Frustrated

Lately I’ve been feeling really frustrated in my relationship, and I’m trying to understand where these feelings are coming from. My boyfriend and I are long-distance, so the time we plan together really matters to me. Recently, when we plan date nights, his parents or siblings often pull him away at the last minute. For example, this past Sunday we planned a movie night. We both got snacks, were excited, and had everything ready. About an hour before, he told me his family was making dinner again (even though they had already eaten earlier) and that he had to help, which meant our date was canceled. This wasn’t the first time something like this has happened his family often calls him to help with things right during our planned time. What frustrates me is that it makes me wonder: if I were physically there, would he still walk away from our plans to help? It makes me feel like our relationship time is less important because we’re long-distance. I talked to him about wanting at least one dedicated date night a week, especially since we only see each other about once a month. His siblings get to spend time with their partners weekly without interruptions, and I brought that up not to compare us, but to show that they’re allowed uninterrupted time, while our dates get disrupted a lot. He told me we shouldn’t compare because every relationship is different, but I still feel like the interruptions are happening too often. Another thing that’s been bothering me is how our phone calls have changed. They used to be something we both looked forward to three hours of talking, laughing, and feeling close. Now our calls feel rushed, sometimes only five minutes, and I feel like the excitement has faded. It makes me worry because it feels like the “honeymoon phase” is already gone and we’re only eight months in. We’re both 21, and I know relationships change over time, but the shift feels so sudden that I don’t know how to process it. There’s also the issue of sleeping over. His parents don’t want him to stay the night at my place, but I can stay over at their house, just in a separate room and basically supervised. He insists it’s not about trust, but logically it really does feel like a trust issue. It’s frustrating because it feels one-sided and inconsistent, and I don’t know how to bring it up without causing more tension. Now I’m also stressed because I’m seeing his whole family on Sunday for an event where I’m getting an award. I’m scared it will feel awkward because I’m still hurt and annoyed about everything. He keeps trying to explain that because he’s home, his family depends on him to help. I get that, but it doesn’t feel fair that he’s always the one dropping everything, especially in a house with six kids. I guess I’m posting because I don’t know how to balance being understanding with still needing consistent quality time in a long-distance relationship. I’m trying to figure out if my feelings are valid or if I’m expecting too much.