Having a crush and OCD = weirdo behavior

Great question! Before I knew I was riddled with OCD, I had very upsetting anxieties and debilitating issues around sex. It is definitely part of my OCD, but I didn't know that then. Regardless, dealing with these super personal and embarrassing anxieties has helped me with my OCD stuff too. Obviously it is different - it's bringing up sexual anxieties, rather than bringing up OCD, yet I've found my experience talking about the former really helped me with the latter. Both are embarrassing topics that we do not wanna talk about, but are massive elephants in the room for us. Addressing them can really help with making things less confusing and more transparent. Basically, I would be upfront and tell people that my anxiety was something I was dealing with, and it MIGHT MAYBE cause some issues, or maybe not. I relate to your point that you don't like revealing that stuff after one date - I don't imagine that many people do. Mentioning it just once is all you need to do, it doesn't need to be a big deal or a massive statement. I would tell people that it's something I'm dealing with. Then that's it. Obviously I did this when appropriate lol - that could be in cases where it seemed as though intimacy later that night was coming, or if we were already talking about that sort of stuff. Two things I noticed that help me now: 1) Most people are so so cool about these embarrassing sort of things. If they're on the date with you and seem eager, then they likely won't care, as they'll have gone into that interaction looking to impress/make you like them you anyways. Some people will even find it endearing or respectable that you can be open. Most people don't even know what OCD or ROCD looks like anyways, so it's hardly going to be like telling them you have an STD. They'll probably just be polite and maybe Google it after, and then not think it's that bad anyways (THEY DON'T KNOW WHAT WE KNOW). If they don't like what you tell them, well then that's their loss, and it's better for you that you're spending time on people that won't turn you away because of it. 2) It helped me massively to be transparent transparent in this way. It really gave me the space to be with that person and know that they're not completely in the dark about what is going on for me, so if anything 'weird' happened, they wouldn't be confused and think it was because of them. Hope this helps, sorry it's so long.