BP1982
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pureolifepureolife
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Because it’s not your rational brain reacting to the thoughts. These thoughts are ego distonic (meaning they don’t align with your inner sense of self.) so while it seems easy to say “so what,” our self conception finds that much harder, mostly because OCD wants to be 100 certain that our actions and feeling and urges align perfectly with the ego.
erin174erin174
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What’s the absolute worst thing that would happen if you were gay?
I eat boysI eat boys
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Exactly, that’s what I’m still wondering
quentinquentin
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@I eat boys To me..it’s the fear and anxiety of losing a connection I had sooo much with the opposite sex.. And I have to endure sex that I’m not very comfortable with...and I would have to relearn myself bc what I thought was true wasn’t And if that isn’t true..what else could I be hiding?
I eat boysI eat boys
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@quentin Oh okay, that makes sense (not the obsession, but the way you could obsess over it i meant)
dpveritasgolddpveritasgold
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Have you done ERP where you repeat the phrase “maybe I’m gay or bi” over and over again, making sure to avoid all compulsions while doing it?
mangobangomangobango
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Yeah I’m definitely sexually attracted to women/opposite sex. But my head just fills up with bullshit. Even if i do simply think a guy is subjectivity attractive i get anexity and then the thoughts start to roll in
BP1982BP1982
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I know. It is so frustrating.
BP1982BP1982
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I haven’t done that phrase over and over yet.
dpveritasgolddpveritasgold
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Gotcha. I would recommend using the app to walk you through doing that kind of ERP. Best wishes and God bless.
BP1982BP1982
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Do the “therapy” section?
I eat boysI eat boys
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As someone who doesn’t have HOCD, can you please explain to me what’s so scary about being gay? I’m absolutely not trying to downplay your anxiety or experiences, I’m just confused
? ilshid? ilshid
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I don't have it either but I think I understand. I have this obsession that does like "what if I secretly like this person that I actually truly dislike?" and it's the most horrible thing, because I don't. It's not who I am. It's not the kind of person I'm attracted to and I really dislike them and am afraid I'm becoming like them.
erin174erin174
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I had HOCD and it’s mainly frightening because deep down you know that’s not what you like. Therefore thinking about being gay makes you really unhappy, not because being gay is bad, but because it’s not what you want. Also the societal factor and the stigma surrounding homosexuality really doesn’t help. (Obviously the stigma is way worse for people who are actually LGBTQ+ though, so not trying to say it’s at all the same)
? ilshid? ilshid
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@erin174 Yes, true. Someone who has HOCD probably doesn't think being gay is bad, they're just like "what if I am something that's perceived as bad by society" but they know they're not, it wouldn't make them happy. They fear being "forced" to act on an hypothetical desire that they don't really have. I'm experiencing kind of the same thing right now, not it's not about being gay or being straight, so I can relate. Personally I don't care about sexual orientation labels and stuff so I don't think OCD could 'attack' me that way.
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