My current boyfriend is great and sweet and loving and kind, I love him but I don’t know if I want to be with him for the rest of my life. We’ve only been dating for 1 month and he’s already talking about marrying me one day. This kind of freaks me out. Like we just started dating. As the days go by I think more and more about how something just doesn’t feel right with him. Like I love him and think he’s amazing but something just doesn’t feel right. Idk if it’s my gut telling me that it’s not meant to be, or it’s just my anxiety taking over. Everything just happened so fast with us, and I’m struggling to keep up. Sometimes I think about life with someone else and that feels more right then when I think of life with my current boyfriend. Does this make me a horrible person? I just honestly don’t know what to think anymore. Thoughts??

Oh no why?

@MB4 Because he rushed things

@leilaa That’s what my boyfriend is doing. and he’s already talking about sex with me, and how he wants me forever and etc...

@MB4 Don’t fall for it.

Thank you! This is very helpful. Can I ask... what is sweet boy talk?

@MB4 Just like "I promise marrying you", "you are the beautiful girl I've ever seen" or something like that. I dont know what its called in your country but thats all just bullshit!hahaha So girls, dont trust with man word. Trust with his action not just talk

@hasellblade Great. That’s exactly the stuff he says.... is he only saying this stuff to get me to have sex with him?

@MB4 Sorry but the answer is yes. After you give him, I swear he will leave you in no time or until he get bored with you

@hasellblade How do I know he’s just saying this stuff for sex though? How will I know if he actually means what he says?

@MB4 Well love can contain lust but lust cant contain love. if he just want sex all the time then thats about sex. but if he really love you, just bring him to your family. He said want to marrying you, right. So lets meet your family

@hasellblade He’s met my family. Idk he says that he’s not all about sex, and that he’ll wait for me for when I’m ready. But I feel like if I don’t have sex with him soon, he’s gonna get annoyed and leave. He also literally sends me these like paragraph messages about how much he loves me and etc... like how do you know this in a month. Like that’s not possible

@MB4 If he really love you, sex is not number one. Your health and your mental is number one. If he angry because you dont give him sex, then he not understand you, let him leave because you cant life with someone who dont understand your situation

@hasellblade I kinda just feel trapped. And I don’t think it’s a good sign that I don’t want to always hang out with him. Like sometimes I dread seeing him. And I shouldn’t feel this way right?

@MB4 Nah its ok if you sometime feel dread seeing him. I feel the same when I date with anygirl. Its normal. Take your time and enjoy it. No need to rush. Just say that you need your time

I think a lot of it was over the top infatuation, but that faded and now things are completely normal.

@hateocd123 I’ve told him to slow down, and he stopped for a little bit but has now continued again

@MB4 I would tell him that it's making you super uncomfortable and that if he doesn't back off a little bit that you're going to have to end it.