Ocdandme123
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rachelrocks7rachelrocks7
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Therapists start out small, as small as can be and then have you work up and up from there! There is a term in psychology called "foot in the door phenomenon" where if you do a little thing, the next thing seems easier because you have already done something! Once you begin, you will find it is not as hard as it seems because it will be a slow progression, and you will build confidence and experience along the way that will empower you througuht your journey! The tools that you learn to fight your OCD will stay with you forever and as you grow more confident with using them you will accomplish things you never ever ever EVER thought you could! For example, I used to have a panic attack every time I heard a noise that even resembles a wasp, and I never dreamed that I would be able to walk through a cloud of 200 of them on a hiking trail, but after only a few months of persistent exposure I did it!!! And you can achieve things that once seemed impossible! I believe in you and I wish you all the luck in your ERP journey!!! :)
rachelrocks7rachelrocks7
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And the most important thing is try to be positive no matter what, I know not everything is positive but try not to let yourself talk yourself out of it! Whenever you find yourself talking yourself out of something, try to think of reasons TO do that thing! Reasons why I SHOULD do ERP: And complete the list :)
Ocdandme123Ocdandme123
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I know it helps so much but hocd seems like the one that is like never ending and never gets better for people. And I am happy with my bf. The last thing I want is me to find out I’m a lesbian and leave him ? I just want to cry thinking about it. Idk if I’ll the confidence to do it because I’m so scared. I know I have to try. Ugh. I know it could help me and could turn out everything to be fine and I still will still be with my man but the possibility of me not makes my heart want to stop.
ginacginac
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I have HOCD, and I’m currently in ERP. I’m not gonna lie, it’s hard, and I also fear that it will make me “realize” I’m a lesbian. But part of treatment is confronting that fear. And it’s 100% not true that people never get better from HOCD- it’s one of the most treatable, as long as you put in the effort. Solid examples of people recovering from HOCD include Chrissie Hodges (on YouTube) and Rose Cartwright (author of Pure). ERP is the only way to get better, and stay better. Be brave!
Ocdandme123Ocdandme123
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I know I’m being stubborn as hell but confronting my fear of being a lesbian could make me realize I am and then I lose the love of my life that I’ve been with for a year. That’s a scarier fear than fearing being lesbian. ? idk how to do it
ginacginac
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@Ocdandme123 I am in your exact position. I have a boyfriend who I truly want to marry, and I also fear realizing I’m a lesbian who has been in denial. But you’re never going to think your way out of this. ERP is the only solution. I have worried about becoming a lesbian every week since I started ERP in late September, but it hasn’t happened yet, even after many exposures. I have a long way to go still, but it works if you stick to it.
Ocdandme123Ocdandme123
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@ginac I know it’s something I have to do. I’m just scared shitless. Has it been getting better for you at all?
ginacginac
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@Ocdandme123 I was scared too, but anything is better than living with OCD. I haven’t been in treatment long, so there have been ups and downs. But I’m improving. Just make sure you see a specialist, because they know how to handle mental compulsions.
ginacginac
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@Ocdandme123 If you need encouragement to start therapy, read Rose Bretécher’s article for the Guardian (if you google her name and Guardian it comes up). She has HOCD, and got better. Her story might motivate you.
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