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Rejecting him is the RIGHT thing to do when you don't want sexual acts. And honestly that's the end of it. Do NOT feel bad! He can deal with rejection, but imagine giving yourself to someone in that way when you don't want to. He's content with the fact you heard him out / and that's all you can do right now. I hope this helps!

I'm very new so I don't have any advice but I wanted to mention that you don't owe him sex any more than he owes you. You are allowed to say no for any reason at all. Literally.

I am also very new and I feel the exact same way that you do. If I say no to something, I always feel bad directly after saying no and sometimes I catch myself compromising after I say no, and then regret it later. Like a few people have said earlier, you don’t owe anyone sex if you don’t feel like it. My issue is that I would have felt the exact same way that you do, irritated, and then not wanting to do it later because I can get moody and hold onto feelings for a while. For comfort: Me saying that this is an issue (for me) is not a you problem that’s a me problem because I bring that outside of the bedroom as well. It seems like you are learning to manage your OCD, he also needs to learn to manage his rejection and emotions. If you don’t consent to sex, that’s not his problem, if you don’t feel comfortable, that’s that. I know that it’s uncomfortable to sit in that feeling of rejecting him believe me I’m still working on it. Also I’m very sorry for that rude comment that you got earlier, all you wanted was advice❤️

Um, instead of typing this on here , you should have communicated everything you just said to HIM, not us. Communication is important in a relationship.