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- 5y
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- 5y
I have had this bad throughout my 27 year marriage. alwsays questioning and doubting. envious of others for what looked like better relationships. but...now its stopped. whst I started to focus on was how imperfect all of life is and people - including me - are. instead of picking out all the flaws in my spouse I started to see flaws in every human being even when someone appears perfect. I started to value the time we have grown together and the suffering we endured but supported each other. as we've grown older this has become easier. it sucks big time when u srecexperiencing it. so many times I was so angry at my spouse for not being what I needed - or thought i needed. now i am so grateful i didnt divorce. shes exactly what i need in my life. imperfect is just fine by me.
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- 5y
U have just given me so. Much inspiration to fighting I want my partner so bad and feel. So guilty for feeling this way at times.....
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- 5y
I also experience difficult thoughts about being in a relationship. My bf really is amazing about it. It was very hard for me but I decided to tell him everything really everything. I thought that maybe it would be to much for him but the opposite was true. Now he understands my reactions and worries better. But important is that you have to experience 'trust'. When my bf has to go away for a week I get nervous already. But everytime we talk about it. It's stressful but every time I see that it's not that hard. Step by step i get more trust. So this is how I try to make it easier. I know it's not that easy but I believe it will help. I hope you feel better about it soon!!
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- 5y
I get like this 1 minute I know. I want to be with her the next I could be driving along and just get a twist in the gut and think u don't want to be with her just end it ur lying to urself etc etc the more attention I pay that thought and try and stop it the worse it gets and I feel even worse the anxiety get almost unbearable where I get the urge to just end it I even told myself. I was going to. End. It today on my way home from work I got distracted by a fone call got home walked in u know the first thing I did.... I gave her a kiss and hug told her I loved her and asked if she had a good day..... Then 5 mins later I remembered I was meant to break up in my opinion rocd is 1 of the worst its plays with emotions send terrible thoughts and gives mixed feelings that make u unsure but I'm starting to. Realise no. Matte the situation we will never be sure just have to go. With it and if we make a mistake along the way so be it
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- 20w
When my boyfriend and I are apart, it honestly feels like I've lost all feelings for him. I start questioning everything, wondering if I even love him at all. Then, when we're finally together again, the memory of those earlier doubts creeps in and completely ruins the moment. I get so caught up in overthinking and analyzing my feelings that I can't even enjoy being with him. It's like I'm constantly second-guessing myself. The worst part is, sometimes later, when we're still together, I do feel the love. But then the anxiety kicks in again! I start worrying that I'm just faking it because I had those doubts earlier in the day. It's this endless cycle of questioning, doubting, and overthinking, and it's exhausting. I'm really struggling to stay present when we're together, and it feels like this constant cycle is preventing me from truly connecting with him. We have been together for three years and we love together, and I just started feeling this way about a month ago; it’s been almost every day since. One day, I randomly thought about breaking up with him. Our relationship is healthy, especially compared to my previous toxic one, where I was anxiously attached for two and a half years. My boyfriend is very supportive of me. I have talked to him about my doubts and everything I’m experiencing, and he continues to support, care for, and help me through it all. I am very grateful for that. One aspect of my current relationship that I would like to improve is our communication, but we are both willing to work on it together. I often find that my overthinking leads me to question whether I really want to try to fix things or if I’d rather just continue as we are. This creates a constant push and pull in our relationship. Has anyone else experienced something similar? Any advice on how to break this cycle and just be present in the moment? I'd love to hear from anyone who's been through something like this.
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- 15w
My psychologist tells me because my thoughts are based off of facts/ broken boundaries which is why I am having thoughts of am i in love , am I settling , and feeling guilty I should let him go to find someone who wouldn’t doubt him that I do not have rocd. She states rocd is intrusive , irrational thoughts not based off of real facts and I may have ptsd not ocd. He kissed someone else before we were official and he finds a certain type of female attractive that I find disgusting . So I spin about these issues all day long to the point I’m so unhappy with him and had to break up . It’s been over a month now but I’m still severely anxious and depressed The thing is I can’t stop thinking about this 24/7 with severe anxiety and depression and nothing is helping me . Can someone please tell me their thoughts
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- 13w
Ii spoke w my bf this weekend and he mentioned that he has thoughts just like me, but his don't bother him like me. I then felt a lot better and he tried dissecting one of his thoughts like I usually do and realized it felt more real for him after. That made me realize that none of my thoughts were ever true and I blew them up. However, yesterday I had a thought ab “wait wut if you liked that one guy? How dare you bc youre supposed to love your bf and not secretly like someone else” and treated it as I usually did bc I accidentally wanted to see if it was true but didn't rlly but I would check to see if it was there and now that thought feels so so so real now and I feel really bad how do Ik it's not real? I feel so bad and guilty bc lividly this makes 0 sense but it feels so prominent. It felt pretty real when it happened yesterday too. And now I feel awful bc how is it possible after my clarity the other day? Why does it feel so prominent 😞😞😞
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