Not long ago when I was 14 almost 15, I felt attracted to this 12 year old. I even m@struvated to her… people said a 15 feeling attraction to a 12 is predatorial. Now I’m wondering if she was younger than that. Please help me. I don’t wanna be a p@do.
OK, so first of all when I was 14 I had the exact same fear like I always had a scar feeling like oh my goodness what if I accidentally feel an attraction towards like a 12-year-old like that’s two years younger than me but I just wanna tell you that like two years age is not that bad and actually When I was 12, I think I dated someone who was about 14 and some people may say like because of like I don’t know maturity wise, I may make them think like differently but honestly, I don’t think it’s that bad because it’s just only two years apart and both of you guys are minors. Please don’t be so hard on yourself. OCD loves to pick on like innocent people and cause you to think that you’re a horrible person.
Also, with you being afraid that she was younger than that, I completely understand that fear because I have this fear that like people may lie to me about their age, even though I don’t think anyone has ever done that, but I just have that fear and it drives me insane but really all you have to do is just try. Try your best to sit with the uncertainty and the discomfort and try to get yourself distracted like is there any activities that you’d like to do?
@andrea_sam730 Alright thanks, but I was almost 15, she was 12, hopefully not younger, my friends said she was 12 and some age guesser thing said she was 13, so it’s a 3-2 year gap, ppl online are saying that that’s predatory…
@andrea_sam730 The attraction feeling also disappeared, this was also on my mind almost every day this week. It’s making me feel like a pred bc of the age gap and the fact that she might have been younger than that
@Shaodidi Well, you said you were almost 15 but I mean at that time you were 14 so I don’t really see anything wrong because again you guys are both minors and it’s just a two year difference but I still understand where you’re coming from like I can see why you’re still bothered by thatby the time you were a child as well so I just hope that you try not to be too hard on yourself because you don’t deserve all this self guilty these horrible feelings cause I can tell you right now you’re not a predator because predators don’t care about being predators and they don’t obsess over it this much
@Shaodidi From the sound of it, it doesn’t seem like she was younger I mean, like if your other friends that said that she may have been 13, then they’re probably right I feel horrible for saying this, but it is in the past so what you can try doing and I know it’s really hard is to move on because you aren’t there anymoreand so I know it’s gonna be hard to think about but you will be OK
@andrea_sam730 Ok thank u. I’m js worried that my attraction won’t change and I’ll be stuck liking teens for the rest of my life.
@Shaodidi A lot of people feel that way including me. I know how you feel but it’s just like if you think about it this way when you’re a kid like let’s say you’re in kindergarten and you had a crush on another kid in the same grade as you and maybe you had a crush on someone or you’re older or younger you know that’s completely common and normal because like as kids like we’re growing and stuff but as you get older like let’s say you go up to sixth grade you find people in your grade attractiveand whatever but you don’t obviously think like a kindergarten is attractive because you’ve grown out of that it just goes on like that like if that makes any sense so right now we feel that way, but like right now we’re growing and then like the teenagers and sometimes I get free to like oh my goodness what if I stay attracted to teenagers and never like with older people you know, but I feel like we will get out of that without even realizing like what we have been doing all our life
@andrea_sam730 This is still bothering me rn bc ppl are saying that a 14 almost 15 year old liking a 12 year old is predatorial… I also js can’t forgive myself bc I also touched myself to her when I was 14…
@Shaodidi Don’t listen to them you were 14 tho … weren’t 15 still a minor they js be chronically online two year difference is not a predatory behavior
@andrea_sam730 What if she was younger I can’t get that question off my mind
@Shaodidi Maybe she was or maybe she wasn’t at all
I’ve been dealing with a lot of anxiety and uncertainty I think I’m really struggling right now. I was in my alone time (self pleasure) and obviously like whenever you’re doing your thing you might have fantasies or whatever and that’s what came into my mind in the moment and then all of a sudden I get a flashback from a scene from pretty little liars came into my mind where Emily kisses Ali on the neck. In pilot actor who played Allison was 12 years old, which the pilot was the first episode I believe but in the rest of the season of season one she was 13 and that flashback was in season one as well after the pilot and I’m really worried that I might have self pleasure to myself to that scene even though I knew all this time that she was 13 in that scene and I don’t feel comfortable because I’m 16 and even though like it’s not too much of an age gap it’s still polished me and I’m scared to death right now, but I didn’t panic immediately because I think I somewhat kinda knew in the moment that I probably didn’t do anything bad but I am not 100% sure and then the more I thought about it, I started to panic even more and now I’m panicking even more now and I feel like a really big pedo, and I keep searching and googling and trying to check for her age to see how old she was in that scene and I’m pretty sure she was 13 but I promise I wasn’t intentionally thinking oh yeah I’m gonna self pressure myself to this scene regardlessof her age. No, I’m just afraid I probably did without even like realizing or registering the thought in my mind, but then at the same time I kind of feel like maybe I was just coexisting with a thought and now I’m scared I’m really scared guys.
So one day a couple months ago I saw some posts on threads pop up on instagram and they said I’m 17 and horny and 18 and horny or I think I even remember see a 16 year old one. I’m 20 and I remembered that when those popped up I clicked on them and I don’t know if I did it out of true attraction or out of the urge to make my anxiety go away. I feel like often times if I see something that says any number under 18 even if it has nothing to do with age it could be talking about season 17 of a tv show my mind immediately goes what?? 17??? And then I click on it to make my anxiety go away. So when I remembered all of this I downloaded the threads app because I wanted to see if I could get reassurance and see if I could rekindle how I felt in these moments. When I opened the app all I saw was posts like that but everyone claimed to be 18. The only problem is none of the girls looked 18 they looked like 14-16 so I started to panic I and worry that because I clicked on the threads in the past it popped up more and I was a pedophile for that. All of the accounts all pretty much had only fans links so at that point I was like well they have to be 18 then but now I’m worried that maybe it’s a scammer and they are using underage pictures of girls and putting them on onlyfans. Which I know is out of my control but I just feel like a Pedo and like I did something wrong. Does anyone have any advice? Or have any similar situations/ similarities with this?
when I was 15 soon to turn 16, I met this girl in a IG group chat made by our mutual friends. We started talking and eventually we started flirting and talking sexual towards each other, though eventually we stopped talking because she was being really weird. A couple months later In July of 2024 my friend found out that she was actually 13 and that she lied to me about her age. It's been 10 months since l've found out and I still feel so disgusted in myself. I had my suspicions at the time but I let them go since she said she was 16 turning 17. I was completely oblivious trusting someone I only knew online especially since i've never seen their face either. i'm struggling on what to do since i've been suffering with POCD since I was 15. Till this day I still feel weird and disgusted in myself because of that. But it feels ironic since i'm sexualizing someone that's 2 years younger than me and I waited to confirm she was around my age range to sexualize her. I feel so weird and guilty about it idk what to do
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