c444tmommy
- Date posted
- 5y
pureolifepureolife
- Date posted
- 5y
Distance is often difficult for people in relationships. Think about long distance relationships: the first thing people say about them most of the time is how hard they are. Support each other in whatever way you can. And remind each other that it’s okay if you’re both frustrated with the distance right now or feeling out of sync with each other. Things can improve again once this is over. In the meantime, this is a great opportunity to improve communication. Talk about the needs you both have and which of them aren’t being met. Brainstorm how you can change that or at least provide compassion and understanding for each other about those unmet needs for the time being.
c444tmommyc444tmommy
- Date posted
- 5y
thank u so much! it’s harder when u have rocd because simple things can often turn into catastrophic thinking and make u feel like ur whole relationship is falling apart when it’s rlly not and everything is normal.
Brooke182Brooke182
- Date posted
- 5y
Im so late to this but I go to college in a different state while my boyfriend works in our hometown. We are a bit used to the distance but its still hard. Distance really does make the heart grow fonder and we always said that the day we got to see each other again would make all the waiting worth it. The best thing we ever did was schedule calls. We would both be busy during the day so at 9pm we facetime and play games on our phones (imessage games) with each other and talk about our days. Communication can be be hard but as long as you make time to talk to each other and try and find little things to do together, like Netflix party mode or playing games and talking, you will be just fine! At the end of the day if you have real feelings for someone you can get through times like this together! and its okay to question things or overthink and worry so long as you’re communicating that. I have thoughts like that all the time but my boyfriend knows how my brain works and he can help give a little extra reassurance. So just be open and talk about your thoughts good or bad!
flowergirlglowflowergirlglow
- Date posted
- 5y
It’s normal ❤️ my partner and I haven’t seen each other for months bc of this and we fought a lot more at the start too. It’s harder to feel affection when you can’t touch/kiss/etc. Do you ever feel scared that quarantine is gonna make you fall out of love? That’s my fear. Stay strong, and remember that this will pass and we will all find relief someday if we stick through it!
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- 23w
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- 11w
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- Date posted
- 10w
boyfriend is lagging
okay so i know that my boyfriend gets busy and i am usually checking my phone ALL THE TIME. like i am just that kind of person. but sometimes my boyfriend doesn’t reply to me for a bit and it makes me sad. he lags a lot, and it makes me mad when he doesn’t reply for a long time. we text and stuff but he doesn’t text me as much as he used to. and it stresses me out and i worry that it’s a red flag, or if it’s my OCD telling me to worry about it. i am the kind of person to say “actions speak louder than words “ and ive said that to him multiple times and he says he’s gonna work on things. it’s not like he doesn’t text me AT ALL, he texts me good morning everyday it’s just the lagging that makes me upset. so, is it my OCD telling me to worry about it or is it actually a concern?
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