TheBigCahuna
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- 5y
dpveritasgolddpveritasgold
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- 5y
I talked to a therapist today, and he was telling me about how the “fight or flight” response in the brain, which is what OCD triggers, has a direct connection to the arousal signal in the brain. So I get “groinal responses” from all sorts of non-sexual things. So just remember that groinal responses don’t have anything to do with your sexuality.
TheBigCahunaTheBigCahuna
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- 5y
Well possibly also the thoughts and feelings. I think gay and feel gay sometimes but I don’t want it. I do recognize now however that to the brain this feels 100% real.
dpveritasgolddpveritasgold
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- 5y
@TheBigCahuna Yep. That’s what makes it so hard. It feels just as real as anything. But for me, I’ve found that the more I recover the less real the thoughts feel.
TheBigCahunaTheBigCahuna
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- 5y
@dpveritasgold What’s your best strategy been?
dpveritasgolddpveritasgold
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- 5y
@TheBigCahuna ERP and depowering the thoughts.
AsnkuAsnku
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- 5y
Same tbh. Sometimes my head is making me think i like them even i dont. Sucks honestly
TheBigCahunaTheBigCahuna
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- 5y
Yup. Feels completely real, except for the fact that I don’t want to act on it and it doesn’t REALLY turn me on.
AsnkuAsnku
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- 5y
@TheBigCahuna Yeah but that’s what hocd does. It’s wanna make me believe something what is not truez
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geodrimilis
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- 21w
How to counter hocd (in my opinion)
Think logically. Literally. Take me as an example. I have hocd and my obsession is “what if I’m gay”. I’ve liked girls my whole life, I can still get aroused by them and I can’t get the same instinctive reaction from a guy. So I can’t be gay. Sometimes ocd will go to something else once you prove it wrong. Maybe like. “What if I’m bi” again I can only get aroused by girls. Sometimes when I’m not thinking about it I can even get aroused when sitting next to a girl or when I’m sitting next to one or even when I’m touching one in a non sexual way. Something that never happens or has happened with a guy in my life. Don’t start panicking. Just “realise” who you are and who you’ve been.
geodrimilis
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- 19w
Hocd is literally a clown in my head.
Like I can’t think straight. This is making me doubt everything I’ve thought about myself and even makes me feel like I like the thoughts when I know I don’t. Like I would be less anxious at a time while I still have the thoughts and my mind would go “oh so you like it you must be gay” or the other one where I’m not anxious and I think of my attraction for girls that I’ve had my whole life and my mind goes “see now you’re not into them you’re gay” like it’s so stupid but so effective. I clearly remember being into girls my whole life but my mind is making me believe that all these attractions and feelings for women were all fake or “a thing of the past”. But I can still get aroused by women but I have this weird anxiety going on which brings these sensations/feelings and it’s so weird. Today I’ve spent my whole day thinking about it like I’ve been doing for 5 months now. I know that this aint normal but my mind just won’t let me live in peace. I never cared about my sexuality cuz I simply liked women my whole life but now my sexuality is a fundamental philosophy. I hate this.
edimichael
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- 17w
acceptance
it feels like i accepted being gay and thats part of who i am but i still feel that tension and fake attraction whenever i see a man and i feel like i could be able to have a sexual intercourse with a man even though i dont want it is it still hocd or just denial? like i am feeling okey but there is still that doubt that how can i know that im not gay if i dont get disgusted by gay things or gay personality traits and at the same time i want to feel normal again like before
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