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Im realizing over and over again that everything leads back to Erp, DBT, and CBT. Ive been really hyperfixated on this one witch youtuber and binge watching her videos to test the waters of witchcraft and shadow work research (I have adhd so my version of "research" is binging one youtuber, writing whatever I feel is important, search whatever I don't understand, hop to another YouTuber, get even more info, rinse repeat, often going back to youtubers before as well) Anyway. So through working on Shadow Work and how all of that works im realizing a lot of it also applies to ERP. Discover the shadow -> OCD's notice the feeling. Talk to it, find out where its coming from -> acknowledge its ocd and feel where these feelings are (head, heart, etc). Then, for both, begin to break the habit. For example that was used in the video I'm watching: If you're a people pleaser, your shadow may be scared to upset people, so your shadow will convince you to stay put when you want to leave. Acknowledge its fears, begin to leave anyway. Disclaimer : this is not to say at all that your ocd is just shadows wrapped up in a false diagnosis. For some, theres no shadow involved at all. But for me, my ocd was developed through trauma in combination with BPD. For me it's a mixture of the two.

yahoojosh

Date posted: 13h

I’m curious how old you are and what work/income has been like for you. I’m exploring/mending similar terrain but the words shadow, BPD and DBT have not come into my vocabulary.

An0nymouss122

Date posted: 12h

@yahoojosh Im a young adult. Early 20s. I dont work and im not able to do most jobs. Im just on gov money right now. BPD is Borderline Personality Disorder. Its a disorder developed through childhood due to (typically repeated and severe) trauma. DBT was developed as a branch of CBT. Its become a great asset for many conditions including OCD and BPD. From my rusty memory it's therapy that focuses on expanding your mental capacity. So if you have a panic attack when ordering coffee, dbt teaches you how to manage stress enough to not get to the point of having a panic attack when ordering coffee. Shadow is referring to Shadow Work. Typically said to come from Carl Yung but its been around for longer. Its the idea that over time you learn whats ok and what isn't. Sometimes justified sometimes not. Parts of you are cast away because they are deemed unacceptable or unachievable. So if you were bullied for wanting to dress "girly" as a boy, your brain will toss out the idea that men can be feminine. These shadows can come out in hurtful or weird ways. If you toss out the idea that men can be feminine, you may lash out at a man wearing a dress, deeming it disgusting or inappropriate. Shadow work is the process of pulling those parts of you "out of storage" and figuring out how to learn about them, help them, and teach them what is genuinely okay. Ideally to prevent lash outs and becoming more consistent in yourself and your morals My post incorporates witchcraft, a lot of witches work with shadow work in a more..magical? Way. So that may be why my explanation before was more confusing, with a different subject being mixed in. But shadow work isn't only for witches. Just that the youtuber im watching mixes the two in. I hope I was able to clarify things better

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