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I’m losing it, I feel like I have no idea who I am and weather I have been faking it my whole life. I saw an episode that triggered me and this guy said he realized he was gay when he was 18 and I just got sooooo anxious. Because then I asked myself did I like anyone at that age (I’m 22) I have never had a boyfriend. I feel like I’m sitting here and just lost faith in the fact that I like men. I feel like I have been lying to myself. I don’t know what to do or if I will ever get the life I have dreamt of. Help me, what do I do???!?!?!?!!! What if I’m not capable of loving a man????!!!!

Sexual Orientation OCD

sofiaaaaa

Date posted: Yesterday

I understand you girl hocd can make u feel that way,it does with me is like i dont know who i am anymore and i get absorbed in to the thoughts but is just a phase if u never felt real attraction to a woman and u never want a relationship with them thats what matters and u are streight hocd can be very tricky and i just hate it but all thats happening to u dreams,thoughts,fears,reactions are very common in soocd so if you know who you are deep down you just have to say fuck you to the thoughts and that s it You live the life how you want to no hocd controles u

Tiny Turtle

Date posted: Yesterday

You're most definitely not alone in this feeling. As a SO-OCD sufferer myself, I'm struggling with a similar thing and I completely understand how terrifying and crazy it is. Right now, the trick is to simply just sit with the discomfort and anxiety that the obsessions bring. It's hard and exhausting but it has been known to help. The less you ruminate, the better it will get. Recovery isn't linear. There'll be a lot of ups and downs but you'll get there eventually. We all will.

Ms.shelovesf...

Date posted: Yesterday

I want you to know it can get so much better ❤️‍🩹same theme(I was rock bottom and couldn’t even view post on here, posts on instagram or leave my room) and Im about 90% recovered. It can get better by sitting with the fear

Tiny Turtle

Date posted: 23h

Hey, just wanted to ask, how did things get better for you?

Ms.shelovesf...

Date posted: 21h

@Tiny Turtle Meds helped. I also did erp especially when given the opportunity to(I mean in situations that weren’t planned). I sat with the feeling of urgency to find out, I no longer looked for answers and just lived life. When I experience a trigger, I am able to catch ocd by saying “a trigger but I refuse to dwell on it”. I deliberately stopped giving time to rumination, acknowledged every flare and sat with whatever it threw at me. I started observing my thoughts and doing nothing. And once again erp even when the trigger no longer sets me into big spirals… I stopped mentally checking or paying attention to groinal response and it stopped.. meds helped a lot too

Tiny Turtle

Date posted: 21h

@Ms.shelovesfrogs I'm currently going through deep rut of feeling like I have already identified as lesbian and feel thoroughly convinced, and it makes me feel extremely anxious. It's really difficult.

Ms.shelovesf...

Date posted: 19h

@Tiny Turtle I hope you get better. Some days it still be like that for me too

mindfullymaddie

Date posted: Yesterday

the way i think of it is that it doesnt matter! you can still live your dream life with a woman if that ends up being what you like. im fully in the belief that sexuality can be flexible and love is love. i can understand the feeling of having lied to yourself but you don’t need to figure everything out right this moment right now

Anonymous

Date posted: 14h

Thank you all so much! I really hope you all are able to get through the really tough days and make a recovery. Love you all ❤️

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