Im a teen girl and i like yk how people have like unrealistic expetations im really scared cause like my brain paired like attraction like with pefect skin and yk how woman are in corn so when i see like uneven skin and things like that im like thats not attractive but like when i see real people irl i immidetly think like that but yall i mean like everyone older then me my age and younger and that what im extreamly scared of
It's not going to affect your brain so long as you recognize that it's not reality. Don't internalize what you see from those things. As far as how you see people in your everyday life, that's just OCD making too many connections. You're only thinking like that because your mind is aware of those things and worries about it. Practice response prevention, and you won't be validating those thoughts, which will help them subside
@Tyconia Yeah but do you understand what i mean cause im scared you dont realize like that im thinking like that about people my age but also younger so like im 16 cause like why when i see someone younger with like not perfect skin i think like thats not attratcive and I DONT WANT TO THINK LIKE THAT
@Lelaa Oh, I see. I get it. Well, it's your choice if you want to keep looking at p-rn but in the end, the thoughts you're having are still OCD. It's uncomfortable, but they don't really mean anything
@Lelaa And to be clear what I was saying before is that p-rn doesn't have to have a negative impact. You just got a understand that what you're looking at is exaggerated and fictionalized. As far as the OCD impact, it can definitely add some triggers, but I believe those can be managed if you wish to keep looking at explicit content
@Tyconia No im stopping def cause im just gonna do worse for myslef
@Tyconia Okay but what if i see something i usually find attrative in someone who i dont wanna feel it for im sorry for all the questions but im in an ocd episode since july 2024 and i had no one to talk to
@Lelaa And that's valid! It's good that you've made that decision for your mental health
@Lelaa Well, the only thing you can do is recognize that it's your OCD, and then accept the nervous feelings it brings. The less you focus on them, the less you legitimize them. It won't always make you feel better, but it will help your mind move on
@Tyconia Also, I'm sorry that you've been struggling and felt so alone
@Tyconia Thaks really i appreciate it more then you think❤️
My advice, for the sake of your mental health and your OCD, stay away from it as much as you can, you will thank yourself later in life.
@crumb. Im trying but its really hard
It’s normal, p*rn is very addictive, so I understand, I would advise you to do talk to someone who you can trust about your issue, so that the shame aspect of it doesn’t affect you too much and also go on YouTube and find videos of people who talk about why p*rn is a negative for you.
Tbh it’s wild.. bc I’m not someone who has watched 🌽 like on a regular basis , really only when having “alone time” and Tbvh I’m not the most sexual person. But I didn’t realize until I was a lot older that there were filters and what not.. and it’s def had an effect on my perception. 100% and I’ve noticed it for a very long time. It’s mostly to do with judging self and not others.. idk if I’m answering your question.. but I def feel as tho it’s effected me personally. So by my experience I would say yes..
Why are things so real the first time they’re in my mind and then when I think about it later it’s easier for me to be like wtf?? I was watching a movie earlier and the young girl had developed more in the chest area than the last movie and I felt the desire to check her out so I did. Then later I let myself imagine her having sex and I liked it. But now looking back I’m like ew. The boys in the movie have also developed as the movie went on and I couldn’t help but think that in their real life they’ve probably woken up to boners and s*men and stuff. And looking back it’s just ugh. Idk if it’s sexual relevance but I genuinely let myself indulge in these thoughts and groinal responses and I remember thinking to myself I don’t want to be attracted to little kids and how do I stop myself (everyone has attractive qualities so in younger boys I see man like qualities). Idk I need help. I wouldn’t type this out if I truly believe I was messed up but I’m still scared
I have no idea anymore. I guess this all started with me worrying about whether I was gay, then whether I was a P, then worried about being just attracted to teenagers. After that I started freaking out about not feeling “grown up” enough. Like “I’m an adult wtf is wrong with me for seeing someone who is probably younger and thinking they’re physically attractive. Then I started overthinking not finding older adults (like 30 or 40) very attractive. Like ofc I’m probably not gonna find them attractive, they’re not anywhere close my age. Maybe the desires are half real. Maybe as a 21 yr old young adult I do find older teenagers (16+) somewhat physically attractive. I still think it’d be weird to date one. Maybe that’s the normal reaction I’m supposed to have. If not, please let me know. I just don’t wanna do anything illegal one day and I’m super scared I will. I can’t tell if the fear is my just being afraid of the law though, in which case I might actually just be a bad person. I hate that my brain is just rationalizing thoughts now. I feel like I can’t do the ERP thing of “just accept that the thoughts are there but don’t engage.” Like what? How can I just think a thought that might be so integral to my identity and just ignore it? If it’s all true and I don’t like people my age anymore then I have to know and plan around that, that could change my entire life. I’m rambling, my b.
My brain made previously a nonsensical association between adults and triggers with the outcome being that adults are not any different from k**s, and that the adult age is just a number in the sense that even if you're an adult it is still the young you, that there is no clear indicator of maturity, it was after a saying i heard "it tickled the kid in me" and now I'm "permanently" stuck with this association because I can't view women the same way and im not comfortable anymore... I tried to explain my brain that the prefrontal cortex fully developes at 25 years old, and that as long as the brain it is developed in the same even phase of yours (like with a girl my age), it should be okay but that doesn't feel "enough": the adultness maturity feels a lot more closer to triggers than it being further. When I see adult women now I feel like I can't be attracted anymore because of this association and I don't know what to do. I want to be attracted again, be comfortable on appreciating women's beauty etc and be comfortable in my se&uality. I can't also fanthom the idea of f*pping even though I want to because of this association that is stuck in my brain and I can't get rid of. What should I do?
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