does anyone else have the type of ocd where you obsess over one person for years and only their opinion matters and you never feel good enough? i don't know if this is a specific sub group of ocd, so far for me it's just been considered pure o. but i've never met or heard of anyone who experiences it as well. it'd be cool to know that i'm not the only one because sometime i feel like an obsessive stalker even though i don't stalk??¿¿

right?? i am so afraid of telling people are having people know because i know they'd think that i was choosing to be obsessed over someone when in reality if i never thought about her again it'd be too soon

@dietcoke Yes! I have never explained this to anyone, but once my older brother found my diary and read about this. At that point, it was a different man. He said that I was an obsessed stalker- even though I have never physically followed anyone nor done anything that’s invasive of privacy.

@Kat9311 oh my god i am so sorry that happened to you. it's such an alienating and scary experience. and the thoughts tell you that you should worship them because that's what's right, but at the same time you're crazy for doing it. i wish that people who don't have ocd talked about the more pure o aspects of it.

@dietcoke Yes! I didn’t even realize someone could have OCD in the absence of compulsion... until today.

if you don't mind me asking, do following through with your compulsions give you some kind of temporary relief? because in my case, she's always on my mind but i hate looking at her feed or remembering moments that i wasn't a part of, i think it's because i can control(ish) the ones in my head and morph them to give me a sick kind of hope. but i know that real situations involving her will only end up hurting me.

@dietcoke Yes it does give me temporary relief. It can also give me the same high as if I was actually with my (limerent) person. When I look at pictures that I wasn’t apart of I fantasise me being apart of it. I fantasise about her constantly. I can’t help it.

@Unelitest Thank you for putting a name to this! Wow, I’ve made it my entire life thinking this was just me. As for their opinions... I imagine conversations with him because it’s soothing and I get a prediction of his opinion. ?

@Unelitest i did a little bit of research and limerence addiction seems to put into words how i feel. thank you for telling me about this. i think my symptoms may vary a little but it feels so validating to know not just that i'm not alone, but that there is an actual name for it. thank you :)

@dietcoke I love hearing this - The reason I’m studying to become a psychologist. I want to bring awareness to this. To let people know they are not alone. It’s a rarity in the psychology world and even more so in the extended world.

@Kat9311 Yes! I always labelled myself as a pervert and thought it was a weird thing that only I felt/do. I do the exact same thing. I constantly have conversations with her in my head and I fantasise what she would say/how she would react. I literally study her and remember her mannerisms, the inflections in her voice, her facial expressions. I could go on to her likes and dislikes but I won’t. Anything I do is to try and impress her.

@Unelitest that's really great, i'm so happy for you! it would've done wonders for me if i had had a psychologist who didn't look at my issues like they were junior high crushes and i was just over exaggerating. i've been googling wondering what i've had for years and have never once stumbled upon limerence.

@dietcoke I was actually thinking of making a Facebook page for it and share information. Do you think that would be beneficial even though I’m not an expert yet?

@Unelitest i think that anything would be beneficial. just knowing that you're not alone can help so much.