Pocd

I am 20 and I was around a 17 year old in a group setting and I got like weird thoughts that I tried to ignore. I also like was trying to act “cool” or laid back bc I didn’t wanna come off weird. I was wearing revealing clothes so that also made me feel weird and wondered if he was looking at me weirdly. I feel horrible because when I saw him looking at my stomach I kinda turned and looked away trying to act like laid back idk it was a weird reflex like I wanted to make sure I didn’t look weird and I looked put together. And a part of me worries like I hope he doesn’t think im ugly but I get like that around anyone but that mixed with my ocd makes me feel like a p. I hate my brain

POCD

Maya :)

Date posted: 15h

hey, i experienced this exact same worry when i was struggling with this subtype!! it’s literally just your ocd trying to detect danger and find evidence/confirmation that you are what you worry. it’s not proof. try to treat this like any other intrusion and just let it be while focusing on other things. you got this <3

dee012

Date posted: 15h

@Maya :) Thank you! I try it’s just hard. Sometimes I have these weird reflexes of trying to look attractive or cool in subtle ways because im self conscious so ill like position myself differently or try not to look weird it makes me feel terrible

playwithyour...

Date posted: 15h

@dee012 totally! i agree this can be your brain looking for danger and trying to fit in. “brain, thank you for trying to protect me but I am Okay” helps me release that sometimes Cheesiest true advice: Be Yourself! Be In the Moment!! it is so much more important for you to experience the world than it is for you to be worried what the world thinks of you 🫶

playwithyour...

Date posted: 15h

heya 👋 anxiety and intrusive thoughts are often linked i think. (and in my experience) were you worried this guy would think about you? in an attraction way or in a judging way? avoidance is how anxiety gets prolonged. similar to intrusive thoughts, you can notice your thought and identify them as anxious or intrusive thoughts. this places you back in the role of someone observing your thoughts. :) i had immense anxiety in high school and college, mostly social anxiety related to what people thought of me. The best solution to this I have found is: You need to know yourself so well that no one’s view will affect your selfview! Confidence and being nice to yourself is good- would you judge someone else wearing a cute crop top? or would you be proud of them for being themselves and inspired to be yourself too :) I use that reframing as an opportunity to see my self expression as a truly good thing 🫶 i think the world is better when people feel free to be themselves. One way to get a clearer view of yourself is to dance around to music you like :) enjoy your style!!! You can also answer the 36 questions to fall in love just on your own! Or lookup a reflection question set about 2025. My friend has a few questions she asks on birthdays every year :) Enjoy getting to know yourself!!! Everybody is just a person dude :) I shied away from being weird and being myself as a younger kid. Be Brave 💖 people will recognize your authenticity and people will love being your friend. i’m sure of it :)

dee012

Date posted: 15h

@playwithyourtrash Thank you so much for this!! I appreciate it. I think what bothers me is feeling this way around someone that’s like 3 years younger than me. Especially if it’s the opposite gender. It triggers my pocd. But it was both I was worried he would Find me attractive or be judging me. But because I worried if he found me attractive but also worried if he was judging me I tried to act more chill and laid back so I would come off as like chill but not weird. Which made my pocd worse. I think once I try to feel comfortable with myself it will help with this part of my ocd.

playwithyour...

Date posted: 15h

@dee012 if he liked you or thought you were cool- what a compliment!! it doesn’t mean anything bad on either of your parts Nothing bad has been done by noticing someone is cool :)

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