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Help plz somone
Just imagine a man teasing u for a kiss his hands rapped around u I love men but idk why these thoughts of girls come in ma mind
Just imagine a man teasing u for a kiss his hands rapped around u I love men but idk why these thoughts of girls come in ma mind
Those are intrusive thoughts. They are involuntary. Everyone has them, even people without OCD, but since you have OCD you attach meaning to random thoughts and stress about them, giving them urgency. Don't try to figure this out. Maybe it means something, maybe not.
@ROCDmensch No I can’t do this I wanna be straight I don’t want to be gay
@Anonymous Well, the first step to recovering from OCD is to accept uncertainty. I know this is your worst fear right now, but you need to be okay with the possibility of this being true. It might be true, or it might be not. Doing compulsions, like seeking reassurance or checking whether you find the same sex attractive etc only makes OCD worse. It's important to do ERP and stop compulsions. You need to look into your fear. Why do you fear this so much? What are maybe some irrational beliefs or black and white thinking? This is something you will figure out when you go to therapy. Have you seeked help yet?
@ROCDmensch I have been to councellinf it’s just if somones nice to me like a sibling or friend I feel the thoughts commin on or fealings
@Anonymous You have to be brave and move further in your journey on dealing with OCD. Keep consistent with your ERP
@ROCDmensch Like I love men I watched a man and a women kiss I enjoyed it but now my brains focusing on the women lips and now I feel gay I don’t want to be gay I love a man a good hot man
@Anonymous It's your OCD. Don't argue with it.
@ROCDmensch How is it I’m thinkin about the women and man kiss and now I feel somamt wen the women does it
@Anonymous Those are intrusive thoughts. These are thoughts you have no controll over and they come involuntary. Everybody has these thoughts but your OCD wants to attach meaning to it and make you belief your fear is true. It is also possible that you do the compulsion of "checking". When you see a female it triggers your OCD and you almost automatically check whether you feel attraction. That's a compulsion and you need to stop this compulsion manage your OCD. You also need to accept that you gave OCD, it's the first step to recovery. Don't try to figure out the why. That's your OCD wanting you to figure this out.
@ROCDmensch Yhh girl ik but how I watched a man and a women kisses and my Mind was thinking about the women the boy was a good kisser with tounge but I got a thought of the women I don’t liken women I love men
@ROCDmensch And I have crushes on men
@Anonymous You are still spiraling. Arguing about it in your head won't change it. There is no answer to endless ocd what ifs. You can only accept it and take the advise and seek professional help on this matter
@ROCDmensch It’s happening again wen a women kisses a man why does my brain does this I don’t wanna be gay
Why are things so real the first time they’re in my mind and then when I think about it later it’s easier for me to be like wtf?? I was watching a movie earlier and the young girl had developed more in the chest area than the last movie and I felt the desire to check her out so I did. Then later I let myself imagine her having sex and I liked it. But now looking back I’m like ew. The boys in the movie have also developed as the movie went on and I couldn’t help but think that in their real life they’ve probably woken up to boners and s*men and stuff. And looking back it’s just ugh. Idk if it’s sexual relevance but I genuinely let myself indulge in these thoughts and groinal responses and I remember thinking to myself I don’t want to be attracted to little kids and how do I stop myself (everyone has attractive qualities so in younger boys I see man like qualities). Idk I need help. I wouldn’t type this out if I truly believe I was messed up but I’m still scared
Hey guys so I have been suffering with sexual ocd due to the fact that I don’t feel that romantic spark with him anymore, I love him and I know I do but I get to much in my thoughts thinking about why can’t I feel that anymore what has changed what if I don’t wanna be with anymore I’ve been with him for 4 years and at first I think it was ROCD but now I started thinking what if I’m into girls now I’ve always been the type to say oh a girl is so pretty or I like this about her but now I feel like every time I see a girl I’m like do I see myself in a relationship with her oh she’s pretty oh I like her voice do I find it attractive and sometimes I do !!! Which is killing me I feel disgust thinking about because what if I secretly am no shame to people who are my sister herself is but I just feel wierd because I wanna be with my husband and feel happy there not with a girl and feel like a man because I see myself in the mirrior and I’m like do I myself being a man do I look lesbian? Do I act lesbian or bi? What if secretly I wanna be a man or I imagine myself being a man in a relationship with a pretty girl and idk what to think
I’ve always been straight my whole life and I’ve never considered being different nor have i ever had attraction to women but lately I’ve been going through a lot of different thoughts that definitely feel unlike me. When I was a kid and I don’t remember how old I was but im sure like 7 or 8 and my cousin that was I very close to had me do inappropriate things to her that I didn’t really know anything about at that time. After that happened to me I knew it was wrong and I felt so bad and disgusting and scared but at the time I didn’t really know anything and I remember when my mom would drop me over my grandmas house while she would work, I’d take my grandma’s phone and I looked up kissing videos and I saw the kissing scene from Jennifer’s body and looking back on it I just feel so much shame and confusion bc it certainly feels embarrassing. My cousin always liked girls but I never did. I loved sitting and watching Disney movies preferably princess and the frog and wanting to be a princess getting married to a prince just like in all the movies. I knew who I was from a very young age and that never changed about me. When I learned what porn was at an older age, I started becoming hyper sexual so I watched tutorials videos of women to learn how to pleasure myself. When I was a kid and to now I’ve never looked at women in that way. I’ve had best friends and sleepovers it’s never been anything sexual, romantic, or intimate. Just simply innocent friendships and hangouts. When I got to high school that’s when i started remembering what happened to me and i remember how the girls would talk about their first kisses and i remembered my sa and how I felt so scared to say anything to anyone bc I didn’t want people to think badly of me simply bc my first kiss was like that so I would simply just not say anything. Lately I’ve been having obsessive thoughts out of nowhere wondering if my sexuality has changed or if im bi or is it just my thoughts? I’ve always had ocd and even in school, the kids would pick at me because I always eat my food in order and by the lightest color. But lately it’s gotten worse. It’s like I’ve never had thoughts like this nor have I ever been like this. Not even when I was a child. And humans question themselves of course but this feels like something different. I’ve gotten distant from my best friend who’s also a girl and I’ve just cut off social media and female friend relationships at all because for some reason my brain tells me that it’s “gay” to even hug your friends or hold their hands anymore like you used to do when you were kids. I even got to a point where I would watch women porn and try to masturbate just to see if I was attracted to it or not like that’s how bad the thoughts got. It felt like an evil voice was in my head trying to convince me and sweet talk me to do and enjoy those disgusting things even when my body didn’t want to. I eventually had confided in my bf about it because he was also a victim of sa and so he helped me through it and I stopped doing it but then and my bf (now ex) broke up a couple days ago and now ive been dealing with this alone which feels like the hardest part for me. So I’ve texted my bff a lot to catch up because I’ve been distant dealing with this and I was just checking my phone awaiting for her responses to my texts because she tends to type slow and usually I never think anything of it because I used to check my phone all the time when I would await my boyfriends reply or simply just a text from him and so now im having thoughts like “why am I awaiting her texts” “do I like my friend?” Its just so many obsessive thoughts and so much overthinking that I am getting tired of because It’s been going on for months so I know this is a lot but please if anyone can please help me I beg, it would be such a great help appreciated bc this has became a really big impact on my life and not in a good way lol. Thank you !!
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