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Remember that intrusive thoughts are not a choice and happen to you. I know it’s really hard to remember this but they’re no more important if they pop up during intimacy or during cooking dinner! During intimacy, try practicing mindfulness. Focus on your 5 senses, especially touch. Kimberley Quinlan has some really good episodes on this topic on her podcast Your Anxiety Toolkit, check it out! Sending lots of good vibes to you ?
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I'm trying really hard to keep my OCD out of my bedroom. My OCD has been a lot worse for the past 6 months and being intimate can be scary. For me, I get anxious thinking about it because I get scared that I'll have an intrusive thought (then the rumination cycle begins on why I'd be scared of sex with my wife if 1 3 years). But once I'm in the situation I try to be present and if an intrusive thought comes up, I breathe acknowledge accept and move on. Sometimes it's easier, sometimes it's not.
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Maybe try to think about the thoughts while not having sex or masturbating and become a little more comfortable with the presence of the thoughts. Once you become a little more comfortable with them, try out some things and if the thoughts come up just sit with anxiety. You can slowly progress it but I can assure you the more you sit with anxiety and let it be while doing your thing the better it becomes
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Thank you all!! ?
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I'm not sure but I just came here to day I relate. Masturbation has become a difficult thing to do. Constantly interrupted with thoughts and feel anxious before doing it.
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I’ve been feeling the urge to avoid intimacy or purposefully engage (for reassurance that I won’t give into a compulsion) because of intrusive thoughts and fear that I’ll “check/test” my reactions. My OCD is making me so scared that I’ll purposefully think of a child and try to see if I like it. It’s so complicated but I guess I’m mentally checking if I would mentally check during intimacy. I’ve even envisioned myself checking and it’s making me so nauseous. I know it’s a compulsion like any other but the sound of “touching yourself to the thought of a child” sounds atrocious and vile. I’m terrified I’ll automatically start checking next time I am being intimate. I truly feel so worried. If anyone has gone through something similar, I’d appreciate hearing your experience. Or if anyone has any advice?
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+18 only!! TW for sexual content!! (This might be TMI, but I need advice) So, this is kinda embarrassing, but I haven't been able to self-pleasure without feeling shame or guilt. It's so bad that I've just stopped altogether, but I don't want to avoid it. It was something I enjoyed and was comfortable with, and now, because of OCD, it just makes me feel... gross. It's a perfectly normal and healthy thing to do, but my mind just tries to convince me that it's wrong. Had anyone else dealt with this? It's not a huge issue, but I'm tired of unnecessary shame. :(
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I don’t know if my hormones are extra wild this month or what, but I have been having so many POCD thoughts lately. It feels like I enjoy them in the moment, and then a few seconds later, I get this tiny flicker of *wait I don’t think I actually want to enjoy that.* It’s scaring me a lot. I was watching adult videos for the first time in about a year, since I had been avoiding them because of my OCD. I know they are not good for anyone, but I felt like i could (ironically it felt like a tiny win that my OCD had calmed down enough). But while watching, I had like 3 separate POCD thoughts. And it felt like I liked them. Like genuinely *liked* them. I don’t know if maybe my body was mixing up physical pleasure and mental pleasure, and then my brain inserted those not okay thoughts into the situation, which got tangled up with the pleasure responses I felt mentally and physically. It is all really confusing. I just feel so scared. I know OCD thoughts are supposed to feel real, and that once you get desensitized to the anxiety, they lose their power. But this feels like I am *actually enjoying* the thoughts, and that makes me want to cry. I’m scared that I actually like these thoughts when I’m really aroused :( Please help.
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