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That person from that article probably has a social circle with alot of gay/bi/trans friends so they have confirmation bias. Over 95 percent of people identify as straight, so that person is expressing their biased opinion, not fact. So your not strange or odd for identying that way (not that any sexuality is strange, we all sit somewhere on the sliding scale of sexuality, no one is 100% gay or 100% straight) you just love your truth and except yourself for whatever you are (or aren't). Try and accept uncertainty and think no matter what you are...it's ok.
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Yes I was trying to say that, but I couldn’t remember what confirmation bias was for a second lol. But I totally agree. Sexuality is a spectrum just live it up no matter where you are.
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That’s their opinion. People do try things, but not everyone wants to or does and I don’t think you should be outed as a weirdo for being straight. I don’t think people realize what they say half the time and what implications it has. I know that article and it triggered me too, but I just had to remember that that is their interpretation of the world and what is “odd” and normal. I mean by that persons logic being completely gay would be odd too, which I don’t agree with. I personally believe that everyone is different and that you are your own normal. Some people try things some people don’t. No one is an odd ball.
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That helped a lot thanks. I mean I’m sure it would sound weird to someone else that a straight person feels odd, but today was just a bad day as a boy I liked just got a girlfriend and then seeing that and being triggered. I guess I feel like I have to be with girls now because I can never get dates with any guys
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@Madeline I was definitely at that point too. I just couldn’t get a boyfriend and I thought that it meant I had to be with girls, but I don’t. I just need to wait for the right person. I don’t really read those type of articles anymore because they are bias and opinion based. I mean I’m glad that lgbt people feel more comfortable and that people feel better about trying things in 2020, but I don’t think the people who aren’t interested in trying things or are straight should be penalized for it. We’re all different why not celebrate it instead point fingers and calling people weird
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Very true. And I agree that you need to wait for the right one. I had a boyfriend this year and it did not end well oof
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it’s not odd to be straight when most people are straight.
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trigger warning!!!!!! I’m really scared right now. I’ve been reading Elle Warren’s articles about her experience with HOCD/SO-OCD, and it feels so similar to mine. She went through the same fears of being a lesbian, felt distressed by her attraction to women, and spent hours ruminating, Googling, and analyzing her feelings. She even experienced groinal responses and revisited old memories, just like I do. Eventually, she had a moment of realization in college when she flirted with a girl, and everything clicked. She now identifies as a lesbian. I’m terrified that the same thing will happen to me. I thought the OCD fears were supposed to never be true and that HOCD thoughts are usually just compulsions that don’t end up being real. But reading her story, it’s like I’m seeing my own experience mirrored. What if it clicks for me, just like it did for her? What if I realize that I am a lesbian? Elle’s story makes me so scared. I thought my feelings of attraction to women were just OCD-driven, and now I’m questioning everything. I thought I was straight, but now, reading her journey, I’m wondering: could my OCD fears actually be real? Elle’s experience was very similar to mine: • She got distressed when she thought she might like women, not relieved. • She spent a lot of time ruminating, Googling, analyzing, and comparing. • Her attraction to women only became intense when her OCD flared up. • She said things like, “I feel peace when I believe I’m straight.” • She had already been diagnosed with OCD and had a history of this pattern. After years of fear and distress, Elle had a moment of calm and realized that it was true. I’m scared that this could happen to me too. Will I have a similar moment of acceptance, where everything clicks and I realize I’m gay? Or will I come to accept that this is all OCD, and that I’m straight, with the possibility that I’m not? I also keep thinking back to when my OCD lessened the first time. Did I go back to men because I wasn’t actually attracted to women, or was it just because the grip of the OCD had loosened? Elle also talked about the shame associated with non-heterosexuality. She mentioned that, like many of us, she had internalized stigma around being gay, and that it made her fear the possibility of being non-heterosexual. I can relate to this so much—growing up, I never saw it as an option to be anything other than straight, and now it’s hard to shake that fear and shame. Elle mentioned that she found reassurance in seeing other people with HOCD who worried that their fears would come true, but eventually realized they were just OCD thoughts. That idea is comforting, but also a little scary, because what if that moment of realization happens for me too? What if I finally accept that I am a lesbian? Or, what if I’m just struggling with OCD and eventually realize I’m straight? I just don’t know. The scariest part is that, just like Elle, I feel like I don’t have any obvious signs. She had no idea she was a lesbian until one day, everything clicked. She was 21, just like me when my OCD fears really flared up, and she had a breakthrough moment in Denver when she made friends with lesbians. That hasn’t happened for me yet, and it’s terrifying to think that it could happen in the future. I don’t know what’s going to happen, but I’m really scared about where this will lead.
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i’m scared i’m bi and in denial and trying to convince myself im straight.
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Hi everyone, I’ve been really anxious lately, and I just need to get this out of my head. Someone recently told me that maybe I’m bisexual — that I might be more sexually attracted to women, but more romantically attracted to men. That bisexuality is not 50/50. And ever since I heard that, I’ve been spiraling. The thing is: I don’t want this to be true. It scares me. I don’t feel romantic attraction to women, I’ve never wanted to be in a relationship with one. But yes, I get aroused by fantasies involving women — and that makes me feel broken or like I’ve been lying to myself. I love my boyfriend deeply, I don’t want to lose him. I want to feel fully connected to him, physically and emotionally. But now I’m stuck in this obsessive loop of questioning: “What if I’m just in denial?” “What if I’m not really straight?” “What if this is why my libido is low?” It’s exhausting, and I don’t know if this is OCD, anxiety, or if something is fundamentally wrong. Has anyone else felt this split — romantic feelings for one gender, sexual feelings for another? I feel so alone and scared. Thanks for listening.
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