Is drinking worth it?

To me this has probably been my own biggest question I've asked myself in the last couple of years. But I recently went to a social event in my college town for a college football game and had fun while also interacting with a girl and my friend. All of that doesn't matter for this topic. But basically part of me wants to consider drinking because I've been fearful of it for years and always viewed it as a negative. The thing is with my therapist of almost 2 years I've gotten to a way better and confident point in my life and I really want to pursue a relationship with a girl. And I mean something that can go long term so rather serious I understand if the first girl I date wouldn't end up being the one but I want to atleast experience now with my boosted confidence. Back to the question though. I feel like going down the dark side 😂. Which sounds kinda goofy but I'm really considering drinking to ease my nerves. The girl I talked to had a few drinks and she got pretty flirty which in my eyes would help me get to that point with someone I want to pursue. She ended up ghosting me which is perfectly fine but obviously I'd like to try to form a relationship or get another number like I did. I have had addictive stuff with myself and family and I'm genuinely fearful of what might happen if I drink along with what my ocd might make me do or not. Which I understand is my ocd talking but I need honest opinions here. I feel like I'm turning against my old self that I knew up untill 21 years before this day.

Young adults with OCD

chris tee lo

Date posted: Yesterday

OCD is not too friendly with substances definitely think it over

Aaliyah Hill

Date posted: Yesterday

This is a good question. Alcohol can be bad for you if you abuse it especially hard liquor. If you’ve talked it over with your therapist and got the okay. I would try something light like wine or champagne it’s easier to control and limit the affect.

onedayaat

Date posted: Yesterday

Well I actually had to get a new therapist which im having my second session with tomorrow which isn't that important but I agree with you I'd only try beer or something. I'm a very large dude so it would take alot to affect me but it mostly scares me more then anything. I just hate the only reason I'm doing it is to talk to women easier it seems so childish.

Aaliyah Hill

Date posted: Yesterday

@onedayaat Mmm I agree with that do you get anxiety from talking to women? Try small talk like how you would with friends but also be clear with what you are wanting. Try something like “Hey, I am so and so, I think you are beautiful and would like to get to know you.” It’s an easy and safe approach. I am sorry you feel the need to drink to speak to women. Thank you for opening up about this I know it is hard to do so :D

onedayaat

Date posted: Yesterday

@Aaliyah Hill You don't even know the half of it 😭. Now that I think about it that is such an extreme. I just thought in my head that if the girl was so easily to flirt with me when she had a bit alcohol in her system it only made sense that I could do it to.

Aaliyah Hill

Date posted: Yesterday

@onedayaat Fair enough and you know I get it, sometimes it can loosen the nerves a bit so no judgement here.

onedayaat

Date posted: Yesterday

@Aaliyah Hill Yea I just need to talk it over with my therapist

onedayaat

Date posted: Yesterday

I also need to mention caffeine makes my anxiety super bad, which I haven't had it in a while and they were the super bad sports drinks. Coffee is ok but I know alcohol can make ocd super bad so I'm just confused on what to do.

purpleturtle730

Date posted: 16w

rocd

has anyone experienced this or have any advice on what to do. okay so my senior prom is today and i’m in a long distance relationship so im going alone with friends and there’s an after party at someone’s house and it’s just your basic high school party with drinking and everything and ive never been to one but i wanna go with my female friends (im also a girl btw) but i have an rocd fear of cheating or something if i go. ive only ever gotten drunk once and all i was thinking abt was my boyfriend so i don’t understand the cheating “because you were drunk” thing. if i go to this party i do wanna drink a little but im just scared cause im overthinking that something will happen even though i would never do that. i haven’t asked my boyfriend about it yet as he’s at work but i am just not sure what to do.

Relationship OCD

Catlove9

Date posted: 7w

I need advice

Two years ago, I went to a concert of my favorite artist. I listened to this artist every single day and was super excited to go, even though I saw him numerous times to that point. I went with some friends and my now ex-boyfriend. Admittedly, I drank WAY too much. I do not recall the last hour of the concert (I do not drink anymore). Of course, my OCD ran with this and for two years, I have been worried I did something awful that I do not remember, like hurt someone, etc. Since the concert, I barely listen to the artist because it causes me so much anxiety. I am supposed to go to a concert tomorrow for this artist, but I am terrified to go because I am worried I will be recognized as the drunk girl who kept requesting songs or if I did do something awful at the last concert. I really do not know what to do. What would your advice be?

SeptemberSky

Date posted: 5w

Relationship OCD… or genuine concerns?

Soooo I’m over here just trying to make it to my next NOCD appt before breaking things off with a guy I’m getting to know 😞 it’s hard for me to tell if I’m having genuine concerns about compatibility, or if I’m spiraling into OCD. How the heck do I date someone and not consider compatibility? But I find myself going into fight or flight mode, or feeling like I need to make a decision immediately after a date, or ruminating about it all throughout the day, trying to figure out if the concerns are valid enough, if I’m settling, if I’m about to give up on something that could be beautiful…. Whenever I write out all my concerns, they don’t really seem like that big of a deal, or seem like things we could talk through. The biggest concern for me is whether we are compatible in the sense that talking comes easy or we feel comfortable around each other. But we’ve only been on 3 dates so it’s hard to tell. Things are still awkward sometimes. I am also autistic and this complicated things with how I socialize. So I told myself “just get to your NOCD appt in a few days and don’t make a decision til then. You can talk about it with them then.” It’s only my second appt tho, so I’m not even sure what they discuss at appt#2 and if we’ll have time to talk about it. I guess I’m just getting this off my chest right now and I appreciate this community where I can be honest 😔💛 (Added TW because I’m not sure if it would be for others)

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