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Remember that intrusive thoughts are not a choice and happen to you. I know it’s really hard to remember this but they’re no more important if they pop up during intimacy or during cooking dinner! During intimacy, try practicing mindfulness. Focus on your 5 senses, especially touch. Kimberley Quinlan has some really good episodes on this topic on her podcast Your Anxiety Toolkit, check it out! Sending lots of good vibes to you ?
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I'm trying really hard to keep my OCD out of my bedroom. My OCD has been a lot worse for the past 6 months and being intimate can be scary. For me, I get anxious thinking about it because I get scared that I'll have an intrusive thought (then the rumination cycle begins on why I'd be scared of sex with my wife if 1 3 years). But once I'm in the situation I try to be present and if an intrusive thought comes up, I breathe acknowledge accept and move on. Sometimes it's easier, sometimes it's not.
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Maybe try to think about the thoughts while not having sex or masturbating and become a little more comfortable with the presence of the thoughts. Once you become a little more comfortable with them, try out some things and if the thoughts come up just sit with anxiety. You can slowly progress it but I can assure you the more you sit with anxiety and let it be while doing your thing the better it becomes
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Thank you all!! ?
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I'm not sure but I just came here to day I relate. Masturbation has become a difficult thing to do. Constantly interrupted with thoughts and feel anxious before doing it.
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I have just recently realized that I had SO OCD. This began whenever I was watching porn and had an intrusive thought about the guy in the porn. It was more minor at first, it was a majority of what I was thinking about throughout the day but it didn’t feel as distressing at first. If I had downtime to think about it, it would affect me but if I was just going about my day I wouldn’t notice it. I began going through the compulsions of checking myself. This lasted for a while until another obsession occurred. Then it seemed as if my SO OCD took a step back. I would have flare ups but they would seem to pass. Recently, I had a very bad night of constant compulsions and looking at pictures and imagining things to check myself. After that night it was very distressing, it affected me to the point where people around me began to notice and ask me if I was okay. One of the big reasons I was so upset was my girlfriend, we have been together for over 3 years and I want to spend the rest of my life with her. I was thinking “Oh my god, if I am gay I can never be with her.” I would sit and cry about it thinking I would lose her and that might life would change because I was gay. I finally had enough and talked to her and my parents. We did some research and I was so shocked to find out that I had a form of OCD, it was like a weight being lifted off my shoulders just knowing that other people have been where I am and that I’m not gay. However, I may have naively expected the compulsions and obsessive thoughts to go away now that I knew I had an actual problem. But I found that the compulsions and thoughts were still there and I was going to put some effort into getting better. I have researched and now know what to do when experiencing intrusive thoughts, yet I still have been performing the compulsions which is just feeding into the OCD. I find myself having intrusive thoughts and then start performing compulsions to see if they are true. What really bothers me is when I have an intrusive thought that tells me that I do like something. But when I think about it I have no desire to pursue those thoughts. However when I feed into the compulsions they just seem to feed into each other. It is like my OCD ignores all the things that I know I like and goes straight to panic mode. I am also trying to do ERP and am going to start doing my best to get better. Does anyone have any tips for not performing the compulsions no matter how anxious you are feeling and no matter how real the intrusive thoughts seem to feel?
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How do you ocd sufferers deal with thoughts during sex Have you done erp for this? Do you stop or continue?
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What irritates me the most is that during intimacy with my husband, it happens that OCD puts an image and scene in my head, my sister or someone for whom my OCD is attached and it's literally as if that intimacy is happening with that person, and it seems real that I can and it's exciting! I'm working on ERP during that, but it's still hard to digest... I don't know if it's the same for you?
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