Anonymous
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- 5y
MM
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- 5y
The best way I have found to deal woth OCD is to force myself to sit with my thoughts and not “react” to them. I have heard it referred to as radical acceptance. I believe that those of us with OCD have powerful minds and that we can use that strength “against” OCD by not giving it the attention it so desperately wants. We all have thoughts that are constantly running through our minds - we need to accept those thoughts by not reacting to it. Just sit with the thoughts and they will disappear. Stay strong brother. It’s a battle but you can do it. Just don’t react to the thought and force yourself to sit with it.
AnonymousAnonymous
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- 5y
Thank you! I really appreciate your advice! That is definitely something that I will start doing. Good luck with your journey my friend.
MM
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- 5y
We need to remember to be kind to ourselves. We are not perfect nor should we be. We are human beings with emotions and thoughts. Don’t fight the thoughts - remember that OCD is always trying to trick us by making certain thoughts very “real” or meaningful. Remember: they are just thoughts. Accept them (radically accept them) by just sitting with the thought, letting yourself feel the anxiety and breathing through the thought/anxiety. It will dissipate if you do NOT react to it and don’t give it any meaning. It’s just a thought that OCD is using against us. It’s just stupid OCD and we are strong...we can just sit with it and recognize it’s simply OCD trying to mess with us. Good luck my friends. I am in the battle with you!!
MM
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- 5y
Yes, I believe I do. I am new to the term but based on research it seems to describe my OCD. I’m glad to know that there is a term to describe this. Thank you!!
AnonymousAnonymous
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- 5y
Do you have any tips on how to cope with it?
chamomilegirlchamomilegirl
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- 5y
I am having a really hard time with real event ocd these past few days
AnonymousAnonymous
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- 5y
Do you ever feel like you have symptoms of possible false memories in regards to the real event?
chamomilegirlchamomilegirl
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- 5y
@Nick21 1000%. This is what has made my anxiety even worse these past few days. Since the events were a long time ago my memory is foggy and my mind fills in the gaps with the worst things i could possibly imagine
AnonymousAnonymous
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- 5y
@chamomilegirl Exactly. My event happened around 5 months ago, and I spend hours and hours on end trying to reimagine it in my mind, and I feel like it gets more and more distorted every day.
sam.sam.
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- 5y
Do y’all feel like you have to confess what you did or if you don’t your like a terrible person?
AnonymousAnonymous
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- 5y
I’ve tried confessing to a handful of people, and everyone that I’ve told said it wasn’t a big deal at all, and I’m overreacting, which is probably true. I just can’t shake the feeling that there will be consequences in the future.
sam.sam.
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- 5y
Hey guys. So I am struggling with this too. I was at work the other day and saw these two cute guys(I didn’t even talk to them or even really look at them) , I wear a ring on my left finger just bc (I’ve been with my boyfriend I adore for 3 years) well idk if I actually was covering the ring with a paper and I had a thought of “omg your a horrible person bc you are hiding your ring so these guys don’t see it” and now I don’t know if I even actually hid it or why I even had that thought because I don’t want to be with any other guy like I never even talk to other guys bc i have 0 desire. So now I feel this horrible guilt and feeling like in”cheated” by possibly hiding my ring even though I don’t even know why I did that. And I have so much urgency to confess and tell my boyfriend and I feel like If I tell him then more real event ocd cycles will pop up and it will never end. Help.
MM
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- 5y
@sam. That sounds like OCD trying to trick you!! Tell yourself that these thoughts are simply OCD messing with you and then radically accept the thought and sit with the anxiety. I also find that breathwork (focus on my breath) while I am sitting with the anxiety really makes it much easier. You can do it. And you are not alone. ??
sam.sam.
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- 5y
@AG KNIGHT But I did hide the ring subconsciously. Even though idk why. And I guess I knew I was hiding it and then ocd went crazy. I just feel like my boyfriend doesn’t deserve to have to put up with my crazy self.
AnonymousAnonymous
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- 5y
@sam. That sounds like OCD to me too. I feel like OCD latches on to things that scare us/or make us ashamed the most.
MM
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- 5y
@Nick21 That is exactly right Nick. I experience it the same way.
MM
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- 5y
@sam. Hi Sam - we have all had these situations where you are not sure what is real or not. I think the key is to be kind to yourself and be okay with possibly making a mistake (not saying it was a mistake but if you think so then forgive yourself). We are always so tough on ourselves and sometimes we need to sit back and just be kind to ourselves. With that said, to me it seems like this is OCD trying to trick you. ?
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- 17w
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- 10w
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