The fact that I haven’t been In the mood to do anything sexual with my boyfriend just makes me even more worried and scared that I’m just lesbian at this point. I keep asking myself questions, but I just feel like lazy and stuff when it comes to doing sexual things now. I wasn’t like this before so idk what happened. No I’m not on medication, I don’t really have anxiety so idk why I’ve been feeling like this.

Thank you so much. I’ve been beating myself up so much lately, I feel so sad and just not good. Worst part is my boyfriend isn’t supportive of me and how I feel.

@advice? I tooootally feel you! broke down about it today because we had a lil sexual moment and I kept checking to see (sorry if TMI) if I was wet down there and I wasn’t because the whole time I was sooo in my head about the whole thing and so I just started crying and kept trying to talk to him about it but I guess he just doesn’t think any of it is as big of a deal as I do. it’s super hard when you’re with someone who doesn’t deal with the same thoughts, obsessions, compulsions, etc as u do. it totally makes sense for u to feel sad and not good, i feel the exact same way and I’m so sorry you’re going through this. it just feels like everything (the relationship, me as a person, everything) is doomed.

@rlr Yes he never understood my obsessions and it really just sucks. I used to check a lot when it make to being sexual, but now I don’t even feel like doing anything sexual. It really just bums me out because I was never like this but also it makes me feel like crap. Like if something is wrong with me? So it’s really crappy. But I sucks because it almost feels like there’s no explanation as to why I’m like this and that’s the worst part you know. But I mainly deal with hocd at the moment.

@advice? ohh yeah okay sometimes hocd and rocd go hand in hand they do for me. yeah that’s super annoying and uncomfortable for him to not understand you but i guess we can’t make people understand us if our brains just work differently. like a non ocd brain just doesn’t get it. it makes sense for it to make you feel like crap, it makes me feel the same way :/ it’s honestly one of the (if not THE) worst things i’ve been through

@rlr Yes I had rocd which lead me to hocd, but I’m mainly going through hocd. But yes it is annoying but I understand why they wouldn’t you know. If I didn’t have it I wouldn’t either, but that’s okay just asking as they respect it. But he doesn’t so that’s what sucks.

@rlr Thank you for talking to me btw I really appreciate it.

@advice? yeah I totally understand that, it’s super inconsiderate that he doesn’t respect it. what sorts of things does he do to make you feel disrespected about it if u don’t mind sharing? and no problem! talk all you want because it honestly helps me a lot too to talk to others who are going through something similar

@rlr Well he knows about my last obsession, that was thinking he’d murder me and it caused me major anxiety and terrible thoughts just like any obsession. But it lead me to break up with him. He’s been really selfish about it thinking he’s the only one who suffered when I did as well. So he just calls them dumb and calls me selfish for it. As for the thoughts I have now, he doesn’t know. But me not being in the mood because I’m sad or something. He kinda Just gets upset with me or just upset at it. That to me hurts me, because it makes me feel uncomfortable and disrespected because he doesn’t understand. Or he just won’t stop bringing sex up and that’s like pressure. Hope this made sense lol.

@advice? okay I see, my boyfriend kind of used to put blake on me because my obsession has been around us having sex so one time after sex I kinda freaked out and cried and told him idk if I’m attracted to him which made him super insecure so he’s kinda blame me for that because I got super depressed after that and he’s like u hurt me too why should I have to take care of you right now??? that’s so uncomfortable and gut wrenching for someone you love to act that way and I totally understand that dynamic. and I totally feel the discomfort of trying to make excuses in order to avoid sex, I’ve been doing it for over a year now lol. If u don’t mind me asking how old are you guys? my boyfriend and I are 22