i don’t mean any harm, just trying to understand.. i know someone who is hocd but i think he might actually be gay. I don’t know how to help him bc i want to support him and his diagnosis but i also want him to just be free and not afraid to be with whomever he wants to be with. I personally believe that sexual orientation isn’t black or white. I don’t believe that anyone is gay or straight. I believe that we can have preferences but i also believe that sexual orientation was built off of generations of what society and religion says due to procreation. And bc of that i feel like hocd exists. Again, i mean no harm.. just trying to understand and help my friend.

I only question if he’s gay bc he said he’s had sex with a man to try it and enjoyed himself li way too muchX and he is still repulsed by it

Hi I have HOCD and right now it’s just kinda in the background is that normal

@hiiiii Yeah it’s pretty normal. Mine was in the background for a few years until it came front and center 9ish months ago.

Because he is attracted to men and does not want to be. Can you not be gay and hocd ?

@bluberries Hi so I have HOCD I’m still trying to get the story so has he said he is attracted to men

@hiiiii to me yes, but he is ashamed of it.

@bluberries Okay so he has admitted he likes guys sexually okay is it more of a social shame

@bluberries He says he wants a family with a woman and be normal but he can’t not think of men. Just because something is an unwanted thought does it mean it’s not true? That maybe he’s just afraid to indulge?

@bluberries Does he have ocd

@hiiiii I mean to my knowledge. he says that these thoughts are hocd and he regularly sees a therapist. i just don’t wanna seem like a bad friend bc i just want him to be happy.

@bluberries Like he’s disgusted with himself for it so i see there is a problem but just bc you are repulsed by your attraction does that make you hocd?

@bluberries Oh okay understand I have HOCD to in my case I don’t want to like women and it can be difficult due to past desions and memories that have happened HOCD can even give you false attraction which can make it even more challenging however you are not being a bad friend if it is HOCD unfortunately it will take time

@bluberries I would say its hocd. I mean hocd is not just exist because society I mean I have hocd and It’s just not that?

Hey I have HOCD and I’m getting uncomfortable now it’s like I don’t care anymore and I’m scared this means I’m lesbian

yes.... One night he just poured his heart out to me bc i accidentally saw gay porn in his phone and he saw. He forgot to close it out.

@bluberries Okay, it’s possible he can be confusing hocd with just internalized homophobia. I know this will be a trigger for hocd sufferers. But this man has been attracted to the same sex and no hocd sufferer has been attracted to the same sex. Just wanted to make that clear Incase they read this. Another reason in explanation to the porn is maybe he was doing a compulsion? I’ve seen some men watch porn as a compulsion. But uhm, I don’t know your friend. But with what you are telling me. If he has been genuinely attracted to the same sex and wanted to be with them but doesn’t like that he wants that. Then yes. It’s possible he can be gay/bi. But I think the best for you to do right now is support him. Don’t confront him about anything because that might really hurt him or trigger him. That goes for both, hocd and internalized homophobia. I hope he finds a way to be happy. But uhm idk that my opinion/advice? Sorry if anything was offensive.

@advice? And I’m really not trying to, and it’s why i put the trigger warning but i had nowhere to turn to, to try and help my friend he seems miserable. I have ocd but it’s not this and i just wanted to understand how to help him. Thanks

And I’m not speaking for all ppl with hocd to correct myself, honestly just speaking on my friend.

wait so you had hocd before and then actually turned out to be gay?