How do people continue to have intimacy and pleasure with Pure O (with themes that centre around sexual intrusive thoughts)? I haven’t had sex in a very long time but I obviously want to.... I’m struggling to figure out how to approach intimacy again. I can’t even pleasure myself without my OCD acting up. Please share some tips and stories!

Hi everyone I could really use some help on this topic. It’s hard to admit and talk about but after being on here I see that I’m not the only one! Still I would love some support and advice with how to deal with those unwanted sexual thoughts. For me it’s so uncomfortable and honestly gross when sexual thoughts get out of hand with normal people and also do extremely out of hand that even loved ones get involved. Like when I watch tv and all of a sudden I have these gross thoughts that I know if I accept they will go away but how can you accept something so gross? Would love some help!

Anyone have any advice for dating with OCD? Specifically the more taboo themes like POCD, incest ocd zoophilia ocd, harm ocd etc. I’ve never really dated in my life and the thought of approaching these conversations with people not in the ocd community is kind of scary

Hey guys, I was hoping to get some guidance on what to do in this frustrating situation: My boyfriend doesn’t want to have sex with me and refuses all advances because of my OCD (flashbacks and intrusive thoughts sometimes lead me to dissociate or panic). I’ve only now started to get help so I’m new to NOCD, but my boyfriend thinks it’s best to completely cut off sex until I get better. He’s an angel for wanting to put me first and having self control, but I have been frustrated with this because I desire to have sex even if I have to practice my exposures. My therapist is unsure at the moment as well and is asking a trauma therapist what to do about this situation, but I was wondering if anyone can give me some advice. I want to convince him that it’s okay to have sex with OCD and even if I panic I’m confident I can push through it and get better with practice. I’ve never felt more unwanted and rejected. I know he’s doing this for me, but it seems like he’s completely uninterested now and I’m starting to think he doesn’t want to deal with me panicking because he already has so much else going on in his life. He makes me feel like having sex with him would make his day worse because he’d have to “take care” of me. I’ve expressed this to him (we have a super healthy communication dynamic), but he says we should just keep waiting. PLEASE give any advice possible for this situation!! I can’t even do things on my own because I start thinking about how rejected I feel by him. Thanks in advance!