I looked at a picture of someone who was 14 and I found her attractive. I’m 19. Why would I find her attractive? Is it possible I think she looked older or am I just attracted to young kids?
OCD will spark a lot of “what ifs”. It’s possible that your perceived “attraction” was triggered by anxiety and hyper-vigilance. It’s possible that it was a true legitimate attraction. It’s possible you thought she looked older. The question is: what are your values? Your feelings and/or desires may differ from your values, but which will you be a slave to? It sounds like the thought of being attracted to young kids disturbs you. That’s a great thing. It means you have conscience and a set of values. Whether you found a kid attractive or not is not relevant. Your thought, whatever it truly was, doesn’t need to translate into a wrong action. And wrong thoughts don’t need to be dwelled on. Establish your values, recognize that your thoughts will stray from them from time to time, and remind yourself that you still have a choice whether to dwell on the thought and act on it or not. You are still in control and not too far gone
@Sway_04 I know I’m still in control, I’m not worried about that. I’m just obsessing over the fact that I could actually have this attraction to begin with.
I totally get your concern, but personally I think finding someone attractive is different from being attracted to them. So, realistically if you did find her attractive there's a good chance that it means nothing.
“3) WHAT ARE COMMON MISCONCEPTIONS SURROUNDING POCD? Persons with POCD have a misconception that any person under the age of 18 should never be seen in a sexual way. And so they become very preoccupied with the morality or legality of finding a person below the age of 18 in any way attractive or sexual. And obviously children can be seen as sexual, there is the show toddler’s and tiaras were parents dress up 8 year olds in ways that are very provocative, teenage girls can dress in a very provocative way, so finding these children to be sexual in any way for people with OCD generates a tremendous guilt response or distress that something unhealthy or unusual is happening.”
@Anna,hi! I struggle with finding a cut off for what is acceptable. I know I can find people under 18 attractive sometimes because they made be developed similarly to people over 18, and I’m only 19 myself. But what is the cutoff to where any amount of attraction is not considered normal at all. I think I know I’m not attracted to pre pubescent kids but what about that transitional stage where they are pre pubescent but not fully developed either, but somewhere in the middle? This is where I start obsessing and freaking out and I don’t know if I’m normal or not.
I got this information from this article: https://www.madeofmillions.com/articles/talking-pedophilia-ocd-dr-steven-phillipson
Since I don't experience attraction towards children so I'm not a p*do. But I've seen some not really child looking character. Thought he's attractive. And scared if he's minor so googled his age. Says 11. But I didn't stopped and kept thought "no but he doesn't look 11", "he's attractive" I'm so scared. Some people says don't live in past but my another past mistakes are just.. disgusting. So lets say if one is caused because I was groomed, another one is caused because I was lacking of social skills. But I don't know if I'm still attracted to 14~16 year olds... I'm scared if I do. I think I'm an ap*ebophile and is also having pocd Lets say the thought "he doesn't look 11" is the reason why I'm not. But it's disgusting. Doesn't look 11 doesn't mean it's exceptional..
I’m 19 my brother who is 16 showed me a video of one of his friends girlfriend and told me “isn’t she hot?” I feel like I did find her attractive and then I asked what her age was and he said 14. Why did I find her attractive if she’s that much younger than me? I’m also having trouble seeing girls in public I think are attractive but don’t know their age. They could be young and I still might find them attractive. Sometimes I force myself to look at these girls more than usual to really determine what their age is and if I find them attractive. I don’t stare intensely but it definitely feels strange doing it. Is this a problem that I can’t figure out if girls I find attractive are around my age? Or even if I know they are younger than me sometimes I might find them attractive? Why would I find them attractive if they’re too young for me?
Not long ago when I was 14 almost 15, I felt attracted to this 12 year old. I even m@struvated to her… people said a 15 feeling attraction to a 12 is predatorial. Now I’m wondering if she was younger than that. Please help me. I don’t wanna be a p@do.
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