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Yes unfortunately it does! Sometimes I'm afraid of having sex!
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My ocd kind of clouded my sex drive. If I did have sex I would have a thought and it would kill the whole thing. If youre not actively obsessing, you may still be distracted by them. My hocd used to be really triggered too
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Yeah, im still distracted and kind of anxious. Im kind a emotionless
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Hi sorryitsemmy sorry to here this. That the ocd has clouded your sex drive. I have similar type of ocd now about masturbating obsessively as a ritual and also am still trying to find out what my sexual orientation watching pornhub videos has clouded which gender I am interested or attracted to? Have you experienced anything like this before with your ocd?
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@DylanMoss Yes I have experienced this! For a long time I struggled with hocd and doubting my sexuality because of ocd. So I watched lesbian porn to figure out if I was actually gay and it freaked me out. Ocd likes to target sexuality
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@sorryitsemmy I am not really understanding you. I get what HOCD is and that you doubt your sexual orientation. Are you a girl or boy? That is having intrusive thoughts of being gay or a lesbian?
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@DylanMoss I’m a girl, and I had intrusive thoughts that I was gay/lesbian
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I have no sex drive and don’t get wet like I used to. I get intrusive thoughts during sex that I can’t stand. But I also obsess over these thoughts all day. My lack of sex drive triggers my hocd and makes me feel like it’s cuz I don’t enjoy sex with my bf anymore cuz he’s a guy
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@gonnagetbetter Absolutely. It would make me feel a lot better. But obviously not take it away.
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@Ocdandme123 Same here girl. But im depressed and have anxiety too. I just want to enjoy life and sex again
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@gonnagetbetter jup. Im exhausted
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@gonnagetbetter And it’s almost like I don’t even enjoy it anymore. Cuz of the intrusive thoughts, not being wet enough for him, me worrying about not enjoying it like I should. It’s really scary. And really awful :(
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@Ocdandme123 I can relate. U are not alone!
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@elleeen It makes me think I’m gay ???
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@Ocdandme123 Me too girl, me too.
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For me I never lost the sex drive and I only have triggers and intrusive thoughts after Sex
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Intrusive thoughts about what after having sex? I have had asked intrusive thoughts of people having sex in my house. Have you ever experience sexual intrusive thoughts about images or thoughts you can’t get out of your head before?
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I did!
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What irritates me the most is that during intimacy with my husband, it happens that OCD puts an image and scene in my head, my sister or someone for whom my OCD is attached and it's literally as if that intimacy is happening with that person, and it seems real that I can and it's exciting! I'm working on ERP during that, but it's still hard to digest... I don't know if it's the same for you?
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Hi everyone, I’m a 30-year-old woman, and I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 5 years. I’ve always felt emotionally close to him — he’s caring, supportive, and we planned a future together, including having a family. I don’t want to leave him. He means so much to me. But for a while now, I’ve been obsessing over the fact that I don’t feel much sexual attraction to him anymore. It’s not like I never felt anything — when we first met, there were butterflies, excitement, emotional connection… something real. He was never “just a friend” to me. But the physical side of the relationship feels like it’s slowly faded, and I’m panicking about what that means. I keep thinking things like: – “Maybe I chose the wrong person.” – “You can’t be in love without sexual desire.” – “If I was truly in love, I would still want him.” – “What if I’ve been lying to myself this whole time?” Sometimes my body reacts — I can feel physical closeness or even arousal — but my mind shuts down and says: “no, this isn’t right.” Other times, I feel tension, resistance, or even disgust during intimacy, and I can’t tell if that’s anxiety or if something is fundamentally wrong. What makes this even more confusing is that I truly believe that real love includes sexual attraction. For me, it’s all part of one feeling — not separate. So if the attraction is gone, does that mean the love is too? Is it possible that this is still OCD — that my mind is obsessing and disconnecting me from my real feelings? Has anyone experienced something similar? Any support would mean so much. I feel so stuck between my mind and my heart.
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I’m struggling with something I’m afraid to even admit out loud. I’ve been in a long-term relationship with someone I love deeply. He’s kind, safe, and emotionally close to me — and we’ve built a life together. But I keep obsessing over the fact that I don’t feel much sexual attraction anymore. Or maybe… I never truly did? At the beginning, I felt butterflies, excitement, connection — and I assumed that meant I was also attracted to him physically. But now, after reading so much and reflecting more deeply, I’m starting to wonder if I ever truly felt sexual desire in the way I was “supposed to.” Maybe my feelings were more about emotional longing, comfort, and romantic closeness — but not sexual chemistry. And now I don’t know what that means. OCD makes it so much worse. It constantly tells me: – “If you really loved him, you’d want him.” – “You’re leading him on.” – “What if you’re lying to yourself?” – “If you try to fix this and fail, you’ll have to leave.” I feel stuck between wanting to fight for this relationship — and being terrified that trying will just prove it’s hopeless. Has anyone experienced something like this? Can OCD really make you question something so deeply personal? And how do you move forward when even trying feels terrifying? Any thoughts or support would mean the world right now.
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