ROCD

hi! I recently joined NOCD therapy so im still figuring out the app. anyways, here is my story right now. me and my partner have been together for almost 3 years and I constantly have thoughts that he will turn against me or cheat on me, suddenly find me unattractive, worrying if he is hiding something, etc. he is great at reassuring me but recently I found out that reassurance actually makes it worse? I dunno. I hate this, because we fight so much because of my accusations and me constantly asking to go through his phone. He tells me I seriously have nothing to worry about, but I’m worried that if I keep doing this, I’ll push him away. I feel as though I am already starting to push him away. We don’t live together yet so when we are away from each other, i get the feeling he’s looking at other women, etc. I even see it in my dreams. I hate my mind. Why do i ruin a good thing? i don’t wanna ruin this, deep down i trust him, why do i still worry? (sorry this was long. Thank you guys

Relationship OCD

Alliesun

Date posted: Yesterday

Hey, relationship OCD (ROCD) is a common form that OCD takes. OCD tends to find what you value the most and then makes you doubt and question it and cause you distress. So, because you love your partner, your OCD has latched onto that. Doing exposure therapy will help you work through those unwanted feelings. As someone who is married, I recommend letting your partner know about your OCD so that they have some frame of reference for why you feel the way you do. When I get ROCD, or any OCD, I let my husband know so he can understand.

grose24

Date posted: 20h

@Alliesun I’ve filled him in but I recently had a diagnosis and he’s still quite learning, it’s hard for me because when i get those thoughts I always need reassurance. But i know that’s not always good for OCD . I am starting ERP therapy so im hoping i can learn how to sit with it and not let it tear me apart. Thanks for your response

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Date posted: 18h

Something that has helped me when I battle these thoughts is just creating space for them in my brain. Every time we fuse with those thoughts, we dive into the OCD cycle and that’s what we’re trying to prevent. So instead of pushing them away or looking for reassurance, when you notice OCD thoughts appear call them out in your brain. “That is an OCD thought I’m having about my partner. You can be here, but I’m not going to give you any attention” then do something for yourself to try to take your mind off of it. It may keep coming back, but calling it out separates it from who you truly are and what your values are as an individual. It gets easier, sending you good vibes🫶

psychemeld1301

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 10h

There are also support groups! One is starting on 26 January and is one that you can bring your partner to! Thursday nights are just managing OCD and relationships. I have found it so helpful and validating!

Nicole.ocd

Date posted: 10h

@psychemeld1301 Wait, can you provide more info about this. I really want to attend.

newms920

Date posted: 9h

@psychemeld1301 Same — would also love some info

psychemeld1301

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 7h

@Nicole.ocd If you go on your NOCD app and go to the therapy tab, scroll down and you’ll see “support groups”. It’ll show you the support groups available as part of being a therapy member

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