Im starting to have suspicions that im demisexual, its not OCD telling me i am its a genuine thing. Ive just noticed i have many traits of a demisexual person and maybe not being able to feel that attraction ive always expected to random ppl just passing me is the reason POCD has been so hard
I think you’re not. OCD loves labels, and you’re playing into its game. I think you’re just you and you like whatever you like. Don’t try to fit yourself into a box. Labels are for clothing, not people. Sexuality is a spectrum. Live as an individual
@Love yourself I wasn't aware labels were a big part of OCD, I've been putting a bunch on myself ever since things started getting bad for me, thank you for the reply i really appreciate it
Yea I get what you mean, I deal with something similar myself 😕 (being aro/ace), what’s hard with ocd is a lot of the times you feel like you need to be 100% certain in something to feel ok with using a label. What helped me be more accepting of it was that labels are like stickers not paint, if you happen to feel different later on that’s ok ! People were never meant to be put in boxes, if demi feels right, go for it.
@nic0.xp Thanks for your reply, i really appreciate it!
Sorry, my intrusive thoughts are telling me to make that joke about demisexual = Demi Lovato fan 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🫣🫣🫣(sorry.....) But really, I think feeling attraction only when a bound is created is not a bad thing at all. I don't understand people who kiss random people out there, but I also don't judge (me already judging 🧐😅😂😂😂😂 actually, I let a guy kiss me without knowing him enough and the results were not good... :(). No matter the case, don't judge or force yourself. Just chill, it's totally okay :)
@Anonymous Thanks, very hard to just chill atm but ill keep working at that!
I really dont know if it is ocd anymore I dont want certain sexual things with my bf anymore that i used to like When i envision it with a girl it is so easy to envision and it feels like i want that , that will give me the satisfaction This feeling is making me really question if i am still into men , desire men sexually Is this still ocd , i really dont know anymore , as it is a feeling it is too real
Hi everyone, I’m a 30-year-old woman, and I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 5 years. I’ve always felt emotionally close to him — he’s caring, supportive, and we planned a future together, including having a family. I don’t want to leave him. He means so much to me. But for a while now, I’ve been obsessing over the fact that I don’t feel much sexual attraction to him anymore. It’s not like I never felt anything — when we first met, there were butterflies, excitement, emotional connection… something real. He was never “just a friend” to me. But the physical side of the relationship feels like it’s slowly faded, and I’m panicking about what that means. I keep thinking things like: – “Maybe I chose the wrong person.” – “You can’t be in love without sexual desire.” – “If I was truly in love, I would still want him.” – “What if I’ve been lying to myself this whole time?” Sometimes my body reacts — I can feel physical closeness or even arousal — but my mind shuts down and says: “no, this isn’t right.” Other times, I feel tension, resistance, or even disgust during intimacy, and I can’t tell if that’s anxiety or if something is fundamentally wrong. What makes this even more confusing is that I truly believe that real love includes sexual attraction. For me, it’s all part of one feeling — not separate. So if the attraction is gone, does that mean the love is too? Is it possible that this is still OCD — that my mind is obsessing and disconnecting me from my real feelings? Has anyone experienced something similar? Any support would mean so much. I feel so stuck between my mind and my heart.
Hey guys so I have been suffering with sexual ocd due to the fact that I don’t feel that romantic spark with him anymore, I love him and I know I do but I get to much in my thoughts thinking about why can’t I feel that anymore what has changed what if I don’t wanna be with anymore I’ve been with him for 4 years and at first I think it was ROCD but now I started thinking what if I’m into girls now I’ve always been the type to say oh a girl is so pretty or I like this about her but now I feel like every time I see a girl I’m like do I see myself in a relationship with her oh she’s pretty oh I like her voice do I find it attractive and sometimes I do !!! Which is killing me I feel disgust thinking about because what if I secretly am no shame to people who are my sister herself is but I just feel wierd because I wanna be with my husband and feel happy there not with a girl and feel like a man because I see myself in the mirrior and I’m like do I myself being a man do I look lesbian? Do I act lesbian or bi? What if secretly I wanna be a man or I imagine myself being a man in a relationship with a pretty girl and idk what to think
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