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Think of it this way...... you can be anything you want to be... you could choose to be gay if you wanted to... but in this moment you do not want to be gay... this is evident due to your reactions to your thoughts..... if you wanted to be gay in this moment you would not be getting distressed by your thoughts... your thoughts are contradicting your current core values and beliefs. Try to realise that your thoughts are not you... no matter how weird they get.... best of luck, sending love your way
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https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=q2-_UUff3fo this video helps a bit
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Click the three dots then click copy then paste in your browser
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@JS0406 Yes she really did help. Thank you :)))
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@advice? No problem, she has a few other videos which are good
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Hey can I ask you a quick question??
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@JS0406 Do you suffer from hocd??
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@JS0406 Just anyone in general with hocd lol. I had a triggering thought
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@JS0406 Okay so I was just thinking and talking to someone about a guy choosing a girl over me and I was like “ya she’s so pretty. I don’t doubt he chose her over me I would to!” And like I freaked out and am now scared I’m a lesbian again or that means I’d date her. Cause I wasn’t even thinking about my hocd when I said that and it triggered it. Does that sound like something a straight girl can say? Or only like someone who likes girls?
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@JS0406 You can be honest
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@annehatesocd No you can find girls pretty and not be gay your just appreciating someone’s looks, that’s the thing I struggle with finding someone attractive vs real attraction
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@JS0406 No but the part I said “I would to” (like I’d chose her over me) is what freaked me out. Is that normal? Or does that seem normal? Like if you were talking about a girl who chose a guy over you and you thought he was better looking than you. Would you be like “I don’t blame her I would too”
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@annehatesocd But ocd will trick you
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@JS0406 Okay oh my gosh I know reassurance is bad but that calms me down a lot it scared me so much My dad whose as straight as can be has said “if I was a girl I’d screw him” and stuff and ya I’m like “if I said that I freak out” gosh I hate hocd
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And ya it is
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I keep having this weird feeling none stop that it’s most likely not HOCD and most my feelings. Like I’ve suffered none stop distress and unwanted thoughts the past few days. But those thoughts after a bit just feel weird not the kind of discomfort but are just their and stale. When I look at a guy I don’t feel anything but my thoughts sometimes compliment his looks or personality which makes me doubt my sexuality. I’ve never felt this weirded out. Because I’ve always been straight and still believe I am but I’ve never even had an emotional connection to someone of the opposite gender in fact. My view of the female body has been ruined with none stop pornography addictions. I don’t believe I’m gay but I feel like it may just be denial instead of HOCD but all my symptoms are literally HOCD. I don’t hate the idea of gay people but I can’t imagine or see my heart going off to like someone of the same sex. I haven’t really had any meaningful real life friends besides online but that also ended a few months ago. My only friend ever online that was my friend for the longest of time was a queer but I never really cared about what he liked. Like yes at some point I did try to challenge him with his own feelings but that didn’t last long I just accepted what he liked and moved on. I’ve never even touched let alone held a long conversation with a female. I’ve always been timid and shy around them but I can just say that towards male as well. The gay feelings feel so real. The thoughts feel a bit natural to me but I don’t want this. But I hate how I can’t just move on and be myself and love women when those thoughts demand attention and an answer. It won’t quit it. If I try to do a compulsion it calms down but it quickly becomes a problem again. I’m lonely I don’t have any friends or past relationships I can even think of helping me with the emotions. I still believe I’m straight and I just can’t see myself with a guy. It just doesn’t feel right for me despite my lack of experiences. I just wanna go back to how I was happy and loving girls and not having to question if it was a real feeling or just my natural timid nature. Everytime I think these distressing thoughts I always just wanna sit down and close my eyes and sleep. Because that’s where I can have peace of self. It sucks but I’m so exhausted of having to deal with emotional distress and I can’t even focus on my job as much. I want to meet new people discover my love for women again but I’m scared in the process I may discover I may be gay. Because deep down I know I wouldn’t ever be happy with myself if my greatest fears where confirmed. My dream of always being a father with a loving women and kids would be torn away by something I never asked for. Yes I’m religious, yes I come from a place that homosexuals are usually seen in a bad light. I just hate feeling this emotion that I may not be what I thought and having my dreams torn apart maybe true. I’ve read MUTIPLE articles about HOCD and seen MUTIPLE videos. I’ve come to the realization that I most likely have it. But it’s still hard when the feelings of maybe being gay maybe true you know? I hope I get better I hope I don’t suffer. I just wanna be happy with myself and loving females and I don’t wanna hate myself for feeling an emotion that never occurred to me more then a few times.
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Like I can’t think straight. This is making me doubt everything I’ve thought about myself and even makes me feel like I like the thoughts when I know I don’t. Like I would be less anxious at a time while I still have the thoughts and my mind would go “oh so you like it you must be gay” or the other one where I’m not anxious and I think of my attraction for girls that I’ve had my whole life and my mind goes “see now you’re not into them you’re gay” like it’s so stupid but so effective. I clearly remember being into girls my whole life but my mind is making me believe that all these attractions and feelings for women were all fake or “a thing of the past”. But I can still get aroused by women but I have this weird anxiety going on which brings these sensations/feelings and it’s so weird. Today I’ve spent my whole day thinking about it like I’ve been doing for 5 months now. I know that this aint normal but my mind just won’t let me live in peace. I never cared about my sexuality cuz I simply liked women my whole life but now my sexuality is a fundamental philosophy. I hate this.
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it feels like i accepted being gay and thats part of who i am but i still feel that tension and fake attraction whenever i see a man and i feel like i could be able to have a sexual intercourse with a man even though i dont want it is it still hocd or just denial? like i am feeling okey but there is still that doubt that how can i know that im not gay if i dont get disgusted by gay things or gay personality traits and at the same time i want to feel normal again like before
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