Why whenever I feel like my attraction to the opposite gender (female) is back, I get hit with depression and my mind (OCD) saying no you don’t or you use too…
Ocd would also make you feel like an imposter sadly but you would be the one to decide if you spend time ruminating over that or living your truth anyway. Time would still pass so it’s better to do the latter. It takes a lot of time to know how to handle soocd but I hope you get better
@Ms.shelovesfrogs Thank you. It’s so exhausting keeping in the uncertainty. Hope you’re feeling better too.
@What is happening to me My ocd is currently theme hopping sadly but I’m trying to manage it
could u explain bit more about your thoughts and how they're making u feel? I can't clearly understand it, from reading this post!
@deadrotloop Throughout my life I’ve been interested in women. I’m not against anyone who is gay but that isn’t me. When I was 19 I had a thought after a bad relationship ‘what if I’m gay’ then my first experience with HOCD hit me for around 9 months then went. This was only thoughts. Going forward 13years, happily married man with two children to an amazing woman. It hits me again with what if I’m gay. This time I lost my attraction to woman (which I feel has come back but when I notice it, my mind tells me I don’t and I feel depressed). The false attraction is awful too, which was severe at first, could of been any aged male, characters, voices which has pretty much gone but I do get it still but I feel that I know it’s not me. But at the moment I struggle with attraction to my preferred gender (females) I miss the enjoyment and excitement. I feel numb most of the time.
@What is happening to me Hocd can make u “block” ur original feelings,u don’t “lose” them,but ofc won’t feel ur attraction,because your brain can’t feel safe. Visit a therapist if u can’t get better
@What is happening to me Hey there! I went through something similar with questioning my sexuality and worrying if I was in denial. I am a straight woman that suddenly became convinced I was “living a lie” last year, but now I have almost completely recovered! The main thing that helped me was total acceptance of the thought (I know that’s hard to do). You have to mental shrug at whatever your OCD is telling you because panic fuels it. OCD is like a Chinese finger trap—the more you struggle, the worse it becomes. I stopped “checking” my attraction to other women and all of my other compulsions. When I would start to have the worry again, I would say to myself, “maybe, maybe not”. Eventually the thoughts died down and I was able to experience attraction to men again. I’m not totally healed from HOCD, and I still experience brief flashes of panic from time to time, but I am very very close to life before this theme. Hope it gets better for you!
@What is happening to me Probably like OCD's projected intrusive thoughts u had to tolerate for too long that now it's feeling like u r losing ur true self.. so it feels numb and depressing!
@Mimo116 Thank you. I don’t want to take this as reassurance but it has really helped me. Thank you again.
@Brekgel Thank you for this. It’s really nice to hear from others too. I’ve been doing so well at the moment, I think over burning myself out fighting it. You’re absolutely right though. When I do accept uncertainty, if dies down it’s the battle of keeping it up I think. Thanks for the reply again.
anyone else have a good evening/ day then fall back down hurrendously the next day? Honestly yesterday I felt great! Like I knew what I like (opposite gender) and these ‘false attractions’ are just false alarms caused by OCD… like I knew these thoughts and feeling are OCD. Today I question it all over again. Are these false attractions real? Why has my loss of opposite attraction feel like it won’t return? Though yesterday I got snippets.
What’s your experience on: Losing opposite gender attraction? And, False attraction to same gender? I have both and I feel like I don’t know who I am. I can’t parent or be a husband due to the mass panic and anxiety. Just wanted to know if anyone has had both and regained theirself?
When first triggered it was every male possible. I couldn’t even go shopping… it was all ages of male, all sizes, and the groinal response was non stop. Like always a feeling there. Then it calmed down but male voices… I couldn’t listen to the music I use to enjoy or movies I’ve always been interested in. Then it kinda dyed down to people who are good looking but I’ve never in my life been attracted to males and beards. I couldn’t even always say they are good looking but never had this fear, the head ache constantly pounding feelings before. Now it’s still good looking males but I’m noticing body shape now? What is this!? Soon as I see a male figure my body feeling like it goes into shock, preparing for the anxiety feeling of ‘false’ attraction. It makes me sweat, and nauseous. Is this OCD or after 32 years of loving woman now gone? I don’t really have attraction towards woman (brief moments but not how I use to be) and this makes me so depressed. I don’t want to live like this. The only thing stoping me is my children and wife.
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