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We got this! I just feel horrible. But I’m glad I’m not alone ❤️
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Also I looovvveee the UK so much!
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Awwww? it’s not all that honestly
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I relate in the sense that my biggest advocate was my best friend of 10 years and bc of ocd and bpd I drove her away.. she was like a big sister to me and rly the only family I felt I had left sometimes... I wish you the best.
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I relate. I love my mum (sorry british hahahah) but I find I get most angry at her. She doesn’t deserve it. I also question my morals and love a lot so it doesn’t help. I guess we spend so much time anxious, that we become irritated so easily. And we take it out on those closest to us. Don’t beat yourself up over this. Use how you’re feeling now as maybe a way to be more conscious. I’ll do it too! We can change.
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I can relate so much to this post that it’s crazy. Growing up I was never a good child. I was spoiled, rude, and entitled. Everybody makes mistakes, we all say and do dumb shit when we’re mad and then regret it later. I would apologize to your mom if I were in your shoes, and then forgive myself. You can’t change if you’re constantly beating yourself up. If you’re mom is being too loud, just leave the room or plug in some earphones (that’s what I do). If you want to say something, think of what could happen if you do. You know what I realized a while ago? Is that my siblings feel the same way I do (annoyed at stuff our parents do), but the difference is that they don’t react. Even though something is annoying the hell out of you, don’t react (I know that’s hard, trust me). My mom is naturally loud, so is my dad, no matter what I say and do is not gonna change that. So just let it be. If it can’t be changed by words the first or second time, then let it be. If you got more questions about what I’m doing to change then just feel free to ask :)
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Thank you so much! I have apologized deeply to my mom, so the next step is forgiving myself. Do you have any ideas on how to let myself forgive me? It’s really hard with ocd :)
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Let yourself know that you are who you are and that there are things in life that are going to trigger your anger or your sadness and that it’s okay. It’s okay that I got angry over this, but it’s not okay how I acted. Forgive yourself. You’re human, we all make mistakes over and over. Instead of hating yourself, learn from them and move on. There’s something that I’m starting to live by and it’s : “whatever happened, happened.” Which means that no matter what you try to do and say, you will never be able to change the past. So instead stop obsessing over what you DID and start thinking of what you will DO the next time something triggers you. And don’t expect to succeed the first time, or the second time, or the third time.
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@sillybilly Thank you, I really appreciate your advice! :)
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@Lou_lourocks Ye anytime
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My favorite “ocd” song is Human by Rag’n’Bone Man... it says how we are human and always make mistakes.
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I love that song! I was just listening to it the other day! It hits different lol
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Listen, I totally get it. It’s hard to hear a loved one obsessing over small, insignificant things. My mom tries to be supportive, but she gets so mad when I tell her what’s on my mind, and she just yells at me and says I’m crazy for thinking like this. So, I just sent her this, and I hope it helps: Mom, I know it’s really hard, but when I’m suffering with OCD thoughts, all I need is sympathy. Getting mad at someone for having OCD is like getting mad at someone for having a head injury. Please understand that I can’t help it, or else I would stop it. I need someone to say, “I’m so sorry that’s bothering you this much. It must be so overwhelming. It must be so hard to cope with this.” You could even ask me questions, like “What does it feel like? How much are you thinking about this? What helps you feel better?” I just need someone to validate my experience and sympathize, not tell me that I’m crazy or say my problems aren’t real. I’m aware these thoughts are crazy — that’s why I feel so alone and sad and scared. When you tell me my thoughts are crazy, it makes me feel even more like a freak. Sometimes, I just need someone to hold my hand and tell me I’m not alone.
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I had like a really bad argument with my mom basically about her complaining about my “attitude” and “constant arrogance” like okay firstly 😭 yes i do have an attitude and am irritable but im not THAT bad 😭🙏 she was saying that im a “pest” and that “its not enjoyable to live with someone who makes other people miserable” like 😅🧍♀️ oh ☺️ and then i tell her that i know im struggling and that im going to therapy to try to get better and trying to possibly get a diagnosis and she says “your generation just wants something to deal with. You want something to be wrong with you. ‘Trying to get better’ isn’t good enough… would you be able to stand someone like yourself? You’re just choosing this antisocial, narcissistic behaviour and harass everyone… You need to pull yourself together. No matter how much effort we put into you, you will never be happy. You want some medicine? Some diagnosis? Because that will solve everything?” 😭😭😭 and the way she said “some medication”- she sounded so disgusted and appalled and now i feel ashamed… i mean im not officially diagnosed with ocd and it is never my intention to self diagnose- but im sorry its VERY obvious when you have ocd and know of ocd- its so distinct. Everything- the compulsions, reassurance, intrusive thoughts, themes, patterns, perfectionism- but she has me overthinking- what if i dont have ocd 😭 and ive just been lying to myself and everyone maybe its not ocd and im just sick in the head or trying to self sabotage- and especially when my supposed ocd is calm or not as loud i get so anxious “what if i dont have ocd…”
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there’s currently tension between the members of my family and it’s not only making me stressed, but it’s giving me really bad anxiety. the situation that’s happening is the byproduct of feelings being held in for years on end finally coming out. the situation doesn’t really have to do with me directly but more indirectly. it’s more so between my brother and my mom. and i’m really close with both. i also am home when i’m not at college. anyways, the issue is my harm ocd is latching onto it. lately, if i don’t like someone’s personality or they do something wrong, my harm ocd will latch onto that. this situation it happens to be my mom. but it’s also been my mom for a little bit now because she has faults that she refuses to acknowledge. my ocd is making me believe i hate my mom and so on. and i don’t hate my mom, but there are times where i really dislike her and how she handles situations, like this one. but i hate being at college more than i would hate to go home and i always love being home. it’s just this situation is making my harm ocd not great, making me not want to go home. furthermore, my contamination ocd gets triggered because of my harm ocd as i get nauseous so then i spiral. anyways, i apologize for rambling but i just need either some words of advice or support if anyone wouldn’t mind :)
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