Anonymous
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pureolifepureolife
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- 5y
Lots of people misunderstand mental compulsions and don’t realize they are actually doing them all the time. If you’re still obsessing over the “meaning” of your intrusive thoughts and feelings and what that means you “have to do” — you’re doing compulsions. Ruminating over how you need to accept this thing you don’t want is a compulsion and quite similar to others who feel the need to confess to their thoughts (often again and again) or those who obsess about being in denial. Here’s the thing: you have OCD and the intrusive thoughts/feelings/urges you have right now are going to make you “feel” like you’re in denial. It’s a sucky feeling but it’s also not true, it’s just a feeling. Here’s a great post on denial: https://ocdla.com/doubt-denial-ocd-5342 My recommendation and what’s been helping me a lot is not to accept it completely but to accept “maybe.” “Maybe I am trans, but maybe these thoughts/feelings can be explained by my OCD, and maybe there’s another explanation entirely that I haven’t even thought of.” Then let that be your answer. Don’t try to figure out which one it is or which is more likely or choose one with 100% certainty. Let all of these possibilities exist and accept that you do not know right now.
IdkIdk
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- 5y
So we aren’t in denial because we’re thinking about this 24/7, if we were we’d just chose to ignore it?
pureolifepureolife
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- 5y
@advice? When you’re in denial, you’re fully aware of whatever you’re denying. It’s not some secret you uncovered and now have to try to accept. It just is and you’re deciding not to deal with it. But you’re not not struggling day in and day out with whether or not it’s true, endlessly ruminating over it, testing it again and again, feeling the need to confess over and over, endlessly googling and researching about it, etc. that’s OCD not denial.
AnonymousAnonymous
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- 5y
@pureolife I feel like it’s not ocd. It feels too weak to be ocd. I’m even questioning my past pure ocd themes, thinking they were all fake
pureolifepureolife
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- 5y
@margo1 Honestly, that’s pretty typical for OCD. It’s not a matter of “weak” or “strong” reactions, it’s how much time and energy you’re investing in thinking about all of this. Even if you were trans and wanted to deny it, you wouldn’t spend every waking moment thinking about that denial and trying to convince yourself to just “accept” it.
AnonymousAnonymous
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- 5y
@pureolife I’m not trying to convince myself to accept it. I’m trying not to accept it. I’m scared im accepting it.
pureolifepureolife
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- 5y
@margo1 Or to not accept it. People do either. But you wouldn’t be “scared you’re accepting it.” It would just be. And then you would choose to either do something about it or not. I’m sorry you’re suffering right now. And I know this is super scary and demoralizing. Can you accept “maybe” without accepting “definitely yes”? That’s a much more realistic thing to accept and it’s what we have to accept with OCD. Can you describe more what it feels like to think you’re accepting it? Like what thoughts are going through your head and how are you responding to them?
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AnonymousAnonymous
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But I’m not anxious. Just numb.
Georgia Georgia
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- OCD Conqueror
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- 5y
This is called the back door spike, it’s okay to feel this way it’s just a part of OCD
jj19jj19
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- 5y
Same litteraly
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- Date posted
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