch, even while eating. And it doesnt stop at the sexual stuff, No. It shows me romantic versions of all this; hugging, kissing, holding hands, and in the background it mostly shows sexual scenes. All while giving me groinal responses and weird sensations that are akin to attraction of some kind. Im losing my mind trying to get it to stop. Its eating me alive, and its gotten to the point where i feel like im cheating on my partner. And my mind keeps tellint me that i actually dont love my partner, that I should’ve just gone along with what J was saying, and its making me feel like i dont really love my partner. That i should just unblock and text J. Its making me feel like ive fallen out of love and i dont know why, what if i did fall out of love? what if i end up doing something wrong, or making the wrong choice? Im scared of not loving my partner. I love my partner too much to lose him to this bullcrap. Has anyone else dealt with this? I feel lost and I dont know what to do. I cant even think about my own partner, not even about me hugging him, it gets replaced with J, everytime i try to think about anything it gets replaced in some way with something related to J. Even if i see a show, and i see someone that reminds me of J i instantly start getting intrusive thoughts and images. I feel so horrible, i feel like I’ve failed my relationship somehow. I dont know what to do.
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