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I had this theme too but trust me even tho it’s cliche narrsasicts sociopaths etc don’t care or wonder if they are also I’m a bit selfish and you can change that I’m trying to
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Yeah me too! And sometimes when I feel pretty I take selfies and stuff... but then I get so worried. And I wonder ‘what’s wrong with loving yourself’ but I just feel so vain.
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@Eden :) Yeha same I have terrible self esteem and I think I may have some form of mild body dysmorphia but yeah I can relate
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@hiiiii Honestly I think the root of all this is probably low confidence. I have low self esteem too, so when I feel pretty, I guess I go all out because I cherish it more? Idk!
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@Anonymous Hey, do you think people can change? Like can I get less selfish and be more caring?
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Hi Eden I am currently at the same theme also, and it’s seem tha low confidence and low self esteem feeds this OCD form. Last week I just closed all social media, I stopped the selfies and I started to enjoy my moments at the present just for me. It seems that it help a lot because when you have low self esteem you also worry how others see you. So now I just to accept the situation and be more in the present moment. OCD lives in what if, in what is it cannot survive. It’s not easy to stay in the moment, but when I am, I feel myself again and I the moments. This can last to 10 min, to 1 hour, to a day. The more you bring yourself back to present the more you stop to feed OCD thoughts.
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I love that a lot! Thank you so much. I I would like to be more mindful and live in the moment more, and I’m so glad it’s helping you.
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Thanks a lot, I wish it will help you also, try not to lose hope, we will all have dark days we just need to survive them. Try to be gendle and kind to yourself and breath, it will pass as it always does. Try to be more on the know and just leave the thoughts in the background.
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You’re right. I think I need to remember that sometimes. I guess I just compare myself to people so much, and sometimes the thoughts are so alarming. It makes me mad at myself when I think I’m better than others, but I guess it’s because I feel worse than everyone so often. Or maybe that’s just an excuse. I don’t know... I’m getting lost in the spiral. I need to leave it in the background, it just feels wrong of me to I guess.
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I am consciously suffering from OCD from more than 7 years. I manage to leave for a few years completely free and now I am learning to accept that it may comes and go for the rest in my life. One thing I learn through the years is that OCD can be this scary monster in our mind but it can also be a teacher of what really counts in life. It teach how to be more sensitive to the pain of other people and how to enjoy the little things in life, family, friendships, the sounds of the birds when the noise dissapears. It teach how to find the courage and to win any kind of fear, how to be kind to my self and now it’s teaching me how to be more on the now and the here. So try no to beat up yourself and to understand immediately, it takes time, mistakes, back steps, but eventually you will get there, as everyone else in this app. Try to enjoy your free OCD days the most you can and try to survive the most, through time, therapy, books, support and self realization, you will get there and you will feel again the wind on your face, the sound of the sea, the sun, and you will smile and you will breath.
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That’s beautiful... thank you. I’m grateful to be on this journey and I’m grateful for everyone who has helped me a long the way!
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How can I learn to be more sensitive to others?
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I feel like a lot of my fears are actually just centered around what other people think of me because I'm scared of being abandoned and no one loving me anymore. I don't actually feel like my fears are about being a good person. And then when I have this thought it makes me feel even worse because many people here genuinely seem to be scared of being a bad person. I feel like an actual bad person who's more concerned with appearances than anything else :(. I keep having these thoughts like what kind of person am I when I'm alone and with my thoughts. And then I get scared to be alone.
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Around 10 years ago when I started getting violent OCD intrusive thoughts, I also started fearing that I was a sociopath. I began overanalyzing everything — especially my emotions. It's like if I could prove I had emotions it proved I wasn't a sociopath. I care deeply about my family — I worry about them, I want them to be safe and happy, I want them to get theit deepest desires — but I don’t know what love "feels" like, if its supposed to feel like anything. People describe love as this warm, obvious, fuzzy emotion, but I don’t experience it the way I think I’m supposed to. Is it supposed to be intense? Constant? Loud? Because I’m not sure I’ve ever felt that. My family isn’t very emotionally expressive either. I cherish hugs from them when I get them, I initiate most hugs with my parents (but I don't like hugs from other people, like co workers) but overall my family doesnt show affection much, and that’s made me question if I’m even capable of love. I overanalyze my feelings constantly — especially after realizing I don’t feel connected to God in the way my old church said I should. I don’t love God. I don’t feel anything toward Him — we’ve never met obviously so I just never got a connection with Him. But growing up, that felt like a sin in itself. As a teen, I felt ashamed knowing I cared more for my parents than for God, especially when church messages said God had to come first. There’s a song by Mary Mary that says, “I love you more than my mother, my father…” and it used to make me feel broken. My feelings were in direct contradiction with what I was taught, and that shame never fully left me. OCD latched onto that hard. It’s only after a coworker passed away — and I found myself crying multiple times over it — that I realized I do care deeply for people. But even that realization felt pathetic. Why did I need such an extreme moment to feel something “real”? & why didn't I care for another creepy bigoted co worker when his son was sick? I felt nothing. I’m scared my OCD is convincing me that I’m heartless, even though I want connection. I crave love. I like hugs. It’s exhausting and terrifying to doubt my own humanity like this. I hate this fear. I hate that I don’t trust myself. I hate that OCD makes me question my morality, my emotions — everything that makes me me. Has anyone else experienced anything like this? How do I even explain this to a therapist
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Input please. Whenever I have a thought or come across something like news about pedophilia or other awful things, I feel like I try to make it okay in my head. Like I am trying to explain it away, excuse it. And when I look at that from a more compassionate lens, I think maybe I am just trying to process something bad. Maybe I am trying to make something horrific feel a little less horrifying so I can keep existing in a world where it happens. Because the truth is, whenever I hear about something terrible, it does not just go away. I do not have that ability to shove it aside and move on. I have to live with it. I carry it. I live my life alongside these awful things that exist. But then, when I look at it through a different lens, it gets darker. Maybe I am not trying to process something bad. Maybe I am actually trying to justify it. Maybe I am trying to convince myself it is not that bad… because deep down I agree with the people who do it. Or maybe I am afraid that if it were not so stigmatized, I would somehow be okay with it. And that thought worries me. I know that why someone holds moral values is not as important as the fact that they do. I know that what matters is your actions and your commitment to being a good person. It still scares me. I keep asking myself: am I trying to justify something awful just so I can mentally survive it, or am I trying to justify something awful because some part of me agrees with it?
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