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That person from that article probably has a social circle with alot of gay/bi/trans friends so they have confirmation bias. Over 95 percent of people identify as straight, so that person is expressing their biased opinion, not fact. So your not strange or odd for identying that way (not that any sexuality is strange, we all sit somewhere on the sliding scale of sexuality, no one is 100% gay or 100% straight) you just love your truth and except yourself for whatever you are (or aren't). Try and accept uncertainty and think no matter what you are...it's ok.
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Yes I was trying to say that, but I couldn’t remember what confirmation bias was for a second lol. But I totally agree. Sexuality is a spectrum just live it up no matter where you are.
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That’s their opinion. People do try things, but not everyone wants to or does and I don’t think you should be outed as a weirdo for being straight. I don’t think people realize what they say half the time and what implications it has. I know that article and it triggered me too, but I just had to remember that that is their interpretation of the world and what is “odd” and normal. I mean by that persons logic being completely gay would be odd too, which I don’t agree with. I personally believe that everyone is different and that you are your own normal. Some people try things some people don’t. No one is an odd ball.
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That helped a lot thanks. I mean I’m sure it would sound weird to someone else that a straight person feels odd, but today was just a bad day as a boy I liked just got a girlfriend and then seeing that and being triggered. I guess I feel like I have to be with girls now because I can never get dates with any guys
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@Madeline I was definitely at that point too. I just couldn’t get a boyfriend and I thought that it meant I had to be with girls, but I don’t. I just need to wait for the right person. I don’t really read those type of articles anymore because they are bias and opinion based. I mean I’m glad that lgbt people feel more comfortable and that people feel better about trying things in 2020, but I don’t think the people who aren’t interested in trying things or are straight should be penalized for it. We’re all different why not celebrate it instead point fingers and calling people weird
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Very true. And I agree that you need to wait for the right one. I had a boyfriend this year and it did not end well oof
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it’s not odd to be straight when most people are straight.
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i’m scared i’m bi and in denial and trying to convince myself im straight.
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Hi everyone, I’ve been really anxious lately, and I just need to get this out of my head. Someone recently told me that maybe I’m bisexual — that I might be more sexually attracted to women, but more romantically attracted to men. That bisexuality is not 50/50. And ever since I heard that, I’ve been spiraling. The thing is: I don’t want this to be true. It scares me. I don’t feel romantic attraction to women, I’ve never wanted to be in a relationship with one. But yes, I get aroused by fantasies involving women — and that makes me feel broken or like I’ve been lying to myself. I love my boyfriend deeply, I don’t want to lose him. I want to feel fully connected to him, physically and emotionally. But now I’m stuck in this obsessive loop of questioning: “What if I’m just in denial?” “What if I’m not really straight?” “What if this is why my libido is low?” It’s exhausting, and I don’t know if this is OCD, anxiety, or if something is fundamentally wrong. Has anyone else felt this split — romantic feelings for one gender, sexual feelings for another? I feel so alone and scared. Thanks for listening.
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I was wondering if this also happened to anyone. I grew up very open-minded and allowed myself to question my sexuality when I was younger. I explored feelings for both genders and attraction to them from afar, because I didn't have any friends or experiences to guide me through them. When I started dating, I was open to both but slowly and surely naturally phased out women. It always felt performative, like pretending to be upset they didn't respond, choosing who to be attracted to, and while present with them, wanting to back away or feeling a level of discomfort. When my SO-OCD started, these experiences made it very difficult to navigate the anxieties and intrusive thoughts. My thoughts often circled back to the idea that if I wasn't attracted to women, I wouldn't have tried to in the first place. This type of thought is like a Catch-22. On one hand, I am surveying my past actions or memories for any signs of true attraction or trying to pick at moments where I could prove that I was actually uncomfortable. On the other hand, the thought of being uncomfortable with a moment is tainted in my brain because of the idea that I could just be in denial. Any emotion I've ever had gets scrutinized in hindsight, making it feel like any way in which I feel is wrong. SO-OCD has been particularly difficult because of the fact that I've never been pejorative towards being queer or the LGBTQ+ community. It goes against my own values whether or not I am actually queer or actually straight. I remember growing up in an environment (whether school, family, or friends) that was always lined with prejudice towards any type of outsider - OCD makes me feel ashamed for my own want to understand any group or background different from my own. Essentially, I wanted to know if that's also something that plagues others with SO-OCD. For me, no matter what side of the fence I fall on my OCD rewrites it as bad: Either I'm in denial and lying to everyone even though they already secretly know, or I'm a homophobe. Sometimes they even mix. It doesn't make any sense.
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