ROCD

A few weeks ago i was reminiscing about my past. Like friendships and relationships. And then I realized that I thought about my ex, I shouldn’t have done that, especially if i’m in a committed relationship. Now I’ve been obsessing over that and having constant anxiety if i’m not truly over my Ex. It sucks because I fully love and commit to my boyfriend. And I can’t go through the day without feeling like i’m wasting his time. I’ve had so many cycles of anxiety and I don’t think all of it has gone away. First it was “i thought someone else was attractive” to “what if i don’t love him anymore” to “what if he doesn’t love me anymore” and now it’s this. What can I do? I don’t know if i should just end the relationship for my boyfriend’s mental heath at this point.

Relationship OCD

fawnstellations

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 11w

oof i get this (also hello fellow pokemon pfp pic lol). i cried the other day to my boyfriend because i feel like such a burden when my ROCD flares up and some days i feel like he'd be better off without me. end of the day, i don't think it's fair for us to make decisions on our partners' behalf. we have to give them the benefit of the doubt that they're also choosing to be with us. and btw, it's normal to be curious about your past relationships, we reminisce and it's human! i think about my ex from time to time too and i lowkey had a total spiral the other week because i still check up on him on instagram (mostly out of spite and to make myself feel better which i've recently stopped doing tbh lol it was NOT a good breakup) and i spiraled about the fact i did that with similar feelings as you. a hard thing to say since OCD makes us feel all types of ways, but if there's something worth staying the course, do it <3 don't make rash decisions based on your OCD

kyndallmmm

Date posted: 11w

@fawnstellations Sometimes it hard to understand if it’s ocd or not :(. But I started realizing that when i’m not having anxiety or overthinking then i feel so much better. And my mind clears up so much. But i’ve been so terrified if i’m not even over my Ex. Or if i took enough time to heal before a new relationship. I keep thinking of so many intrusive thoughts as well and it sucks. I keep trying to tell myself that I chose my boyfriend over my ex (my ex did try to come back before my boyfriend and i started dating). and it works for a second and then i just start spiraling.

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Date posted: 11w

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fawnstellations

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 11w

hahaha yess you get it, checking in on them because you want to feel like you're doing better than them 🤣 so real, OCD is so petty haha. we have a very similar situation with our boyfriends and feeling bound to break up because of how a previous relationship went. we deserve all the goodness and we're well on our way, proud of us!

kyndallmmm

Date posted: 11w

@allmythoughts I feel like this too. I like feeling that I’m doing better than them. And then i start overthinking if i’m using my boyfriend to show that im better :(. When in reality im not and it’s in my head. I never started really thinking about my ex until now. Until now ive been so in love and focused on my boyfriend.

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