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It is difficult to break the cycle at first. The key is start allowing those thoughts to occur without you questioning them or trying to make yourself feel better. When they happen, try to let them flow through and even say things like, I might be attracted to girls, but that’s okay. You will feel very anxious at first, but the longer you continue, your anxiety will start to subside and the thoughts will seem silly.
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Hey, I have HOCD as well and it’s my only intrusive thought. I think I have other intrusive thoughts? But HOCD is the most noticeable and scary and convinced me that it isn’t OCD Because it’s my only OCD thought. So I feel relieved knowing I’m not the only person dealing with one OCD theme!! But ERP is super helpful and don’t dig into your past, it makes things worse!
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Omg its my only theme too thought i was the only one ??♀️
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Hang in there ladies we can get thru this ??
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Glad to know I’m not alone!
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It may be better to ease into exposing yourself so that you don’t overdo it. Your therapist can help you structure an exposure hierarchy so you can start small and work your way up. Hang in there! If it wasn’t OCD you wouldn’t be feeling so unwell and anxious!
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Yes, it does! I honestly can’t look at my past crushes anymore with ocd saying it wasn’t real
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Definitely not alone girl ? We got this!
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wow this is absolutely identical to my HOCD. i had never had these thoughts before until one day i looked at my friend and thought that she was so pretty, because she is, and it went into a downward spiral from there. but therapy really helps. talking about it really helps. and there’s a lot of ups and downs, right now i’m kinda dealing with a down because it happens sometimes, but you have to just keep going. HOCD doesn’t have to be around forever, it can go away!!! i always feel like mine tricks me into thinking one thing and not the other, like it purposefully tries to get me to like certain things when i know i don’t. then i go into a cycle of in denial where it tells me i actually did like it i just won’t admit it. but i know that’s it’s just my ocd and not me, but learning to separate the two is hard
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this makes me feel so much better that so many people have commented on this and they deal w the same thing i do
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Yes guys it makes me feel amazing to know I’m not alone. I know we are all going to be ok even though it’s tough now??
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Exactly it makes me feel a lot better knowing other people go through this. Do you ever feel like your HOCD tricks you into remembering things differently? Or that you have feelings for someone? It’s so cruel!
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Yeah it’s a great feeling to know we aren’t alone
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If anyone wants, im in a group with other girls dealing with HOCD, ROCD, etc. on Instagram. Add me @nadselhag and I can add anyone to the group!
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Think logically. Literally. Take me as an example. I have hocd and my obsession is “what if I’m gay”. I’ve liked girls my whole life, I can still get aroused by them and I can’t get the same instinctive reaction from a guy. So I can’t be gay. Sometimes ocd will go to something else once you prove it wrong. Maybe like. “What if I’m bi” again I can only get aroused by girls. Sometimes when I’m not thinking about it I can even get aroused when sitting next to a girl or when I’m sitting next to one or even when I’m touching one in a non sexual way. Something that never happens or has happened with a guy in my life. Don’t start panicking. Just “realise” who you are and who you’ve been.
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I need too know that I'm not insane, really. I am 16 and for the past two weeks, this has been completely ruining my health and happiness. I only recently came out as a lesbian like 3 months ago after a lot of confusion about my attraction since I used to think I liked men. At first, I felt so sure that I liked women, but lately, I've been having these unwanted thoughts about the possibility of liking men. I never used to feel this way, but now, every time I look at a man, my brain obsessively fixates on it. It forces me to imagine kissing him, loving him, things I don’t want, and then tries to convince me that I do. It’s painful. The thought of this fills me with fear and anxiety, leading to panic attacks and breakdowns. I don’t want these thoughts. I hate them with every fiber of my being, but I’m terrified that one day I’ll act on them and somehow like it. I used to think I liked men, but back then, I was in a very unhealthy space in a time of escapism and something deeply parasocial. I’ve only ever liked the attention and validation a man could give me, but these experiences are somehow treated as further proof that I’m "bisexual." I’ve never been in a real relationship with anyone, which makes my brain constantly challenge me—telling me, “You don’t even know what love feels like.” It won’t shut up. It keeps obsessively trying to make me prove that I’m a lesbian, testing my reactions and questioning my certainty. Is this normal?
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I struggle with HOCD or SOOCD. I’m a married young woman to an amazing husband. I’ve had this since I was 16 but it only came in flair ups. However this round started in October, and it’s been really rough and I would just break down all the time. I went up on my medication and I actually noticed a difference! My thoughts were still very present but I wasn’t really paying attention to them or giving them power. HOWEVER right when I thought I was getting better, my brain started feeling and saying to myself that I just know I am bi but you want to make excuses for it like “oh it’s normal to find someone hot since we as a society have an interpretation of what that looks like” or “I see the girl as myself and that’s what ‘turns’ me on” or “well I mean that girl looks kind of like a man” and it’s it’s making me spiral. I won’t ever come out as Bi as deep in my soul I don’t feel I am. I have always wanted to be with men sexually and romantically and that has not changed but my brain is making me believe I am and I just don’t want to admit it. Please help me, what has helped you?
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