I saw a couple of post about porn addiction on here and I want to talk about it. Personally I stopped watching porn it makes us men objectify women and look at them as sexual objects. What I also found out is that quitting porn was a major factor which helped me with my hocd. I didn’t really worry about hocd, I’m not saying I overcame it, it was still there but it wasn’t as bad. But then I made a big mistake I decided to masturbate and look at porn. Now I’m panicking again having anxiety.

Yeah, I don't feel to be an addict, my life doesn't revolve around it. It's even a sometime shared activity for the wife and I. I have no idea why I feel so shitty, she didn't even think it was a big deal.

@Careos If you enjoy it with your wife, then I actually think the porn itself is not such an issue, it's when people watch tonnes of porn by themselves to the detriment of their relationship (i.e. you ONLY watch porn and rarely have sex with your partner).

@Liv Moore I'd agree with that. If it becomes a placebo...it's an issue. Still regretting the cam stuff.

@Careos I see, slightly different in that sense. Sorry mate. Different for everyone.

@charliebee What do you mean?

@Careos It became an issue for me because a watched a lot on my own. I'm not sure really, I'm not an expert with this or anything and just wanted to try give some support really.

@charliebee Oh, I understand. I watch on my own too, just nothing habitual. Night or two here, week off, etc. My ruminating centers around why I went to cam site and paid for a private.

@Careos Mine has too, and just on various genres too. Just wish I never indulged. But I learnt I first watched porn at 8 years old, so it's just become a normal part of my life, if that makes sense. It's a thing I didn't really know but realised a lot later on.

@Careos I went on a lot of cam sites too, a lot of money wasted.

I agree without 100% i felt that I was more social and happy in general. Once I watched porn and masturbated I suddenly became angry and I didn’t want to be around people. And my hocd got a hold of me again

Interesting I thought they wouldn’t be paid that well

@William88 There are well known actors that are paid extremely well, and they seem to love their jobs. The problem is that there's the reverse situation where the actors are co-orced/forced into it or not paid at all. I think watching porn where you have reasonable confidence that that the actors are respected and paid, and it's not an addiction/ negatively affecting your relationship then it's ok.

@Liv Moore The company that our friend works for pays them all well. That’s why we only go to her for stuff.

@Nica Interesting. Yeah you can’t have it affect the relationship at all but lots of people watch porn that’s for sure. What’s not to like.

@Nica I’m curious what the company is called?

Do want to thank you for the words

Not the first time, but first in a while. Never been addicted to that at all.

@Careos It can really have negative effects can’t it

@William88 Yep. I've always been sexual and even my wife and I watch sometime. I have no idea why this time it hit me hard.

Or I cheated somehow.

@Careos I felt the same with an ex, but it's similar to porn, so try not to feel like you've cheated as you haven't. If she feels okay with it then that's something to help you relax about it. But if it makes you feel worse, then for your own sake you should try and stop to help yourself.

@charliebee We have talked about watching some together as a sort of immersion therapy. I pretty much shut down all my accounts, etc because I am just tense about it now...so maybe making it an us thing will help.